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8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by McEwen(m): 8:36am On May 01, 2015 |
A few days of s*x and seeming love end in bitterness and you’re in the love market again. This is why, even when the relationship seems perfect, there are some things you must never do for that person — at least not until you’re wedded or there’s a binding document in place. Love is about giving in and giving up a few things, but… 1. Don’t change your personality. Now, they say you should change for the one you love. Yes, that is true. But when the changing comes from you alone and it seems like you’re being re-manufactured, then something is wrong. No man or woman should attempt to change you entirely, unless you really have bad habits. Aside this, in the event that you’re separated, the hurt will be worsened by the fact you won’t recognise yourself. You’ll be nothing without that person. A person who loves you must accept the real you. 2. Don’t abandon your dreams: This is another one you should be careful about. Two people in love ca exist without killing each other’s dreams. It is a good thing for both of you to alter your careers and dreams to accommodate each other. But there is a limit. A true lover would aid your dream, ask you to abandon it. Work out a middle way. If you lose your dream for a relationship that is not yet solid, marriage especially, sorry will be your consolation when it ends. 3. Don’t abandon your friends and family. Hmmm, it really is sad that some people let love kill their relationships with kith and kin that they had before meeting their lover. They do not realise that friends are the only thing you can fall back to when you hit life’s road bumps. If a lover makes it a case to break your link to friends and family, please exit. They should find a way to accommodate your friends. If you lose your friends to that relationship, what happens if it ends? 4. Don’t set up businesses or share details of official information. Many people think it is love to expose their entire business plans and financial information to a supposed lover. But this is dangerous. A lot of people ‘love’ just to deceive and maybe swindle. If they have access to sensitive official details, like ATM card pins, internet bank passwords, property document details, etc, you are exposed to danger! 5. Don’t become a donor agency . Lovers should help each other, morally and financially. However, don’t be saddled to a leech, a tick who only feeds off you. You’re not a bank account or donor agency to anyone. As you give, make sure it’s reasonable, and for genuine needs. A lover who always returns for more is a gold-digger, a fraud that you don’t need. Small money gifts are cool, but should not become the norm and basis of love. 6. Don’t give unofficial loans, bad personal investments. Loans are relationship killers. If a lover wants huge sums of money from you, be wise and make it legal. At worst, make sure the money is deposited to his/her bank account, to leave a trail that can be used to retrieve it in case you guys fight. To withdraw N200,000 and give to your lover in cash as a loan is not wise. Instead, transfer via bank and write ‘loan’. If the money is big a signed IOU might be necessary. Also avoid foolish investments like setting up businesses or funding projects without legal documents. This may look rigid, but many people have killed ex-lovers because they could not retrieve their ‘investments’. 7. Don’t give unfettered access to private emails and social media accounts. In these modern times, social media accounts are very sensitive. It should be as personal as possible. Making it a public affair for a transient lover is bad, bad and bad. Imagine the damage they could do if you break up? He or she could for example lock you out of your own account or even send out compromising messages through your account. 8. Don’t reveal compromising information or damaging materials. When we fall in love, there is the temptation to talk too much, way too much than we need to. There should a lot of discussion between people in a relationship. But some things should never be said to some people who are not yet fully committed to a relationship. Sharing intimate secrets will put you up for future attacks. Ex-lovers are fond of sharing demining information, like nudes or private talks. Love doesn’t hold back, it is spontaneous, it is forgiving and every other good thing. But it pays to be cautious, especially when there is no formal commitment from so-called lover. To be in love is to love with wisdom and caution… 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by McEwen(m): 8:36am On May 01, 2015 |
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Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by itsValo(m): 8:38am On May 01, 2015 |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by dulux07(m): 8:39am On May 01, 2015 |
9. Dont have sex 2 Likes |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by McEwen(m): 8:40am On May 01, 2015 |
itsValo: guilty of those? better repackage ur self |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by McEwen(m): 8:41am On May 01, 2015 |
dulux07: haba! |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by McEwen(m): 8:42am On May 01, 2015 |
10. stop wooing a Sh3Male on NL |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by Nobody: 8:47am On May 01, 2015 |
9 Don't move in together 10 Don't give him a baby 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by koolet: 8:53am On May 01, 2015 |
rokiatu:9. Dont let her move in with you 10.Dont give her baby 2 Likes |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by McEwen(m): 8:55am On May 01, 2015 |
weed sellers where una dey? this section is too dry for me orijin101 and co |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by Precioussilas10: 9:05am On May 01, 2015 |
McEwen:Do they even exist? |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by ginawest(f): 9:06am On May 01, 2015 |
don't steal for Im don't starve urslf for im |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by McEwen(m): 9:12am On May 01, 2015 |
Precioussilas10:stick around |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by Precioussilas10: 9:14am On May 01, 2015 |
McEwen:On this thread? |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by Nobody: 9:14am On May 01, 2015 |
Love is crazy. Love these days is not only blind but equally deaf and dumb. |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by McEwen(m): 9:15am On May 01, 2015 |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by Slimzjoe(m): 9:18am On May 01, 2015 |
Op you for just Say 'Don't love the Person' |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by Precioussilas10: 9:19am On May 01, 2015 |
McEwen:hmmm no be small thing |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by McEwen(m): 9:19am On May 01, 2015 |
Slimzjoe:need glasses? Love doesn’t hold back, it is spontaneous, it is forgiving and every other good thing. But it pays to be cautious, especially when there is no formal commitment from so-called lover. To be in love is to love with wisdom and caution… |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by Mhizkel(f): 9:21am On May 01, 2015 |
Don't be his baby mama
Don't share a joint account with him
Don't give him sex
Don't kiss him
Don't hug him |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by Slimzjoe(m): 9:21am On May 01, 2015 |
McEwen: You really wanted to take thiz opportunity to show how Dum.b you can be. Right? You totally posted of point |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by McEwen(m): 9:24am On May 01, 2015 |
Slimzjoe: please don't lemme swear for u why only you complaining *ode* |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by Slimzjoe(m): 9:26am On May 01, 2015 |
McEwen: Children of nowadays sha ..... Smh Fvck off ma Mention anyho's |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by McEwen(m): 9:29am On May 01, 2015 |
Slimzjoe: it's okay... read,lol and move on difficult task uh? |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by Input(m): 9:40am On May 01, 2015 |
Op I disagree in some aspect, sometimes we need to make sacrifice to grow. |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by write2obi(m): 10:33am On May 01, 2015 |
9. Don't buy properties/cars in her name : u'll look dumb if the relationship fails and you see them enjoy or driving it. It hurts |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by McEwen(m): 11:57am On May 01, 2015 |
write2obi: |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by Nobody: 12:08pm On May 01, 2015 |
Paying ur GF/BF tuition fees when your sibling is out of school for not paying his. |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by McEwen(m): 12:10pm On May 01, 2015 |
Lacomus:gobe! |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by Nobody: 12:17pm On May 01, 2015 |
McEwen:you see ur life !!! |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by McEwen(m): 12:20pm On May 01, 2015 |
Re: 8 Things Never To Do For A Lover You’re Not Married To by Nobody: 12:22pm On May 01, 2015 |
McEwen:You didn't notice it ? |
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