nalijah07:

And women, do you feel like your man is weak if he allows you to be too independent in the relationship?

nalijah07:

And women, do you feel like your man is weak if he allows you to be too independent in the relationship?

iice:

A mixture of both.  He has to know when to allow me be and when to hold me back.

bluespice:

i dont like the sound of submissive
it leaves a bad taste in my mouth
i like a man that understands
a man that wouldnt let me have my way everytime simply because my way isnt always the right way
and a man that would let me have my way when its the best possible option
though the sound of my again doesnt ring right
it should be an 'our way' not anybody's individual way

okay too much english
basically a nice balance between the two
tho illd rather not have submissive
it should be more of cooperative

JJYOU:

forget the "s" word. think of the word partnership and team. teams play together for a better life. most people work against themselves in relationships over silly things mostly because they never learnt the act of enjoying living by themselves in the first place. as that song says the heart you hurt may be your own.

nalijah07:

A guest called into the Michael Baisden show this week and said that the reason she has to be so bossy and independent in her relationship is because her man does not step up to the plate and take the lead. She said that she feels like she has to wear both the pants and the skirt in the relationship.

Someone else called in and said that his sister usually picks weak men to date also, but that her relationships never lasts because she gets bored with those weak minded men as well.

The host of the show was actually trying to convince women that they would get more out of their relationships if they were submissive instead of being bossy and too independent. ALL of the bossy women said that they had no choice but to be bossy because the men were so weak.

JJYOU:

forget the "s" word. think of the word partnership and team. teams play together for a better life. most people work against themselves in relationships over silly things mostly because they never learnt the act of enjoying living by themselves in the first place. as that song says the heart you hurt may be your own.

HeatFusion:

No matter which way you wish to see it, there still needs to be independence and submission in a relationship.
Teams play together, true. So at times, one needs to submit to the other's choice.
Lol, hate to admit this, but in a team, there's always a leader. And men ( ) will continue to be the captain in the relationship.
So they do need to learn to submit to their wife's choice/interest at times and vice versa.

Now, when it comes to independence, that's crucial.
One cannot always rely on his/her spouse to get something done.
It becomes quite annoying and irritating.
A man that can't cook for himself while his wife is out, is quite a sad case

bluespice:

i want to talk on the highlighted bit.
if u have ever been in a team where all the members are in perfect sync both with eachother and with the objectives of the team,
ull realise that the position of team leader is merely ceremonial
a team leader despite being the leader cannot boss the other members around the most u can do is provide suggestions since being the team leader does not necessarily mean u are the best there is at all tasks.

HeatFusion:

No matter which  way you wish to see it, there still needs to be independence and submission in a relationship.
Teams play together, true. So at times, one needs to submit to the other's choice.
Lol, hate to admit this, but in a team, there's always a leader. And men ( ) will continue to be the captain in the relationship.
So they do need to learn to submit to their wife's choice/interest at times and vice versa.

Now, when it comes to independence, that's crucial.
One cannot always rely on his/her spouse to get something done.
It becomes quite annoying and irritating.
A man that can't cook for himself while his wife is out, is quite a sad case -

bluespice:

thank you!
a relationship isn't about exerting authority or flexing the controlling muscles,
its about enjoying the other's company
how then can u enjoy ur partner's company when all the time ur thinking "who's in control now?"i want to talk on the highlighted bit.
if u have ever been in a team where all the members are in perfect sync both with eachother and with the objectives of the team,
ull realise that the position of team leader is merely ceremonial
a team leader despite being the leader cannot boss the other members around the most u can do is provide suggestions since being the team leader does not necessarily mean u are the best there is at all tasks.

HeatFusion:

LOLOL, when I said a team leader, I don't mean one who bosses the other around. That's childish.
As ceremonial as the position of the leader is, you have to realize that once things get out of control, a leader sees to it that everything goes back in accordance.
Take marriage for an example: a husband or a wife (depends on which one is the leader in that area) will make sure that the family atleast have a family meeting to talk things through. What is needed in the house, what problem surrounds each person and how they can all work it out. The captain makes sure the family prays together. A family that prays together stays together AND fights together.

The woman, as a captain, makes sure that her family is fed when she's home and when she's not home. The woman, as a captain, makes sure her children are doing the right thing at home, outside the house, and in school.
The woman, as a captain, makes sure her house is well kept and clean.
And as the overhead captain of the house, the man makes sure that his wife and children are on the safe side and that everything is well to keep his family together.

Women who wants to depend on their partner financially WILL need to give him the wheels in the relationship.
If your man is responsible and you trust him, when things goes in awry, you'll need to submit to him to do the right thing.
It does not mean you, as his partner, are just going to sit there. You'll do anything you can to help, but at the same time, you gotta listen to him to get things back in the right order.

I've come to realize that submission is actually not quite as cruel as it sounds, when respect and good communication is applied.

JJYOU:

there is more to life than food. love in a healthy relationship doesn't seek after its own. Love is being kind to one another as the bible says

JJYOU:

relationships are meant to bring out the best of us not the worse. the world is not all black and white. there is a colour called grey.

JJYOU:

i personally believe the best money you spend is on relationship counselling. i am not talking about that uncle or church counselling but independent counselling. most of us carry an unhealthy gabage we need to drop before it sinks us.

Tranngirls:

I think in any relationship there is always a leader and a follower, in nigeria and most of africa it is the men. I think for most women we arent dominant in nature so we cant stand weak men. [b]We need to be dominated but with a touch of care as well and we love the men that can dominate us with our crazy behaviours. [/b]When i mean dominate i mean of the mind not strength mind strength

biina:

Neither. I prefer cooperative