This story was gotten from
lailasblog and I would like to tackle
this issue whilst you are free to also
leave your comments.
I am a 33yr old lady and married to
a man of 49 yrs. We are blessed
with 4 children. I am a hard working
woman with a thriving supermarket
in the South east and also
contribute well in our finances-at
home.
My husband is from the South east
too and he works in the banking
sector. The marriage has reached a
point where I have lost all respect
and trust for my husband.
Ever since we married in 2004, he
has never stopped having extra
marital affairs. Each time I catch
him by checking his phone,he will
deny but he keeps going back.
Sometimes he will claim that the
girls get his phone no without his
permission and usually make the
advances.

5 yrs ago he slept with a girl in his
car and forgot to remove the
evidence, that was the only time he
accepted after denying and playing
victim for 3weeks. Because of all
the heart breaks I stopped checking
his phone and was hoping he will
change but 2weeks ago I was using
his laptop to check my email when I
found out his Facebook account
was signed in.
He tried to log out when I asked that
he unlock for me to use since he
pass worded it. I was inquisitive so I
checked it out. 10 mins of reading
his messages I was shaking and
couldn't believe what I saw. He had
lots of girlfriends and he even
travelled to a resort with one,yet we
have never done any holiday
together because of hard economic
times.

I was so depressed I was finding it
difficult to move on with my life. I
had to confront him but as usual he
started playing the victim claiming
he is just having fun, chatting with
them and doing dirty talk but I read
otherwise from the messages so I
know he was lying.
Personally the marriage has lost its
salt for me but I don't want to
separate because of infidelity. I
want to find a way to cope with it.
So I am asking for advice on how to
live my life in joy and happiness,
not minding that I am married to a
man that has continued to cheat
and lie to me for the past 10yrs.
Right now I have cut off conjugal
relationship for fear of STD and he’s
been giving me the silence
treatment but I don't mind. Please
any advice on coping mechanism
to a faithful wife in an unhappy
marriage’’.
My aunt always gave us girls in the
family, this one advice: Never trust
a man.
She would say even if he did
everything right at home, brace
yourself for the worst. I obviously
didn’t give this advice much
thought until I experienced it for
myself in a relationship. Her advice
may seem vindictive and
depressing but it is a sad truth.
I have always prayed to God to
never be forced into divorcing my
husband for any reason and I hope
it happens that way because, a
relationship is chicken change when
compared to marital life.
My dear, I pray God gives you grace
to handle what you are going
through and I must commend your
determination to stay in that
marriage. Not everyone would. My
aunts advice for this situation is to
focus on your kids. Bury yourself in
them and their well being. Thank
God you are blessed with kids. They
can be sufficient distraction when
you need one.

At the end of the day though, they
would grow up and leave the house.
So what next? Get a hubby.
Whatever it is that you do best, do it
in your spare time, while you are not
working. Honestly, silent treatment
in a home is torment for both
parties.
For this purpose, I will always be
grateful for my mother. Every man is
afraid of a woman that keeps them
quiet. Quiet here doesn’t mean
silent treatment but acting like all
was well with the world. He comes
home, and there’s food waiting for
him. Draw him a bath. Gist with
him when you feel like it and never
let him see your tears. I cannot
assure you of instant results but
over time, I believe he would be
forced to rethink his actions.
Most importantly, pray. Nothing
works better than prayers. The only
person that should see you crying is
God. He will definitely satisfy you.
So take heart and be strong
because the road ahead of you
might be harder than you can
possibly imagine but his grace is
sufficient for you.

Also, trying keeping these marital
issues to yourself as not all friends
are out to help you. With little
intrusion from outside and half
hazard advises from different
people, you will be more focused
and less likely to get into a fight
with your husband.

Could that be lust
You are a fool if u think you love him!
Love can't be one sided
The last time i check;
Love died around 1595 AD
Buried same year
Good day!

my sister because one idíòt boy misbehaved doesnt mean all MEN are irresponsible.

Women are their own worst enemies. Why should a woman accept such bulshit and be advicing others to do same? Where is the joy in marriage? This is stupidity and I am sure the OP is giving this as an advice to our ladies to sitdown and accept their men no matter how sad the home is. Women, demand respect and you will get same. No partner in marriage deserves to be cheated on and treated like they are worthless and then are expected to pray, dress well, avoid sex, and be kind. We all deserve love and respect male and female

Mumu

Humm, dis is a hard one! But I must tell u dat the will of God for u is not divorce. U need Christ in ur life, he is d only one dat can give u wisdom and hope.when u give Christ a chance in ur life, he'll give u d grace to have a winsome xter n who knows ur husband be touched by ur chaste attitide. There is hope for u sister, be prayerful and u'll av ur hubby back.

Oh Lord! So some women still reason like this. Such a heartless man she has for a husband. I really feel for her. Staying for your kids sometimes may not help. Despite the number, having four kids is a wonderful thing and also a major reason you should be strong and keep living.

I dislike divorce like hell but still this alone is very disheartening it could break your life into shambles! You need to just move on without him. Depression is real and it kills fast. May God be her strength in such a trying situation like this.