Please nlander I need you guys help.
I'm dating a catholic right now n am about to marry him, I'm scared of becoming a catholic member cos of my background ( the church am worshiping with), we believe in gift of the holy spirit and his presence in us.
I dislike their method of worship and their believe.
I don't know, how i will cope with him cos of his church...
...
... please mature advice.

You knew that, before u started d relationship with him. Your best option is to discuss with him n convince him to allow u continue worshiping in ur church, if he does not agree, u ve no choice than to ff him to his church if he insist, cos he is ur husband, n the bible is against u disobeying him, all u can do is keep praying abt it. So its better u guys agree on this, before u get married.

My dear, u love him right? Den love his church. He will respect u d more

Catholics believe in the Gift o' the holy spirit, I am one and I think you've been wrongly informed...you need to enlighten yourself a bit more. I can attend any church that preaches the word of God through the holy spirit and not to satisfy man...the only real advantage of being a catholic is you develop your spirituality yourself and the probability o' going church to church is slimmer. . .christianity is one.



My humble opinion...no offence meant

bchi:
Please nlander I need you guys help.
I'm dating a catholic right now n am about to marry him, I'm scared of becoming a catholic member cos of my background ( the church am worshiping with), we believe in gift of the holy spirit and his presence in us.
I dislike their method of worship and their believe.
I don't know, how i will cope with him cos of his church...
...
... please mature advice.

hmm. na one chance. it would have been better the other way round, cause after marriage you must follow him to his church

You knew he is Catholic from the onset and you built a relationship now heading to the altar, you still have a chance to pull off if you are not comfortable with his faith.

bchi:
Please nlander I need you guys help.
I'm dating a catholic right now n am about to marry him, I'm scared of becoming a catholic member cos of my background ( the church am worshiping with), we believe in gift of the holy spirit and his presence in us.
I dislike their method of worship and their believe.
I don't know, how i will cope with him cos of his church...
...k
... please mature advice.

Where do our Protestant brothers get their info from... Who told you Catholic don't believe in the holy spirit....
So much dislike for the Catholic church...

I think you may have some misconceptions about the Catholic Church, there is nothing to be scared about.the fear is that of change which occurs to most people in other circumstances as well.
I'll suggest that you try to learn about the church properly and you may have a different opinion about it. You may want to raise this with your fiancé and get him to agree that you're willing to keep an open mind but will like to learn about the church. Ultimately,it should be your decision if you wish to convert or not.
Your decision should be based on your love for your fiancé, if it's strong enough you'll both do what makes you happy.

bchi:
Please nlander I need you guys help.
I'm dating a catholic right now n am about to marry him, I'm scared of becoming a catholic member cos of my background ( the church am worshiping with), we believe in gift of the holy spirit and his presence in us.
I dislike their method of worship and their believe.
I don't know, how i will cope with him cos of his church...
...
... please mature advice.

I was in the same shoes with you,my dear.don't let people decieve you into believing that all that is needed is love.belief also matters a lot .I thought so myself until the day she sayed she doesn't like my speaking in tongues.worst of all you are a lady,after marriage u r a gonner.my humble advice is that you break the relationship now,u can't joke with your eternity.don't think you can change him,cos u r not the holy ghost.

A word for bchi:
I am also married to a Catholic-and she gave her life over to Christ, she became a born again Christian-she found her first love in Christ, as it seemed, for a while she was doing all the rights' but deep within she was more focus on the wrongs, she would listen more on the gossips, and involve herself in church with all the busybodies, judging others, that led her back to her own judgement in the Catholic Church.

It's not easy, but if you love somebody, the love in Christ can break down those walls between you both. And with your prayers, God can change anything.
Don't turn against God, turn more over to Him, because you need Him more then ever before.

misreal:
I was in the same shoes with you,my dear.don't let people decieve you into believing that all that is needed is love.belief also matters a lot .I thought so myself until the day she sayed she doesn't like my speaking in tongues.worst of all you are a lady,after marriage u r a gonner.my humble advice is that you break the relationship now,u can't joke with your eternity.don't think you can change him,cos u r not the holy ghost.

She has already found the truth in Christ.
It's not easy giving up what she already knows.

Pelmet:
Catholics believe in the Gift o' the holy spirit, I am one and I think you've been wrongly informed...you need to enlighten yourself a bit more. I can attend any church that preaches the word of God through the holy spirit and not to satisfy man...the only real advantage of being a catholic is you develop your spirituality yourself and the probability o' going church to church is slimmer. . .christianity is one.



My humble opinion...no offence meant

Nooooooooooo. love Christ first.

