@ Poster
It is quite parthetic to have such a girl but i think you don't need to give yourself the stress.
Don't allow your this emotional choking. It is as clear as crystal that they are cheating on you.
You are not married yet (though it could be painful most especially with the one you have given your heart in
love to).
I SUGGEST YOU GO LOOK ANOTHER GIRL, FOR CRYING OUT LOUD, THERE ARE LOT OF HOMELY AND RESPONSIBLE
LADIES OUT THERE WHO WILL RESPONSIBLE TO YOU AT YOUR BEACOME CALL.
EMPTY YOUR BRAIN OFF THE THOUGHT OF HER AND YOUR EMOTIONAL OFF THE FEELING OF HER.

REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT YET MARRIED TO HER
GOOD LUCK

@ Poster
It is quite parthetic to have such a girl but i think you don't need to give yourself the stress.
Don't allow yourself this emotional choking. It is as clear as crystal that they are cheating on you.
You are not married yet (though it could be painful most especially with the one you have given your heart in
love to).
I SUGGEST YOU GO LOOK ANOTHER GIRL, FOR CRYING OUT LOUD, THERE ARE LOTS OF HOMELY AND RESPONSIBLE
LADIES OUT THERE WHO WILL RESPONSE TO YOU AT YOUR BEACOME CALL.
EMPTY YOUR BRAIN OFF THE THOUGHT OF HER AND YOUR EMOTIONAL OFF THE FEELING OF HER.

REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT YET MARRIED TO HER
GOOD LUCK

dump the bi***ch

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na2day?:

dude, wetin bi ur own, abi i take ur gf? mind urself b4 i raise gbege 4 ur head!

hahaha, learn to take jokes maan!!!!

@Poster,
I guess you wont need any advice if she calls ur pal's name in the middle of some hot lovemaking. Move on, this is almost over. Just dont let her have the final say. Good luck.

Invite her to your place letting her know you have a very important issue to discuss with her.Tell her something has been disturbing you for sometime and you want to clear the air.

Tell her there is another lady in the picture, that you are not the double dating type that you would like both of you to separate .Then watch her reaction!!

ikaleguy:

Invite her to your place letting her know you have a very important issue to discuss with her.Tell her something has been disturbing you for sometime and you want to clear the air.

Tell her there is another lady in the picture, that you are not the double dating type that you would like both of you to separate .Then watch her reaction!!

hmmn, wat an advise, dat is wat we call EREE GELE (DELICATE PLAY) in yorubaland, wat if notin was going-on,dat he's just bn stupid?

ure just jealous thts all. its a normal thing
all u have to do is tell ur friend about it over a bottle of beer.

tell him how ist gonna affect thr three of u if things continue the way it is and im sure he'll do sumfn about it

Cos if u dont do this and ur friend notices shes digging him, it might be dangerous cos ur friend might just be tempted to
be smart about this o

Thanks guys.I would have bleeped up if not you guys were there $ me

your fiancee only looked at him in sympatetic way but did not ask him to walk her home so i suspect jeaulousy here.

@ SKYLOOH HOW DO U KNOW? WER U DER?
AT POSTER, U CANT TELL GIVE IT TIME WATCH AND ABSERVE LET HER THINK U HAVE NO CLUE AND GET OF HER BACK ABOUT IT. IF THERES SOMETHING THER ULL SEE SOON ENOFF.

u have to confirm first,dont rush things.and if your suspicions are true,be coolheaded and balance the equation i.e pay them back in their own coin,lets see if your girl likes sharing with her friend[or better yet a relative] and s$s your friend's sister or girl.but if they dont care omo you're done for

For how long will you be a guesser? Why not confront your woman and your friend together. Their individual and collective reactions will lead you somewhere. You are what you are!!!

Well my bros, why not try acting a bit. Schedule a trip out of town for a period of 2weeks. Then try as much as possible to monitor your wife's movement from, where she goes often how long she stays out and so on. You might be lucky to catch both red handed.

