pls i would want a reasonable advice from you guys in the house on how to handle a cheating husband cos mine is something else. right now i am going through hell in all to save my home cos i wouldn't want my 1yr 4months old son to suffer cos he said if am going that i should not go with the child, NL what do you think i should do to keep my man home

- First thing i'ld advice you is to go for std/hiv test
- Sit him down and talk to him - tell him everything, especailly how you feel and all what you're going 2 do if he doesnt change
- If he still does not change, get his family involved - the older one e.g parents/uncles etc
- If he's still cheating, then you have to leave him and take ur child with you

If he's the sole financial provider, the last part will be hard but u gotta do it
Goodluck!!!

Sorry that you have to go through such ordeal.
However, it is sad that there alomost nothing you can do about it, till the man wake up one day to see the pain he is causing you, there is nothing you can do, so till the day he wakes up and see the pain and see the hurt, you might have to just pray for grace and patience to deal with it.
You could ask him what you are doing wrong, what you are lacking that is making him to look outside, ask him what you can do to be his best friend and for him to love you the way you ought to be loved.
Tell him he is hurting you and that he is ripping you apart, show him his child that the child needs a loving home, if nothing moves him, if you have what it takes, leave him and move on.

my Dears, Fhemmmy N Iboyi,
There is non of this things that i have not done 2 nites ago I called his mother and last nite i called his blood sister but nothing sees to work out, his mother said he has refuse to asnwer her call and he will not listening to them, i think u r right by going for those test so that i can know where to start from, and i even think i should get my family ppl invole now cos it has gotten to the stage of him teling me to go. but where do i start from with the baby. i am just too confuse now

I want to go now but i can not afford to rent an apartment now, i can not go back to my perent in the Village it will not make any sense, u know feeding my self and the child is not a big deal but geting accommodation in Lagos is the issue

U can now see why i am confuse

i tot someone said you can now kick out men from their homes in naija.

dont be confused. settle down and discuss this with people you love and take it from there.

another ugly son of nigeria

Well, i will say u should try and contact some lawyers, cos you should be entitled to child support and alimony.
He cant just kick you out like that without some form of compesations, tell him to settle you with accomodation and you will be gone.
And if he does, my dear sister, change your wardrobe, and look hot and i am sure he will come begging.
If you are educated, get a job and i am sure God will help you.

s

You need to pray without ceasing.
But you also have to be cautious so you dont get infected with any time bomb.
A cheating husband is a killer in waiting
But you have to apply wisdom & protect yourself

First, I sympathise with you in this marital stress'
You are already on course to solving the problem because you have discussed how you feel with him. Keep discussing with him. While you are doing this, don't fail to treat him nicely. Next, check yourself maybe there is a quality or characteristic which you are exhibiting or failing to exhibit which he is getting from the other woman. May be, both of you are workers and because of that you don't really have time for yourselves. Too much independence of husband and wife could lead to less attraction. You need to make out time to stay with your husband. You must communicate with him often. You should try to re-enact those things that brought both of you into marrying yourselves. Note that a man is polygamous in nature and as such you should tolerate his excesses while you look for a way to tame him. Don't be too confrontational with him. A man needs a woman that will pamper him like his mum. Therefore, do those things that will tend towards pampering him, that is why the woman is the home maker. I feel your pain but try these pieces of advice and watch what comes out of it. Cheer up, sister, it shall be well.