So I just finished reading the textbook of a bridal list in this page https://www.nairaland.com/2285910/imo-state-mandatory-bride-prize.

While I was about to remind myself why I decided a long time ago not to marry an Igbo girl due to matters such as this (also because beautiful girls are everywhere so why submit yourself to evil?), someone made mention that they always send-off the bride (Idu-Uno).

First of all, every wedding everywhere gets the new couple seen off with gifts, so I'm not sure why they feel the need to make mention of this as if it's something special and as if takes away from the fact that these textbooks are prepostrous.

But maybe their own really is special, so I would like someone to help us bachelors clear the air... WHAT DOES the new couple get back from this Idu uno? For those that married, what did you provide and what did you get back? Ratio?

And please don't come up here with some foolishness about how "I got a priceless wife back" or something that daft because by doing so you devalue yourself. I'm tired of seeing brothas who don't value themselves enough to see themselves as priceless gifts just as well. These things are not one way.

Now let's hear your ratios

This should be interesting.

You've made a decision not to marry an Igbo gal, so why are you concerned about idu uno?


Anyway as the groom, you've no business with 'idu uno' as the family of the bride takes care of everything pertaining to idu uno..

Idu uno is a kinda send forth....

ebonflex:
So I just finished reading the textbook of a bridal list in this page https://www.nairaland.com/2285910/imo-state-mandatory-bride-prize.

While I was about to remind myself why I decided a long time ago not to marry an Igbo girl due to matters such as this (also because beautiful girls are everywhere so why submit yourself to evil?), someone made mention that they always send-off the bride (Idu-Uno).

First of all, every wedding everywhere gets the new couple seen off with gifts, so I'm not sure why they feel the need to make mention of this as if it's something special and as if takes away from the fact that these textbooks are prepostrous.

But maybe their own really is special, so I would like someone to help us bachelors clear the air... WHAT DOES the new couple get back from this Idu uno? For those that married, what did you provide and what did you get back? Ratio?

And please don't come up here with some foolishness about how "I got a priceless wife back" or something that daft because by doing so you devalue yourself. I'm tired of seeing brothas who don't value themselves enough to see themselves as priceless gifts just as well. These things are not one way.

Now let's hear your ratios

Dude, if you are looking for return on investment, open up a saloon or supermarket or something. Stop asking half assed questions when you obviously have no respect / understanding of culture/tradition.

Both of you can either help answer the simple question or give way for more intelligent people to answer. The information given here will help guys understand this process more and help calm the nerves of guys who are currently in romantic relations with igbo girls and are considering marriage.

For the Igbos here, this is your chance to amicably show that igbo culture is not all about "taking" as this is the major fear with most guys.

Well, it depends on the financial capability of the brides family, after getting your heartthrob some may also give you cars, buildings ,lands, properties, or household appliances such as deep freezer...cooker, stove,microwave, fans , furniture, cooking utensils and may more to mention but a few to take care of their child to ensure that she didn't suffer.



What we were given during our wedding brought tears to my eyes, it seems as if they were presuming that I ain't got any bed...foam to sleep on, even pot to cook too. My house got transformed from a bachelor's pad to a matrimonial home after the wedding.

@ ebonflex, your stance is offensive for someone who is looking for answers, I suggest you the delete the above post if indeed you want an intelligent discourse.

VintageCocktail:
Well, it depends on the financial capability of the brides family, some may give cars, buildings ,lands, properties, or household appliances such as deep freezer...cooker, stove,microwave fans , furniture, cooking utensils and may more to mention but a few.



What we were given during our wedding brought tears to my eyes, it seems as if they were presuming that I ain't got any bed...foam to sleep on, even pot to cook too. My house got transformed from a bachelor's pad to a matrimonial home after the wedding.

@ ebonflex, your stance is offensive for someone who is looking for answers, I suggest you the delete the above post if indeed you want an intelligent discourse.

Okay this is informative. Thanks.

The above post were responses to the other two who simply came on here to mis-talk.
Edited to be less abrasive.

