Hello E-family,
I need you guys to help me with this issue cos I've been disturbed for some days now.‎
‎Last week Tuesday my colleague came to work looking so happy, gisting us about this guy she's bn seeing for some time now, that he's getting serious and we were all happy for her.
On Monday this week, she came again gushing about her trip to Obudu last weekend with her guy‎. During lunch break she showed us some lovely pics they took and I was so shocked to see that the 'Guy' is actually someone I know, my friend's husband(married with 2kids). 
While others were like 'aww u look good 2geda' 'he's so cute' 'I'm happy for you' and all, I was short ‎of words.
I told my hubby what happened and asked what I should do. He first had a good laugh and asked if I want to break a home‎, that I need to be careful cos if I tell my friend and she doesn't handle it well friendship is destroyed and my colleague will be offended if she discover her 'guy' is known to me and I hid the information. 
Now my Dearies, what do I do?
Married Men, what will you advice‎ ur wife in this situation?
Singles like my colleague what do you expect of me Pls?‎
Wives, if you were in my shoes what will you do?‎

Sorry for the typos, not easy typing with phone while @ work jare.‎

SIM cards cost #100

alternatively you can MYOB

Your call

dont knw y dis story refuses for me to belive it
ny way sha just tell d guy/d mans wife nd watch wat appns or invite dem all for dinner

Tell your friend the truth.
Imagine you are the "guy's" wife and your hubby is frolicking round town.

pickabeau1:
SIM cards cost #100

alternatively you can MYOB

Your call

Hmmm, Tot of this too but sincerely can u MYOB in ds case? Be truthful

fharmah:
dont knw y dis story refuses for me to belive it
ny way sha just tell d guy/d mans wife nd watch wat appns or invite dem all for dinner

My Dear ds is true life story playing out now. So I will type ds long thing because of what na?

Another nairaland super story?

Wendy80:
Hello E-family,
I need you guys to help me with this issue cos I've been disturbed for some days now.‎
‎Last week Tuesday my colleague came to work looking so happy, gisting us about this guy she's bn seeing for some time now, that he's getting serious and we were all happy for her.
On Monday this week, she came again gushing about her trip to Obudu last weekend with her guy‎. During lunch break she showed us some lovely pics they took and I was so shocked to see that the 'Guy' is actually someone I know, my friend's husband(married with 2kids). 
While others were like 'aww u look good 2geda' 'he's so cute' 'I'm happy for you' and all, I was short ‎of words.
I told my hubby what happened and asked what I should do. He first had a good laugh and asked if I want to break a home‎, that I need to be careful cos if I tell my friend and she doesn't handle it well friendship is destroyed and my colleague will be offended if she discover her 'guy' is known to me and I hid the information. 
Now my Dearies, what do I do?
Married Men, what will you advice‎ ur wife in this situation?
Singles like my colleague what do you expect of me Pls?‎
Wives, if you were in my shoes what will you do?‎

Sorry for the typos, not easy typing with phone while @ work jare.‎

I will definately mind my own business oo. And I would make sure my colleague at work knows am not in support of her relationship with the guy.

adanduka:
Tell your friend the truth.
Imagine you are the "guy's" wife and your hubby is frolicking round town.

Gbam

taryour:



I will definately mind my own business oo. And I would make sure my colleague at work knows am not in support of her relationship with the guy.

It will make her look like a bad belle person who is jealous of her

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SAMBARRY:
It will make her look like a bad belle person who is jealous of her

Hmmm my dear, and if I tell her she could accuse me of same thing. If she is wise she will find traces of a married man in him. And how are we so sure she doesn't know he is married and playing along in the game.

No be my mouth them go hear say lizard kill elephant oo.

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Wendy80:

Hmmm, Tot of this too but sincerely can u MYOB in ds case? Be truthful

As I said
Sim cards are cheap and disposable
Send anonymous calls or texts

OR MYOB

The choice is yours

taryour:


Hmmm my dear, and if I tell her she could accuse me of same thing. If she is wise she will find traces of a married man in him. And how are we so sure she doesn't know he is married and playing along in the game.

