Your best friend may be like a sister to you, and you guys don't keep secrets from each other, but when it comes to marriage, you'll need to keep your lips sealed on some things.

Imagine sharing a very private matter about your marriage with your friend, and you hear it from someone else who shouldn't know. How would you feel?

While some things may constitute interesting gist topics, there are some that you should never ever let slip where your marriage is concerned.


1.How much your spouse makes: A lot of couples already compete - who drives a better car? Whose house is bigger? If you then reveal how much your husband earns, friends may categorize you unfairly. You wouldn't want friends to write off your issues as unimportant because they believe you make too much money to have real problems -- or treat you with an air of superiority because they make more than you (although the best kinds of friends would do neither -- consciously, anyway). Maintain the balance in your friendship by keeping all financial discussions private.

2.Your spouse is being a jerk: Honestly, it feels good to vent to friends when your husband is driving you crazy and a little complaining is fine, but once you convince friends that your husband is a jerk, they're not going to forget it. You may make up or get over your epic fight, but your friend may not be able to forget quite so easily. In fact, it makes your friends lose respect for your husband.

3.Which of your friends your partner dislikes: Don't let marriage get in the way of a good friendship. If one of your close friend turns your husband off (or vice versa), don't tell her or him. In fact, don't even tell your other friends at all, especially if the affected pal didn't really do anything to deserve a bad rap.

4.The amount of your debt: Truth is, nearly every married couple has some debt, but how much or how little says a lot about your financial stability as a couple. Friends may feel resentful if you brag about how little debt you and your husband have accumulated over the years. If you complain that you have too much debt, friends may not invite you to their house party because they feel guilty that they're doing better. Don't give friends a reason to judge you.

5.Details about your sex life: It may be thrilling to compare notes with friends about your sex lives, but there are certain details that are best left out. For example, your partner's sexual fetishes, the size (and unofficial moniker) of his penis and any other tidbits you wouldn't want people to whisper about behind your back.

All in all, if siblings can betray one another, why then should you entrust your secrets with your friends. Be wise.

Good points. Hope those concern will learn from this.

Nice.

myhoodlink:
Good points. Hope those concern will learn from this.

Well unfortunately, the truth of the matter is most ladies are guilty of one or two of the points listed.
I just hope they learn from it.

He who has ears, let him hear.

simplemach:
He who has ears, let him hear.

They 'kuku' have ears, just that some cannot hold their tongues...

You should only keep PROFESSIONAL friends AT WIRK ONKY?
No need for personal friends while you are married! Nothing to discuss abeg oooooooooh!
I can't stoop so low!

before I got married, a senior married friend told me she does not keep friends, that they are detrimental to marriage and that her husband is her only friend.
I personally think that's a bit extreme. however like the op said be careful what you say to friends.

Jochebed7:
before I got married, a senior married friend told me she does not keep friends, that they are detrimental to marriage and that her husband is her only friend.
I personally think that's a bit extreme. however like the op said be careful what you say to friends.

Well, to an extent, you can't really blame your senior colleague. She must have probably had a bitter experience in the past and maybe she feels the only way to avoid recurrence is to stay away from friends. And when you say say some things to friends some times, it may be blown out of proportion or taken out of context.

Women are their own worst enemies.

lolaxavier:
Your best friend may be like a sister to you, and you guys don't keep secrets from each other, but when it comes to marriage, you'll need to keep your lips sealed on some things.

Imagine sharing a very private matter about your marriage with your friend, and you hear it from someone else who shouldn't know. How would you feel?

While some things may constitute interesting gist topics, there are some that you should never ever let slip where your marriage is concerned.


1.How much your spouse makes: A lot of couples already compete - who drives a better car? Whose house is bigger? If you then reveal how much your husband earns, friends may categorize you unfairly. You wouldn't want friends to write off your issues as unimportant because they believe you make too much money to have real problems -- or treat you with an air of superiority because they make more than you (although the best kinds of friends would do neither -- consciously, anyway). Maintain the balance in your friendship by keeping all financial discussions private.

