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Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 11:19am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Bitojoe:What can be worst than going back there to be killed by the violent man? |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 11:20am On Mar 14, 2015 |
onoja12:Honey Pls don't quote me again I prefer people with reason quoting me so we can dialogue. Thanks a lot dear 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by SmooshCHN: 11:22am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Billyonaire:You got humor What you listed is what a Complete Husband should possess. As there is no perfect man on earth and only few striving to be, there is a problem here, how can it be solved with this type of man? Don't judge him because you don't know him only as the Wife's friend described. How can the issue be solved without breaking the marriage is my point of argument. I don't support abuse neither do I divorce. We don't know the whole story. 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by IYANGBALI: 11:22am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Rose2014:hey shut your fokn trap. There is what they call courtship,its meant for you to know your partner before signing the dotted lines,not just having good time together and fokn your life away and getting carried away by the size of his deek,his performance in bed,his bank account and beauty. If after courting a man/woman and you decided to still go ahead and marry him,you should be able to tolerate whatever you find there. There is no perfect ma/woman or marriage anywhere,marriage is full of ups and down,the watchword is tolerance,if you are not ready to tolerate don't even think of going inside. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 11:23am On Mar 14, 2015 |
SmooshCHN:You're not getting it. The man is not ready for any reconciliation between himself and the wife's mum. He's not ready for any prayer. The hatred he has for her didn't start when she asked the daughter to send him back to Nigeria. The mother only said that when he beat her up because she went to visit her own mother and came late. That man to me is irresponsible and a beast! 3 Likes |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by onoja12: 11:23am On Mar 14, 2015 |
of course when you have no respect for strangers how would you have respect for your husband.am sorry for that unfortunate man,that is if there is one Rose2014: |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 11:24am On Mar 14, 2015 |
rokiatu: If there is a girlfriend in the equation, then the formula for solving this equation must change. There is a third order formula for this equation now. The woman MUST employ damage control mechanism here. 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by SmooshCHN: 11:24am On Mar 14, 2015 |
IYANGBALI:True |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 11:26am On Mar 14, 2015 |
IYANGBALI:Biko biko biko don't insult me inugo? Do u think all d men & women that r being abused today saw that coming from the beginning? Anyway as u wish, may it be granted unto u. Peace 2 Likes |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Originalsly: 11:26am On Mar 14, 2015 |
The wife is helping to wreck her own marriage, home and the lives of the kids. This has nothing to do about him getting his papers. For whatever reasons ... he did not like his mother in law from jump. The wife knew that. She had to know that he was not going to the family dinner ... so it was like by force...if you don't show up I'll teach you a lesson and she did what she did....as you said..because "he disrespected her family". She has disrespected her husband and marriage...and to add salt to the wound...moved herself and 'her kids' to the root of the problem. She didn't move because he beat her...and injured the child...oh nooo...that was not reason enough....but not to show up for the family dinner?... all hell must break loose. They live abroad.....calling the police for a one time incident was not necessary ... he now has a police record that can affect his climbing the ladder or having more opportunities opened to him to better his life and that of his family if they get over this hurdle. I'm surprised he was not arrested and charged....maybe he was. On papers...if that's all he wanted then the wife has given him a golden opportunity for him to file for divorce on the grounds of abandonment....she has abandoned him by moving out. The wife is now suffering...no sex...no help to take care of the kids...and her mother is also feeling the pressure of child care and extras in her home...her regular routine is now all messed up....and most likely is trying to send her daughter back to where she belongs. What can she do?...I guess try getting on her knees and start apologising to the husband. If he does accept her back she should know things not going to be the same......she has to do extra over time to bring the relationship back to the low level it was just before all this dinner drama. The End . 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 11:27am On Mar 14, 2015 |
onoja12:So upon all my 'abeg' u still quoted me again? There is god o |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by SmooshCHN: 11:28am On Mar 14, 2015 |
AgapeCharis:You only said that because the story is one sided. If you know women and arguments you will like to hear both parties before you judge. The man's ego is so visible because he has refused emotional blackmail from the mother. He made a big mistake of abuse earlier but presently the wife just packed out because of the rift between her husband and mother. You can read the story again. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by segzicres(m): 11:28am On Mar 14, 2015 |
the op and her friend are stupid. Did the man leave after getting his papers? did he bring another woman into the house after getting his papers? its the ops friend that left and people still think the man is wrong? a grown human has the right to dislike who ever he/she wants to. We nigerians love deceit, y'all want him to go and pretend. when a problem should be solved. he'll get there and be annoyed by the mothers every words and body movement. your friend need cane for her brain. fish brained thing. Mscheew 2 Likes |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Bitojoe(m): 11:28am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Rose2014: i dont think he's violent.is she her mother that she married or the man? I just wonder why most women had divorce spirit in them. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by adahgold(m): 11:29am On Mar 14, 2015 |