No be my mouth them go hear say lizard kill elephant oo.

I can't say if she knows he's married. She doesn't look to me like someone who will willingly date a married man but I won't vouch for her though cos we no de know person finish.

From experience being the good person in cases like this has a way of coming back to bite you in the ass. If you decide to not let it slide tho, eliminate any link to you...

Sit ur friend down nd tell her.

What would I do?

If I'm close/ real buddy with the colleague, I will draw her aside alone and tell her what I know. However, I will still let her know that the decision to go on or not with the affair is her call and not my business.

I will NEVER tell any other soul aftetwards,. I will enter MYOB mode.

Wendy80:
Hello E-family,
I need you guys to help me with this issue cos I've been disturbed for some days now.‎
‎Last week Tuesday my colleague came to work looking so happy, gisting us about this guy she's bn seeing for some time now, that he's getting serious and we were all happy for her.
On Monday this week, she came again gushing about her trip to Obudu last weekend with her guy‎. During lunch break she showed us some lovely pics they took and I was so shocked to see that the 'Guy' is actually someone I know, my friend's husband(married with 2kids). 
While others were like 'aww u look good 2geda' 'he's so cute' 'I'm happy for you' and all, I was short ‎of words.
I told my hubby what happened and asked what I should do. He first had a good laugh and asked if I want to break a home‎, that I need to be careful cos if I tell my friend and she doesn't handle it well friendship is destroyed and my colleague will be offended if she discover her 'guy' is known to me and I hid the information. 
Now my Dearies, what do I do?
Married Men, what will you advice‎ ur wife in this situation?
Singles like my colleague what do you expect of me Pls?‎
Wives, if you were in my shoes what will you do?‎

Sorry for the typos, not easy typing with phone while @ work jare.‎

have a two aside with your colleagues. That's all.

I appreciate your contributions. Just b4 I left the office this evening, I saw clearing her desk hurriedly saying her 'Baby' is coming for her. 20mins later I saw 'him' driving away with her. Its no longer picture oh, I saw him live.
I'm beginning to wonder if he doesn't know where I work or has he forgotten or just doesn't care
Na wa oh

I would suggest you get the new sim and send a message to your colleague like has already been suggested. Give her the name of the man's wife and probably the kids names too. If she honestly didnt know the man was married she would ask him but if she knew.... well God save the man's wife.

some men sha

OP, treat your colleague how you will want to be treated if you were in her shoe.

Girls code 101 - Don't hide any sensitive issue from your bestfriend.

Thanx U all

Wendy80, you're not breaking a home. That home is already inferno-ed.

Like someone advised a woman married to a 50year old agbaya, your friend needs to get her finances in order just in case they do joint account. Last time I remembered on baba oyo's thread, obudu is a not very cheap place. The dude is spending money and out of control. Who no like better thing?

This is a clean cut fact you witnessed before your eyes and not an hearsay. Call up your friend and tell her what's up. That's what I will do for my friend and expect same too.

Gosh this is ridiculously shameful.

I think it's better u talk to your colleague first. Let her know he's married. If she's aware he's married and doesn't care then u might have to tell ur friend

taryour:



I will definately mind my own business oo. And I would make sure my colleague at work knows am not in support of her relationship with the guy.

But she will want to know why she's not in support na, what will op say.

Ivygold2:
Sit ur friend down nd tell her.

Nne it is not easy oh, not every women can handle such news. If op isn't careful she might be seen as enemy sef.

use ur head dear cos ur hubby might be worse

What of making yourself visible when next the man visits your office? That should send a signal to him you know...

If it were me I'd talk to the cheating man first to try to understand what's going on and possibly stop him. If that fails I'd talk to my colleague. Talking to my friend would only be the last resort if I find out the cheating partners don't want to change their ways.