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Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by anthoniaz(f): 7:44am On Mar 11, 2015
You have not met your man yet.
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by DjAndroid: 7:45am On Mar 11, 2015
Tell him from day one and expect him to run away. If he runs away, good! If he remains, better.
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by angrybird007: 7:45am On Mar 11, 2015
Seems the police are also defecting to APC
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by goldonome(m): 7:45am On Mar 11, 2015
Right from the day the guy starts toastin u....let him know about u including ur past...from there he ll decide...atleast u won't be in pain if he decline since he.s just askin u out
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by lumzybo: 7:45am On Mar 11, 2015
missterious:
Eeyah. Then you chill na. Marriage is not by force.

What is this 1 saying? undecided u wan make I tear u e-slap. Don't u knw loneliness kills faster than ebola.

Op, u don't av to hide it. Tell from day 1.

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Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Alexcollins(m): 7:47am On Mar 11, 2015
make it clear to them from the beginning.

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Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Nobody: 7:47am On Mar 11, 2015
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Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Euckybaby(f): 7:48am On Mar 11, 2015
I don't know what to say but it is well.. Take it to the Lord in prayer. With God all things are possible
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Nobody: 7:48am On Mar 11, 2015
yahx:
Please read and share your thoughts.....................

''I'm a divorced lady. My marriage to my ex was based on lots of deceit with
both physical and emotional abuse. The only option was just for it to be
dissolved. Mind you I prayed and fasted but water could not just hold. I
had to question God for putting me through such pain and trauma but I guess his plan for me was for good.

But my problem now is each time I meet someone nice and I mention to hi that I'm divorced, the relationship ends. He'll apologize and say I've done
nothing wrong, I have a good personality but he knows his family will not accept me cos of my marital status.

It makes me cry a lot. I'm the quiet
type and keep to myself a lot. I've tried talking to some people and they
advice I stop telling them am divorced.

But how will I keep such a thing away from someone that has maybe
professed love to you even when the person has gone to the extent of
telling you he'll like to spend the rest of his life with you?

My conscience won't let me but I don't know again the right thing to do.

Right now I feel lonely and frustrated, no boyfriend or man to call my
own. Scared of loving again because I don't want to fall in love and be
told same thing.

I just want to know how to go about it, open up or don't even talk about
it.''
If you don't tell its the worst. There tribes that such isn't an issue for them. mostly the Niger delta people. so I suggest you always center your acceptance list on these group. personally men from Igbo nation would find it difficult to marry a formerly married woman mostly if they have not married before. South south? its not an issue for them.

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Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Nobody: 7:48am On Mar 11, 2015
passionate88:
Op, any child from the former marriage?. Are they staying with you?. Are you a working class or a business woman?.
advice is all d op asked for, why d interview? u wan marry her?

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Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Nobody: 7:49am On Mar 11, 2015
The man that will accept her for who she is where are they?
A man who is divorced easily gets married again, while a divorced lady may end up not getting married for the rest of her life.As much as I love open convo, i won't tell any man after several bitter experience . Once we are married, I will open up after some yrs.Hard decision though.
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by zulu4bravo: 7:49am On Mar 11, 2015
Welllllll.....I will advice u don't stop telling them..tell them any one dat has come to stay will definately stay...if u don't open up there will problem at d long run...God is ontop of ur situation.
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by aariwa(m): 7:50am On Mar 11, 2015
LadyX:
Op, are you a lady?

Back to topic. Don't wait for too long or to get attached before saying the truth. If I were you, I would probably say it on day one.
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Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Nobody: 7:50am On Mar 11, 2015
yommyphresh:
Whoever can't accept you for who you are should just swerve. Don't ever lie about your status, make it clear from the very first day cos lying about it isn't just the right thing to do. What if you lie about it and he finds out later? That could lead to another divorce if you're already in another marriage.

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Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Nobody: 7:51am On Mar 11, 2015
LadyX:
Op, are you a lady?