2.Your spouse is being a jerk: Honestly, it feels good to vent to friends when your husband is driving you crazy and a little complaining is fine, but once you convince friends that your husband is a jerk, they're not going to forget it. You may make up or get over your epic fight, but your friend may not be able to forget quite so easily. In fact, it makes your friends lose respect for your husband.

3.Which of your friends your partner dislikes: Don't let marriage get in the way of a good friendship. If one of your close friend turns your husband off (or vice versa), don't tell her or him. In fact, don't even tell your other friends at all, especially if the affected pal didn't really do anything to deserve a bad rap.

4.The amount of your debt: Truth is, nearly every married couple has some debt, but how much or how little says a lot about your financial stability as a couple. Friends may feel resentful if you brag about how little debt you and your husband have accumulated over the years. If you complain that you have too much debt, friends may not invite you to their house party because they feel guilty that they're doing better. Don't give friends a reason to judge you.

5.Details about your sex life: It may be thrilling to compare notes with friends about your sex lives, but there are certain details that are best left out. For example, your partner's sexual fetishes, the size (and unofficial moniker) of his penis and any other tidbits you wouldn't want people to whisper about behind your back.

All in all, if siblings can betray one another, why then should you entrust your secrets with your friends. Be wise.

So on point

babyosisi:


So on point

Yes, very much on point.

Couldn't have said it better

lolaxavier:
Your best friend may be like a sister to you, and you guys don't keep secrets from each other, but when it comes to marriage, you'll need to keep your lips sealed on some things.
Imagine sharing a very private matter about your marriage with your friend, and you hear it from someone else who shouldn't know. How would you feel?
While some things may constitute interesting gist topics, there are some that you should never ever let slip where your marriage is concerned.

1.How much your spouse makes: A lot of couples already compete - who drives a better car? Whose house is bigger? If you then reveal how much your husband earns, friends may categorize you unfairly. You wouldn't want friends to write off your issues as unimportant because they believe you make too much money to have real problems -- or treat you with an air of superiority because they make more than you (although the best kinds of friends would do neither -- consciously, anyway). Maintain the balance in your friendship by keeping all financial discussions private.
2.Your spouse is being a jerk: Honestly, it feels good to vent to friends when your husband is driving you crazy and a little complaining is fine, but once you convince friends that your husband is a jerk, they're not going to forget it. You may make up or get over your epic fight, but your friend may not be able to forget quite so easily. In fact, it makes your friends lose respect for your husband.
3.Which of your friends your partner dislikes: Don't let marriage get in the way of a good friendship. If one of your close friend turns your husband off (or vice versa), don't tell her or him. In fact, don't even tell your other friends at all, especially if the affected pal didn't really do anything to deserve a bad rap.
4.The amount of your debt: Truth is, nearly every married couple has some debt, but how much or how little says a lot about your financial stability as a couple. Friends may feel resentful if you brag about how little debt you and your husband have accumulated over the years. If you complain that you have too much debt, friends may not invite you to their house party because they feel guilty that they're doing better. Don't give friends a reason to judge you.
5.Details about your sex life: It may be thrilling to compare notes with friends about your sex lives, but there are certain details that are best left out. For example, your partner's sexual fetishes, the size (and unofficial moniker) of his penis and any other tidbits you wouldn't want people to whisper about behind your back.
All in all, if siblings can betray one another, why then should you entrust your secrets with your friends. Be wise.

Anyone who doesn't already know these has no business getting married in the first place.

Not everything needs to be spelt out. The highlighted points are just basic common sense.

Or...?

EfemenaXY:


Anyone who doesn't already know these has no business getting married in the first place.

Not everything needs to be spelt out. The highlighted points are just basic common sense.

As basic as you think the points are, these are critical factors that have brought down many homes.