Hello house,
A friend of mine got married about three months ago, and he is facing a lot of hardship in the marriage due to the influence of his mother inlaw on the marriage.
He told me that his wife and her mum are so stuck together to the extent that his wife always tell her mum everything they do in their house, and this is really upsetting ma guy as he hardly take a decision in the house w/out his mother in-law influencing it. Those he said the woman is nice only that the love she has for her daughter is now telling on his home.
How do u think he should go about this issue as he does not want to offend his mother in-law?

Well,your friend wont tell me that he has not seen the traces of that habit in his wife before they got married.
Not too late sha,all he needs do is to talk it out with his wify,it is either her mother or her husby i.e you.am a woman and right from my courting days we have made it an abomination to get a third party,such agreements helps ,let your friend confront his wife with love on this issue,i bliv she will want to keep her home,dont rush do it in love.

love is blind. if the girl is young expect things like this. if the girl is asking the mom for things like decorations and interior decor telll your bobo to grow up it is not the end of the world that is what women do.

finally, tell him to learn how to love and understand his ma inlaw because he needs her on his side more than he thinks. his wife happiness depends on a healthy relationship with her mum.

lovereigns:

Well,your friend wont tell me that he has not seen the traces of that habit in his wife before they got married.
Not too late sha,all he needs do is to talk it out with his wify,it is either her mother or her husby i.e you.am a woman and right from my courting days we have made it an abomination to get a third party,such agreements helps ,let your friend confront his wife with love on this issue,i bliv she will want to keep her home,dont rush do it in love.

it may just be a small matter this bobo is already telling his friends about. he has his friends to talk to but the lady talking to her mum is a no no. God help the family

@JJYOU It may just be a small matter this bobo is already telling his friends about.  he has his friends to talk to but the lady talking to her mum is a no no.  God help the family

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no, no,i dont mean that she should talk to her mum not that, but she needs to actually know how to please her husby(her sole responsibility, cos if she does her husband will respect her) without hurting her mother.well marriage will work the way u lay the foundation,its very important,i dont hide any of my feelings from my husband neither does he ,we are very VERY OPEN ABOUT OUR FEELINGS,AND IT HELPS GREATLY.ISTEAD OF SPREADING THE NEWS THE FRIEND SHOULD SORT IT OUT WITH HIS WIFE.WISF THEM SUCCESS.

I believe this lady didn't pick up this attitude overnight, she must have exhibited it while you were courting her. Since you were able to condone it at that time, I see no reason why it should be a problem now. _{I just cant imagine how some people reason when courting.}

Well, your friend cannot just continue like that since this is just 3 months into the marriage and they're having 3rd party interference. He must correct her 'in love' otherwise, the guy will have to face "panel".

Your friend should let her know that he appreciates her mother's advise but that he'll appreciate it more if she, as your wife can think exactly like her mum or give you an opinion different from/better than her mother's opinion.

Your friend can purposely bring up an issue or a project and tell his wife that he wants to see what success the two of them can achieve on that issue/project without telling mummy so that they'll surprise mummy with it. That she should make it plain secret to her mummy.

If she can do this successfully, then she can change totally but if otherwise, you have your cross to carry ooo.

However, everything depends on how matured in mind is the lady in question.

All this mummy and daddy's pet sef, they just never grow up.arrrgh!