brian4657:
hello everyone,please i need advice on this
i am dating a south african lady for 8 months now and we work in the same firm. she says she loves me but the problem is :
i dont know if she really do love me or she just want a husband she can call her own,people around me especially our co workers always tag her arrogant,they hate me dating her.but she is never like that to me,she is always submissive and caring,although i do sense those arrogance traits from the way she receives calls of people that call her at odd hours,maybe when she is already asleep .
she is 4 years older than me and she has got 2 kids already.another thing i am tired of is the attitude of her always going to social media like facebook to voice her sadness if we had any misunderstanding because she knows i will always check on her timeline,and she always gets sad over little issues like when i drove her home one sunday after church and went to my home too,she was bitter and said if i really do love her ,i will take her to my house,when i remembered vividly i asked if she wants to go with me but she refused and said she wanna cook.
my friends always tell me,i can get a very young and fresh nigerian girl that has got no baby at home if i want to settle down and they will always love and respect me as the head o the house.
i am worried about the law of this country also that gives more right to women,you wife can tell you that its your time for you to make breakfast for the family,which is really scary to me.
she mentions those equal rights to me jokingly but i always shut her up,like asking me to make her breakfast
i can live this kind of human right life as a boyfriend but i am really worried and not ready to live it forever as a husband with someone i call my wife

You better run for your dear life.
Most South Africans generally are not good people.
She just want a husband
Why the hell will you settle for less (woman older than you and with two kids) when there are millions of young beautiful single girls that will love and respect you?
She is just pretending at the moment..

ireneony:
guy so ladies don finish for naija, so u choose to date a baby mama who has screw those lazy, hiv filled bantu dicck ...well the way i see it 6feet is not far from u, if u nor go check ur status right now.

i jst de laff , all these s.a hate nigerians with passion, just becos u are a working class man and comfortable person, she choose to tie u down??

my advice is, not to marry her, you know arrogant (xenophobia) is not associated with we'nigerians'(if you marry her, ur son might probably wake up one morning and stab u to death
)

guy is this me, i talk funny and harsh sometimes, but even when u come to nigeria and ask for my hand in marriage, i will not come near cos u have digged the pucci of s.a chicks .

my answer to ur question is, u shud probably stay with ur fiancee
cos one less hiv is better for nigerian ladies, pls continue digging the hiv filled pucci

Chai! Lol
I understand....

madamGift:


Yeah, I agree totally.
sometimes, love is just not enough, be more logical than emotional.

A sagittarius talking

virginboy1:
She is 4 years older than you.
She has 2 kids,
she nags.
She is south african(remember this is part of the reasons their men antagonizes foreigners).
Bros,don't rush into her ooo.
That kind lady can be frustrating at the longrun.

U have said it all..

In fact what do U see in her that keeps you elated..?

Was she married before now.?
How did she get those KIDS..?

Please, U don't need T. B. JOSHUA to tell u, AVOID her and everything that has to do with her..

You aint in love with her which is really oblivious as you don't need someone like her more importantly. The odds are quite a number.