Cutehector:
My dear, u love him right? Den love his church. He will respect u d more

Thanks all.
I love him so much, he do love me also
I have told him about his church severally, he said that I'm telling story until i comes in as his wife, he will decide if I will go to my church or not.
He is a serious catholic member, charismatic member.
I am So confused because my family and church members told me, he won't change because of him rather I will b the one. .
I don't want to leave him.
I don't just know what to do!

As I said trust God and him only shall you trust.
If you love this fellow, than trust God he will lead you in the right direction.
But never follow in religion, but follow in only truth.

bchi:
Thanks all.
I love him so much, he do love me also
I have told him about his church severally, he said that I'm telling story until i comes in as his wife, he will decide if I will go to my church or not.
He is a serious catholic member, charismatic member.
I am So confused because my family and church members told me, he won't change because of him rather I will b the one. .
I don't want to leave him.
I don't just know what to do!

You shoulda known better.

It's not even about you going to his church now.

Your children nko?
I'm sure you'd like them to worship with you.

That household would be religiously divided.

Look beyond the "love" biko, and put on your thinking cap.

Christians! They can not even agree among themselves! Even to get married to each other na wahala! And you expect an atheist to take you guys serious?

5 NICE LITTLE STORIES.
.
1. Once, all villagers decided to pray for
rain, on the day of prayer all the People
gathered but only one boy came with an
umbrella.
THAT'S FAITH!
.
2. When you throw a baby in the air, she
laughs because she knows you will catch
her.
THAT'S TRUST!
.
3. Every night we go to bed, without any
assurance of being alive the next Morning
but still we set the alarms to wake up.
THAT'S HOPE!
.
4. We plan big things for tomorrow in spite
of zero
knowledge of the future.
THAT'S CONFIDENCE!
.
5. We see the world suffering. But still we
get married !!!
THAT'S OVER CONFIDENCE !"
.
"Now, Every Hope And Trust That You
Have On God This
Day, Shall Reap Fruits Of Over Confidence,
As Long As You Can Say "AMEN" &
"SHARE" In Jesus Name!!! AMEN!

Christianity shudnt be about going to a particular church. We all serve the same God and we all have the goal of making heaven irrespective of the church u attend. God will not ask u the church u attended on earth.. that being said. on ur issue, just follow ur mind and pray about it. Happy Married life in advance. God bless. [quote
author=bchi post=32909630]Thanks all.
I love him so much, he do love me also
I have told him about his church severally, he said that I'm telling
story until i comes in as his wife, he will decide if I will go to my
church or not.
He is a serious catholic member, charismatic member.
I am So confused because my family and church members told me, he won't
change because of him rather I will b the one. .
I don't want to leave him.
I don't just know what to do![/quote]

bchi:
Thanks all.
I love him so much, he do love me also
I have told him about his church severally, he said that I'm telling story until i comes in as his wife, he will decide if I will go to my church or not.
He is a serious catholic member, charismatic member.
I am So confused because my family and church members told me, he won't change because of him rather I will b the one. .
I don't want to leave him.
I don't just know what to do!

A practicing Catholic! You're even complaining of a charismatic, Chai...those who have good backside don't know how to sit; says the dog. You just hit Gold and you're here blabbing. It's hard to drop what you've been fed with, but it's time to find out truth yourself. Visit here:https://www.nairaland.com/1464338/thread-catholics#18554555, If you have objection lay it out there, if you have question ask, and you'll be clarified, so you can make a wise and informed decision.

Op the best thing for you is to leave the guy since you are finding it hard to accept his faith and make sure you dnt regret your leaving him later in life.

brocab:
She has already found the truth in Christ.
It's not easy giving up what she already knows.

I have no problems believing she has truly found the truth in Christ Jesus, I do not believe the person you quoted doubt that.

But I have an advise for the OP, you fell in love with a catholic, you saw something beautiful in him irrespective of his religious affiliation, if he is talking marriage with you then I can assume that he is serious about you and loves you just as much, religion is a very important topic for catholics, if he is like me then I'll say his religious affiliation is important to him, an important part of his life, if you took the trouble to fall in love with him them I say you should take the trouble to at least study what he believes, there are many misconceptions out there and you just listed one, you claim that catholics do not believe in the gifts of the spirit which isn't true. If you love him then take the challenge to at least learn what he believes.


Unlike some on the thread, I am not advising you join his church just because you love him, that is a decision only you can make out of conviction, love isn't an excuse for everything, you can make silly decisions in love and regret them later.

What I am saying is that you truly look into what he believes, not from your pastors or from hearsay but direct from people who share those beliefs, practicing catholics and the catholic church itself, listen, contrast it with what you believe and what the bible says, see how he understands things and then you will be in a better position to make a decision, if his beliefs are absolutely contradictory to the Christian message as witnessed in scriptures and absolutely irreconcilable with yours, then you may consider leaving him, if not then you may consider other more positive options.