But be warned, what ever you find, you will get. So you've got to have a very strong mind.

haveone hot round in the sac, then ditch the gal, she aint worth the trouble

I will like to know if you have been able to put the issue under consideration with all the advice you've got from nlanders, by now  we ought to be getting some replies . kindly feed us up in other for us to know if u need any other advice,

thanks nlanders, keep up yah good works.

timmfikk:

I will like to know if you have been able to put the issue under consideration with all the advice you've got from nlanders, by now  we ought to be getting some replies . kindly feed us up in other for us to know if u need any other advice,

thanks nlanders, keep up yah good works.

sorry for all of una, na 419 story

na2day?:

sorry for all of una, na 419 story

Habba, e reach that way, everyone is learning, if you think you are much better than life teach him/her a lesson then, k

timmfikk:

Habba, e reach that way, everyone is learning, if you think you are much better than life teach him/her a lesson then, k

why waste my time on a blatant lie? if he said it like he was referring to 2 ppl and made a good story out of it, we will gracefully throw in our hats but sum1 that just day dreams and never really contributed to his own thread meaningfully, why should i bother?

my brother, do not wait until she screams his name in the heat of passion and blames it on exhaustion. investigate man!

@ poster

Something really is odd here. She screamed his name!? THAT IS A RED FLAG!!! Secondly if you notice her looks at him and you have a bad feeling you need to confront them.
You guys need to have a serious talk if you are even still interested in marrying each other. If you are already having doubts and questions like this while just being engaged , imagine what your marriage will bring! This does not sound like a happy union at all.

poster this is a sensitive issue,you have to apply wisdom.because it is not good to loose two friend because of this.my candid advice is for you to take ur time do some observations.you know ur guy more than we do,if you get some positive answer to ur observation,you can now call your guy in a matured way,talk to him in a way he will understand you.because am a woman in most cases it is the woman that starts it not the guy.if really they are getting on,quite the relationship or you take ur time find out that thing that trips your woman over that ur guy,if only you are truly in love with her.and apply it to win her back.if not quietly walk way from the relationship.don't put up a fight with them.

@ poster i could bet she is not cheating, she is very fond of the guy which is not really good cause you are engaged to be married it will shift her attention to the guy,,, just play your card very well YOU are the MAN here so sit up and protect wats urs before its late.

boboye75:

Two things here; viz: One, it is very obvious that your girl really like your friend(if your report is not biased) and two it's obvious that you are jealous. A common adage goes thus, "patient is the only tool that allows deception to reveal itself". If you're not patient enough you'll be blamed at the expense of their inadequacies. I know how u feel. You're loving somebody and the person seem to be loving another person, what a tragedy! The only way out is stop insinuating. Just call her to mind-to-mind talk, from her response you should be able to draw an inference. Remember: Mariama said in her book- SO LONG A LETTER,  She advice that you should marry someone who really loves you not the one that you really love but the problem about it is How do you know who really loves you as William Shakespeare concluded that there is no art to find mind's construction in the face.
Good luck!

Very well said boboye.In between, you wouldn't be the boboye from lerato (1996) set now would you?

Just take it easy, think before you react,

hra,

if u be correct bobo and u and ur friend have come a long way, call his attention to it and ask him a coupla questions and i am sure u will know how to move on from there. if the guy no correct he will be scared and sooner or later they will give themselves away as women will always blurt it out one day but while the grass grows, be watchful and show some love to ur babe

@ poster, my guy i tink u shud investigate ASAP. Weneva a guy and babe spend so much tym togeda,tat name callin is the evidence but lemme tell u, a married woman i know who loved her husband to death met this guy whom she spent so much tym with and in the end, she exchanged her marital vows with just tat chanced meeting.
Am so scared of dis kinda girls who av dis close rapports cos women being the weaker vessels,always fall and u cant trust ur frnd enuff not to pay heed.
WORD TO THE WISE? There's gonna be somtin going on btw dem soonest.