Dyt:
Duh!!!
Who says its hard to get suitors?

They keep rolling in in triple folds
U attract what u want biko
I know lots of single mums that men are pleading to marry them
Even singles never get that kain attention
Bikonu speak for yourself alone
Its no freaking challenge
Accept me with my baggage or take a long walk
No time to waste
*whistling*

It is not a challenge? Be deceiving yourself
And wiggle comes to mind

Dyt:
Duh!!!
Who says its hard to get suitors?

They keep rolling in in triple folds
U attract what u want biko
I know lots of single mums that men are pleading to marry them
Even singles never get that kain attention
Bikonu speak for yourself alone
Its no freaking challenge
Accept me with my baggage or take a long walk
No time to waste
*whistling*

It is not a challenge? Be deceiving yourself
And wiggle comes to mind

Fourwinds:
no not true. If u go to page 4 of dis tread u will see where i listed 4 cogent reasons y marrying a single mother might be dicey.

Dyt:
Duh!!!
Who says its hard to get suitors?

They keep rolling in in triple folds
U attract what u want biko
I know lots of single mums that men are pleading to marry them
Even singles never get that kain attention
Bikonu speak for yourself alone
Its no freaking challenge
Accept me with my baggage or take a long walk
No time to waste
*whistling*
And wiggle comes to mind

Naughtysite:



Single mums are simply women who misused their opportunites and still do not know what they want.. I know many of them. Suitors aren't their problems..

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Bamz:
I think it's time I spilled this.

I really don't think so. Maybe some are not just attractive enough or they're not really ready for re-marriage.

I'm having something to do with a Guyanese chick atm, she's a single mom, and she's as hot as they come. I personally won't mind her because of our soul attraction.

Most of them are usually not in a rush to get into a relationship so I doubt if 'challenge' is the right word... single moms are very cautious and sensitive when it comes to choosing new partners.

Dyt:


Chop kiss

KillerBeauty:
Getting married as a single mother is challenging because.....
















I seriously don't know what to say
Sorry op

kinibigdeal:
With 3-4 kids omotola still look dateable, at that age genevieve still look awesome. Some ladies even after giving birth, fail to package themselves, they simple make themselves look like waste bin. Having a child out of wedlock is not the problem, the problem is the wedlock in the appearance of the lady!!! Giving birth doesn't mean you should start dressing like my grand ma in the village :/

Timbuktuo:


Whatever happened to abstinence or contraception, etc. Bros, come and register in my adult school. There's a lot you're still to learn.

Fourwinds:
correct. Dats one very good point.
2. It will be funny to bring a girl with a kid to ur family and announce to dem u want to get weded except ur have urs already. AMANDIOHA.
3. U may have problem dealing with dat child once she/he grows up in d near future because he/she is not ur biological child.
4. Dis one is very deadly. Some women are not loyal at all. It is just like d case of a girl who will never forget d guy dat disvirgin her. Women are too emotional, d guy dat dump dem before dey find comfort in u can appear one day. Before u say Jesus, u will find her all over him and she is gone with d guy and d child. Dis one in particular, i fear women.

KillerBeauty:

I suppose your parents were not been paid for raising you yet if you ask them they will probably tell you that they enjoyed raising you from childhood to adulthood. You don't need to get paid for every job you do now. I doubt if you're been paid for being in this site right now. Some things are just worth it in the end

Viciyus:


My papa no marry single mother


My grandfather no marry single mother

My great grandfather no marry single mother

My fore fore father no marry single mother


My ancestors no marry single mother


Why I go come break the rule marry single mother?


Na course

zeusdgrt:
job,obligation,career and leisure are three different things mydear do check the meaning

KillerBeauty:

Yes I know. But there are different meaning of the word job. There is a "paid job" in which you work for money, a "task" which is a job you have to do and a "duty" which is a responsibility.
So you should know the one I was refering to in my post

zeusdgrt:
the word job entails financial gains for service that's y is diff from a career which is done for passion and a task is not recurrent in nature and more of a contract term while a duty tends to incline with a self impose will which is duly enforced by ones willingness or sometimes effective with stringent sanctions and default effects

Dyt:
Duh!!!
Who says its hard to get suitors?

They keep rolling in in triple folds
U attract what u want biko
I know lots of single mums that men are pleading to marry them
Even singles never get that kain attention
Bikonu speak for yourself alone
Its no freaking challenge
Accept me with my baggage or take a long walk
No time to waste
*whistling*
And wiggle comes to mind

KillerBeauty:

Dude just check the dictionary for the meaning of the word "job" and its application. You would be able to understand more clearly the explanation I rendered. I believe my signature is simple to comprehend and it doesn't need to be agued. Thanks

cKaiser:
Most men wont want the drama involved with Single mothers

Some of them are still emotionally involved with their ex baby daddy

Some carry the baggage of what their baby daddy did to them into their new relationship

There is always the fear that the child/children from the previous marriage after spending a lot on them would never see you as their father and would still look for their own biological father

Moreover single girls are in excess demand, why would one need to go for an after 1?

Nursy:
Exactly. But like he said no one is above mistake. If not for the liability aspect of having a child one didn't budget, being a single mother doesn't mean the woman is wayward. It takes a very brave single woman to keep a pregnancy which eventually results to a child.

MadCow1:
Op.

Once upon a time, I would have opened a thread like this because I honestly believed it to be true but look at me now..

I have dated 3 single mothers and they were amongst the best relationships I ever had. The stories behind the babies ranged from r-ape at the age of 15 to juvenile delinquency that resulted in a pregnancy. I am older now and understand the complexities of the world a little better now that is why i advocate legalization of abortion cos some of these girls would have aborted these babies if they could do it legally and safely.

However I will address your post for what it is.

The reason is seems like single mothers don't find suitors are as follows;

1. The single mothers themselves.. If the women let's herself go just because she is a single mother, then she only has herself to blame for not attracting ant suitors. In fact whether she is a mother or not, if she does not packages herself to be attractive, she will not attract anyone. Some women just wallow in self pity or what have you and just let themselves go. They are not attractive, don't seem to be pushing themselves to achieve any goals and tend to blame their situation on the kid.

2. Only a handful of men and mostly boys have this mentality of not marrying single mothers. I use to be one of them, then I grew up.

3. For the handful of guys who hold this line of thought, it is based mostly on the fact that they would have to raise another man's child. Also that child would always be the elephant in the room in that relationship and the child is very likely to complicate the marriage. Issues with regards to discipline, love, respect and more are issues that make most guys who hold this view abstain from marrying a single mother. Another key reason is also acceptance by extended family members like his mother and co. These I believe are the reasons why the few guys who feel this way would rather not marry a single mother and I can't fault them as such.


To the single mothers; You are seen by men as what you present yourself to be. If you see having a child out of wedlock as a problem then that's what that child would be. Men (not boys) mostly don't care about such especially when the mother has a good head on her shoulder and seems to be doing very well for herself and her kid. My advice to you is simply to accept the child as a part of your life which they are and start pursuing a future for them. Raise the child well so their attitude isn't appalling to your dates. Take care of yourself and look as sweet and sexy as possible. Be focused and watch men fall all around you.


Shout out to Dyt. If we were in a different place and time, you would be my other wife and I would nickname you Wiggles...

pickabeau1:


You said all the right things..bro
However you dated 3 single mom's and married none.....right?

RAO1:

mister, majority of ladies/ married women ( DT are not even single mothers) still stay connected with their exes , physically or emotionally ......y do skul mates still continue with their relationship after getting married to different spouses