To put my point in simple words, if you want to break up with your guy because of his church then you must be able to look him in the eye and say to him "I honestly tried everything to bring my love for you to completion but our differences are irreconcilable" not just because you are afraid of what some people said about his church.

Someone gave you a link to a catholic thread on nlans where you can ask questions about the catholic church, I suggest you use it.

Peace

Yes I agree-as I had said in one of my Quotes to her, trust in God.
It's hard to give up on Christ what you already know, she had already found the truth in Christ.
My wife and I are on the same boat, even Thur I love my wife dearly and she became a born again Christian, she was starting to have that personal freedom with Jesus, listening to him-but deep down her heart was with the Catholic Church, where she grew up.
As I said>its hard to give up what you already know...

The couple will have many differences, they both need to have that willingness to share in each's ones beliefs. Not just one sided.
My wife believes in the Catholic Church, she believes when she was baptised as a baby her own parents had made the right decision for her spiritual growth-until she herself dies. She believes she is already saved, before given her heart over to become a born again Christian and receiving the Holy Spirit.
So you see my King James bible reads different, from the catholic bible, and these are the problems this lady will front up against, at times it will be frustrating for both of them, like it is for us..

So with this ladies little problem, it could become a bigger problem, she needs the Lord more, like never before.
As I have said: Its hard to give up what you already know...

Ubenedictus:


I have no problems believing she has truly found the truth in Christ Jesus, I do not believe the person you quoted doubt that.

But I have an advise for the OP, you fell in love with a catholic, you saw something beautiful in him irrespective of his religious affiliation, if he is talking marriage with you then I can assume that he is serious about you and loves you just as much, religion is a very important topic for catholics, if he is like me then I'll say his religious affiliation is important to him, an important part of his life, if you took the trouble to fall in love with him them I say you should take the trouble to at least study what he believes, there are many misconceptions out there and you just listed one, you claim that catholics do not believe in the gifts of the spirit which isn't true. If you love him then take the challenge to at least learn what he believes.


Unlike some on the thread, I am not advising you join his church just because you love him, that is a decision only you can make out of conviction, love isn't an excuse for everything, you can make silly decisions in love and regret them later.

What I am saying is that you truly look into what he believes, not from your pastors or from hearsay but direct from people who share those beliefs, practicing catholics and the catholic church itself, listen, contrast it with what you believe and what the bible says, see how he understands things and then you will be in a better position to make a decision, if his beliefs are absolutely contradictory to the Christian message as witnessed in scriptures and absolutely irreconcilable with yours, then you may consider leaving him, if not then you may consider other more positive options.


To put my point in simple words, if you want to break up with your guy because of his church then you must be able to look him in the eye and say to him "I honestly tried everything to bring my love for you to completion but our differences are irreconcilable" not just because you are afraid of what some people said about his church.

Someone gave you a link to a catholic thread on nlans where you can ask questions about the catholic church, I suggest you use it.

Peace

Well......in my own opinion dat is not enuf reason 4u to reject d Guy.


After all Church is a building/Centuary.

Christ in u is d hope of glory not church.

Like seriously 2015 thread?

Religion are like cults the only difference is just the number of people in it.
I asked one of my deeper life friend if she can marry a catholic and she said no i asked why and i didnt get any reasonable response. we seem to forget we are are humans what is this force thats always trying to differentiate us?

Early signs that you guys still live in the medieval period.

it was during the medieval days that we have cases like this. days of Catholicism vs Protestantism

Something that is very simple, girls will still be asking for another answer

2015 thread making front page in 2018.

nothing is really impossible

This one is obviously not ready for marriage. Letting church being a decider whether or not to marry him. If you are both happy together, if you both have understanding, if you both love each other, I don't see a reason why that's a problem.

My brother is Catholic and his wife is winners chapple, and they are both very happy.

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I broke up with my girlfriend for this reason. She attends christ embassy and while I'm Catholic. I had no issues with her church but she seems to have an issue with mine. I decided to let her go the day one of her pastors called me telling to covert to Christ embassy permanently. I decided there and then that if I continue with her it won't end well because of her bias for my church.

Op you seem to be the problem here, the guy doesn't seem to mind but you see it as a big deal. The church an individual worships isn't a criteria for heaven. Heaven is an individual race

Is it advisable for someone with AS to get married to a girl with AS

Once you have accepted to follow him, his God becomes your God. His church is your church. Except he is not a strong catholic then u might be able to talk him to join your creed otherwise, go and join a legion already.
I am not a catholic but I know what Christianity says on such unions.

It would be very difficult to cope, so many new things to learn and adapt to. My Mother did it, she wasn't a Catholic when she married my Father and now she has been our Parish CWO President like twice.

2015 on front page,madam must be married with children now