pls I need your help
since i gained admission into the university(2yrs
ago)ive been a porn addict.
I ave always try to stop this but to no avail
I need ur help, cos problem as cripped into my
social life I always try to avoid pple I stay
isolated and also my academics ever since I start
watching porn my academics as since taken a
downward trend
in my fellowship @ skul they said if I receive the
holy ghost It will stop but I still engage in this act
secretly
I've tried so many times to stop this evil way It
keeps raising its ugly head.
I really need your help to stop this pls my career,
my future is at stake here

You are already addicted to porn which has already led you to low self esteem.A lot of people are in this type of situation and they want a way out.First you have be determined in yourself that want to be free because anything you are addicted to smoking, sex, food drinking,has already become your master and you his slave. Avoid sites that are porn related even romantic films that has little sex subtility in it, avoid musicals that shows obsceneties. Secondly,learn to discipline yourself.thirdly learn to have healthy relationships especially members of your family,your friends.don't be in a secluded place, watch football with friends,in essence don't be idle. Addictions always start from thoughts that aren't checkmated on time which arises from loneliness and idleness.

FIVE KEY STEPS TO OVERCOMING PORN ADDICTION

1. Feel the consequences before they happen
Ever notice how, in the moments before you view porn, you are stuck in the moment? How you start thinking about how you're going to feel after viewing porn? How the excitement clouds out the reality of the exhaustion, disappointment, shame, or disgust you feel after viewing it?

Next time you feel tempted, for whatever reason, walk away from the computer or DVD or magazine and sit in another room – just for twenty seconds. Close your eyes and really focus on the memory of the reality of how you feel after a porn viewing session.




Focus in on the tiredness, the self-disgust and disappointment, the feeling of foggy-headedness. Get into the habit of doing this. It's like unmasking a seemingly attractive stranger and discovering the ugly reality. At this point, you may feel conflicted, as if you know you dont want to watch the born but you feel you have to. It's as if one part of your brain is trying to trick the rest of you.

So:

2. Challenge the porn thoughts!
Step two is to challenge the addictive part of your brain that tells you stuff like:

"It's not so bad; plenty of people do it!"

Challenge: You could tell yourself: "Yeah and plenty of people smoke!" Or: "I don't want to be like all those other people out there doing it!"

"It's okay, you only need do it for a few minutes; just have a look!"

Challenge that with something like: "Yeah sure, look how much time I waste usually. Time I would have used reading my books or talking to my friends or resting is what I am using to watch this shit. I know that you won't let me get away lightly! It's all or nothing!"

"Come on, you've had a difficult day. You deserve it!"

Challenge perhaps with: "Yeah and this would make it ten times worse! I need something that is really going to make me feel better about myself."

"Who's going to know? It doesn't matter!"

Challenge with something like: "Well, don't I matter? Because I'm going to know and anyway, others could find out!"

So, whenever you catch yourself trying to justify looking at porn, learn to challenge it. You can do this by first catching what the attempted temptations or whatever bullshit of your mind are that try to get you to view. Write these down, then write really good objections to them.