VintageCocktail:
Well, it depends on the financial capability of the brides family, after getting your heartthrob some may also give you cars, buildings ,lands, properties, or household appliances such as deep freezer...cooker, stove,microwave, fans , furniture, cooking utensils and may more to mention but a few to take care of their child to ensure that she didn't suffer.



What we were given during our wedding brought tears to my eyes, it seems as if they were presuming that I ain't got any bed...foam to sleep on, even pot to cook too. My house got transformed from a bachelor's pad to a matrimonial home after the wedding.

@ ebonflex, your stance is offensive for someone who is looking for answers, I suggest you the delete the above post if indeed you want an intelligent discourse.

What if you already have all these things and your house is furnished to taste.
Must it come in these forms or can the monetary value be received instead?
Thanks.

ebonflex:


What if you already have all these things and your house is furnished to taste.
Must it come in these forms or can the monetary value be received instead?
Thanks.

Those are gifts from your in laws not a business investment/negotiation because you are getting married to their daughter. They ain't selling the lass, bro. This is different from the gift presented to the couple by the wedding guests. Nobody negotiates gift because you don't know what you will be given, it is left for you to sell it if you don't need it. If you need business investment the brother in law may put you through some ventures.~<> winks.

The said marriage list isn't even enormous if truth be told, just because it has been said all over that marrying an Igbo girl is expensive doesn't mean it is true. It is the fanfare most people attach to it, ......asoebi, settling your club and committee of friends etc, the most important people involved don't even require much.

ebonflex:
Both of you can either help answer the simple question or give way for more intelligent people to answer. The information given here will help guys understand this process more and help calm the nerves of guys who are currently in romantic relations with igbo girls and are considering marriage.

For the Igbos here, this is your chance to amicably show that igbo culture is not all about "taking" as this is the major fear with most guys.

Mr man if you don't want to marry and Ibo woman, not our business. Actually, we don't have anythibg to prove to you. For one 'you' who doesn't want an Ibi wife there are 10 others who are desperate for them.

A woman doesn't have to 'justify' why she should be married and you should not be looking to 'gain' from your prospective in-laws.

I can itemize everyything I got from my family when I got married, but it doesn't change anything.

With this type of attitude, my ibo sisters are better off without you.

Bros dey vex

ebonflex:
Both of you can either help answer the simple question or give way for more intelligent people to answer. The information given here will help guys understand this process more and help calm the nerves of guys who are currently in romantic relations with igbo girls and are considering marriage.

For the Igbos here, this is your chance to amicably show that igbo culture is not all about "taking" as this is the major fear with most guys.

And YES we don't 'give' our daughter out easily because we know what we put into them to make them good wives.

An Ibo girl is groomed from BIRTH to attend to the whims and caprises of her husband. She is taught respect, cooking, how to nurture e.t.c

There is no doubt that Ibo girls make the best wives and mothers. So yes, we won't just give her to you on a platter of gold. Because we know you are gaining a big asset for life!

Broke as$ Niggas everywhere... Looking for someone to build up an investment for him... SMH... When you should be talking about how to take care of your wife after marriage, you're here talking about gifts you're going to get from your in laws and whether it can be converted to money.. nawa oo, are you that broke??


No igbo gal will even near you with this your mindset...

ebonflex:
Both of you can either help answer the simple question or give way for more intelligent people to answer. The information given here will help guys understand this process more and help calm the nerves of guys who are currently in romantic relations with igbo girls and are considering marriage.

For the Igbos here, this is your chance to amicably show that igbo culture is not all about "taking" as this is the major fear with most guys.

When any guy comes knocking, the family shall explain everything to him.. For now, this your thread is meaningless because you'll never open your mind to understand anything said here as your mind is clogged with negativity...

Nna lekwanu gold digger o... chai!

Low self esteem niggas everywhere who do not also see themselves as precious investments. It's that same mindset that makes you all easy magas in that naija. You feel you have to "buy" your love. You feel "I am not enough". SMH its a pity.

Anyway, the floor is still open for intelligent people to share their experiences.