Back to topic. Don't wait for too long or to get attached before saying the truth. If I were you, I would probably say it on day one.
Do u read what op wrote at all? undecided abi y are u aaking if op is a lady?
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by missionmex(m): 7:51am On Mar 11, 2015
Someone that will love u for u will come. Keep being truthful and sincere.
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by ezeonwe: 7:51am On Mar 11, 2015
You are doing the right thing. But the truth is that people have their choices. You made a wrong choice earlier and you regreted it. The guys you came across also loved you by telling you they won't go as far as marrying you probably in what I will call," out of pity" when they do not really love you from the deep of their heart. It is better you endure it now than enduring in marriage. But do not give up take it to your God. Always tell them. That makes you trustworthy. Sooner than you expect, you shall find your right person.
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Nobody: 7:52am On Mar 11, 2015
If you must succeed then stop broadcasting your first marriage experience to anyone around you.......
Even your future husband must not know until you had your first issue with Him..........
Let Him be the one to discovered it, then you can apologise to Him and He will listen and forgive you cos it will be too late for Him to give up on you.........
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by adedayourt(m): 7:52am On Mar 11, 2015
LadyX:
Op, are you a lady?

Back to topic. Don't wait for too long or to get attached before saying the truth. If I were you, I would probably say it on day one.

Just as it aint a crime nor a disease to b divorced. Some guys jus av reservations bout divorceez
Advise you don't keep it frm suitors but open up early enof b4 goin too deep into relating jus like ladyx as said
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by 5p1naz(m): 7:52am On Mar 11, 2015
its all good sha
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Nobody: 7:53am On Mar 11, 2015
Amusaopeyemi:
Stop telling them.
Not everyone is matured, they keep judging you by your past. There is a reason it is called the past now.
nice jean uv got there.
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by passionate88: 7:53am On Mar 11, 2015
justified19:
advice is all d op asked for, why d interview? u wan marry her?
You go gree train another man children?, after marriage the husband and wife suppose to enjoy alone but if the children dey stay with her no alone time for the couple... You think say men no dey think those things too?.
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Nobody: 7:54am On Mar 11, 2015
MightyD:
If you must succeed then stop broadcasting your first marriage experience to anyone around you.......
Even your future husband must not know until you had your first issue with Him..........
Let Him be the one to discovered it, then you can apologise to Him and He will listen and forgive you cos it will be too late for Him to give up on you.........
hehehe!...bliv me, its neva too late for a man
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by mrham03(m): 7:55am On Mar 11, 2015
o.p, dont hide it from them, but i dont think u should tell them abt it from the beginning. Jux find the perfect opportunity to give out that information.
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by nedu2000(m): 7:56am On Mar 11, 2015
Divorce signifies you have a problem lving with guys....if yyou have a kid,that's extra luggage and makes tthings complicated....hope you find someone but that someone won't be me,sorry
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Nobody: 7:57am On Mar 11, 2015
Be opened,your man will come..

I know someone with 2 kids,she got married to another divorcee..

Relax,God is in control.
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Nobody: 7:58am On Mar 11, 2015
MightyD:
If you must succeed then stop broadcasting your first marriage experience to anyone around you.......
Even your future husband must not know until you had your first issue with Him..........
Let Him be the one to discovered it, then you can apologise to Him and He will listen and forgive you cos it will be too late for Him to give up on you.........

EXACTLY!
Although it's a selfish decision but seriously WHO DOES NT WANT HAPPINESS?
Once bitten twice shy,it's a tough decision because she would have to deceive the man, but I suggest she confesses after some years.Else, before she go see man wey go marry her with the truth go really hard.

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Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Nobody: 7:58am On Mar 11, 2015
Euckybaby:
I don't know what to say but it is well.. Take it to the Lord in prayer. With God all things are possible
tru talk baby

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Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Nobody: 8:02am On Mar 11, 2015
Everybody is saying your man will come, your man will come, na una go give her man?
The ones that came and left are they not her man before the revelation? As a mother, I will advice my daughter to KEEP HER MOUTH SHUT!!!Don't tell anybody, leave the secret between you and your God for now, when we get to that bridge after marriage, we shall pray to cross it.
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by mechanics(m): 8:02am On Mar 11, 2015
D only option is if d reason u gave 4 ur divorce is biblical, den ur mr right wil come one day, or if d man in question is dead den its ok, cos no reasonable man wil want to marry a divorcee, no mata wat u shud tel d man who loves u ur past, dats hw d relationship wil b strong n trust wil b there but if u hid ur past 4rm ur man to be n if he eventually knows, it wil take d grace of God 4 d man to forgive u, den u ave to pray to God 4 guidiance.
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by bigbams24: 8:03am On Mar 11, 2015
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lorbah001:
Keep telling......a true love will stay





Any true luv still dey?
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by XBLadez: 8:04am On Mar 11, 2015
It's just the difference between men and women. The percentage of a man not getting turned down after a divorce is higher than that of a woman. But then, for women, being divorced doesn't make u bad or second-hand. There are still many unmarried girls out there who are worse

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