As for me the wife should go back to her husband,the husband and the wife's mon will sought out dere difference's one day.. Finally the wife should handover everything to God.. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Dlionsheart: 11:29am On Mar 14, 2015 |
I condemned the man for beating his wife and in the process, injured the little child. Apart from that, I support him for all his actions. He should never go to the mother-in-law to beg for the return of his wife or explain his actions. If they want to keep there daughter, goodluck. He is my real man but he should never abuse his wife again. As for you lady, you lied that this happened to your close friend when you're the one. This tell the kind of lady you are. Allowing your parents to have major say in your own home and expecting your husband to succumbed, pleads for mercy is unacceptable. GO BACK TO YOUR HUSBAND HOUSE OR STAY BACK AND FEEL THE SHAME FOREVER. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by IYANGBALI: 11:30am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Rose2014:fok off and remember to grow up. Marriage is not for babies,it requires prayers,patience and tolerance,keep dat in mind and spread the gospel 4 Likes |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by dinachi(m): 11:30am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Rose2014:I hate seeing people battered not just women. You will also have sons too and karma is also a bitch and never fails to act. Pls don't beat and emotionally hurt your husband cos he may silently kill you one day. Nobody has a monopoly of violence. I have questions for rokiatu, how come the husband only started beating her only after their marriage, when he never raised his hands on her all the while they were high school sweethearts. Besides the her mother is supposed to be a mother to them both. So if her son offends her, that is how she will behave? And you rokiatu how come she is revealing all her marital secrets to you? Are you her lesbian partner? And how many other people has she told? She seems the type that prefers to handle her marital issues with her people, friends and outsiders. She is just an overgrown kid. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by prophetfire: 11:30am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Leaving the house like that is wrong.getting ur man to love ur mum is by persuasion n nt by force.de mum disrespectfuly interfered in de marriage n I think de mum is lookin down on de man bcs its her daughter dt helped him.she shd nt let her mum spoil her marriage.her mum has hurt de man's ego n it will take time to heal.its nt by force.let her go bk to her home,allow de issue wit her mum to be fixed gradualy.you cnt force this type of issue n her mum shud show de guy som respect. 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 11:31am On Mar 14, 2015 |
segzicres:I guess u didn't read the part that the man is physically abusive. Abi u prefer for her to get killed so u can type RIP? Chose one |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by SmooshCHN: 11:31am On Mar 14, 2015 |
May God judge y'all if you help in breaking her marriage. Including @Rokiatu Help her get back first. Then the issue between her Mum and Hubby can be settled later. They were dating before he needed papers. If that's all he wanted he would've gone I think. I may not be totally right but don't let things get worse. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by IYANGBALI: 11:32am On Mar 14, 2015 |
dinachi:God bless you jare 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by MrMandilas: 11:34am On Mar 14, 2015 |
kandiikane:I will not go for her because i did not send her away. Paper or no paper. You don't look down on people u helped because u helped them. If am the man, because she prefared her mum to me, she should stay with her mum till she come to her senses. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by SmooshCHN: 11:34am On Mar 14, 2015 |
dinachi: That's what I was trying to say. The bolded is what the Mother in law ought to know. @Rose2014 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 11:35am On Mar 14, 2015 |
dinachi:My son should drop any lady that tries to go violent on him. He should drop her ass already instead of beating her cos one may end up killing the other. Violence? No no anytime whether male or female. Do u know someone can die from ordinary slap? |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by IYANGBALI: 11:35am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Rose2014:na lie,I know the man in question,he is as gentle as our President,the woman is just like mama peace |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 11:36am On Mar 14, 2015 |
SmooshCHN:Fair enough |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by ugwum007(m): 11:38am On Mar 14, 2015 |
I Ve not heard anywhere anytime that running away from a problem will solve it. God instituted marriage for a reason so the woman should go back to the husband... miracles happen... |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 11:39am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Bitojoe:U didn't read that the man has beaten her twice already. Good thing women are beginning to learn to move out quietly when the abuser least expects so he doesn't get a hint and kill her in the process |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by dinachi(m): 11:40am On Mar 14, 2015 |
IYANGBALI: |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by dinachi(m): 11:41am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Rose2014:Now you are talking! You are a well behaved woman, even online. I respect that. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 11:42am On Mar 14, 2015 |
dinachi:Awww thanks love |
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