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Female Virginity In Islam by Nobody: 7:42pm On May 07, 2015 |
Dr Fuad-deen Olabisi Kekere-ekun wrote: THE IMPORTANCE OF KEEPING THE FEMALE VIRGINITY BEFORE MARRIAGE IN ISLAM. Virginity is a very strong sign of chastity in Islam. It cannot be underestimated today no matter what reasons we choose to profer here or else where. The Prophet s.a.w. recommended marrying virgins. That does not mean only those with intact hymens but those who have never attempted premarital sex till the time of nikah. Meeting the hymen intact or seeing blood stains on the first night is not as important as knowing that no man has touched the lady before getting married for the first time. The nikah of those married as virgins are not the same with those married after they have lost their virginity through premarital sex because their first partner remains on their mind. Women should strive to keep their virginity till their first night in marriage for their first ever legal husband. That is the joy of it all and that is the culture that Islam treasures a lot and also a practice treasured in so many tribes and cultures of the world. Virginity may not tell you the state of the heart but it definitely sends a strong message of morality, fidelity, chastity, loyalty and good home training and upbringing. No right thinking man will like to wish away such rare and invaluable precious qualities in a woman. We are not marrying from Hollywood, Bollywood or Nollywood. We are marrying from a pool of well trained muslim sisters from good Islamic homes. That is why Allah says that the fornicator should marry the fornicatress, and the pure and chaste men should also marry the pure and chaste women. Besides it does not matter or make much difference if a lady has been in jahiliyah or not prior to the time of practising Islam well and getting married. Jahiliyah is different from jahiliyah. There is jahiliyah with good home training and moral upbringing and there is jahiliyah with lack of home training and reckless and immoral upbringing. The fact that a lady grew up without Islam doesn't mean that she must have grown up loose without morality and chastity. Jahiliyah is not synonymous with reckless and immoral living and engaging in premarital sex and affairs. Most of our pious predecessors including the Prophet s.a.w. married before Islam during jahiliyah(ignorant) period and they married chaste women. In most cultures in the world, both Muslim and non-muslim, virginity and chastity are two inseparable twin qualities of good marriable spinsters. We are not saying that only virgins are chaste but being virgins at the time of nikah is a sure proof of chastity. Of course there are exceptions but they must remain exceptions because the accepted and recommended norm in Islam is to marry muhsanat which means chaste women either from the never married who are expected to be virgins and previously married chaste women from among the widows and divorcees who must have been married as virgins the first time they got married. However virgins are given priority over the previously married chaste women in the Sunnah of the Prophet (s.a.w.). Exceptions are chaste women who lost their virginity through rape or exercises when small but they must feel the loss and wish they didn't lose it physically though they remain chaste because virginity is a virtue and remains a virtue in today's immoral world though lack of hayah i.e. Islamic shyness and modesty in women is making many to disregard the sanctity and sacredness attached to virginity. Those who lost their virginity before developing islamic consciousness but later sincerely repented are among the chaste women but they are not equal with those who eventually married as virgins. That is why the Prophet s.a.w. said that paradise is guaranteed for any muslim man who succeeds in raising three, two or even one daughter with sound morals till he marries them out. This is their reward for marrying out their daughters as virgins. And he (s.a.w.) also said that the cuckold men who allow their wives and daughters to go out of the home indiscriminately and live immoral lives will not smell the aroma of paradise and will not enter it. Our young muslim girls must be taught to value, cherish and jealously guard their virginity till they get married. They must be made to know and understand the implication of carelessly losing their virginity and the importance of keeping it intact till they reach maturity age of getting married so that they are not discriminated against when looking for marriage partners in the future. Parents too must learn to protect their young girls from possible sexual abuse and rape incidences by never leaving them alone with strange men and grown male relatives who may abuse them. They must also be protected from useless sporting events and exercises that can lead to the loss of virginity. These measures are strictly observed in many non-muslim tribes and cultures of the world where they value and cherish virginity. Why not in the muslim community where it is a sunnah to marry virgins? Keeping virginity till marriage from time immemorial has been the best proof of chastity and the best way to remove all forms of suspicions of immorality and engagement in promiscuity. There is no way of establishing or differentiating the way of losing a virginity once it is lost. No one can say the difference between a ''one-time offender'' , a ''chronic offender'' and a completely innocent lady who has lost her virginity so it is better kept intact till the nikah day. We as Muslims and as good cultured and morally upright people of the world must continue to praise, glorify and recommend it as the Prophet s.a.w. did and taught us to do as a valid and strong sunnah that has come to stay. May Allah keep us guided. Amin. 68 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by dryakson(m): 11:26am On May 08, 2015 |
Masha Allah 6 Likes |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by Maishinkafa: 11:27am On May 08, 2015 |
Alhamdulillah 4 Likes |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by cashnaira247: 11:28am On May 08, 2015 |
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Re: Female Virginity In Islam by Oklander: 11:29am On May 08, 2015 |
Masha Allah... 3 Likes |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by idu1(m): 11:30am On May 08, 2015 |
Ok na 2 Likes |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by msb247(m): 11:34am On May 08, 2015 |
Unfortunately, so many girls are finding it hard to keep theirs nowadays...all in the name of civilization ![]() 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by JJCE(m): 11:35am On May 08, 2015 |
masha Allah... 3 Likes |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by efilefun(m): 11:35am On May 08, 2015 |
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Re: Female Virginity In Islam by seedorfg(m): 11:35am On May 08, 2015 |
so educating, allahu akbar 3 Likes |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by iduzebaba(m): 11:38am On May 08, 2015 |
Masha Allah 2 Likes |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by alaoeri: 11:38am On May 08, 2015 |
Jazakum llahukhairan op, whenever this issue comes ppl keep saying after all we are in civilized world now everything goes due to our level of immorality but i do say despite the civilisation the English royal family haven't change their traditions despite being non muslims, all crowned prince must marry a virgin besides their wives are nurture & guide from birth likewise the princes, if kufars can maintained such things then why won't a Muslim be conscious of this noble tradition of Islam? May Allah forgive us. 29 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by moshood1993(m): 11:41am On May 08, 2015 |
JAZA KUMLAH KHAIRAN
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Re: Female Virginity In Islam by teebabsman(m): 11:41am On May 08, 2015 |
Jazak'Allah khayran 2 Likes |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by weapoN2015(m): 11:45am On May 08, 2015 |
Haqqum. 1 Like |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by mrpackager(m): 11:47am On May 08, 2015 |
yep 1 Like 1 Share |
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Re: Female Virginity In Islam by maryhaam(f): 11:50am On May 08, 2015 |
Alhamdullilahi,nice write up 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by muktar10(m): 11:51am On May 08, 2015 |
Jazakhallahu khair! 1 Like |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by youngberry001(m): 11:56am On May 08, 2015 |
alhamdulillahi.....Islam is a peaceful religion 6 Likes |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by oladimeji09(m): 11:56am On May 08, 2015 |
jazakmllah khiran 2 Likes |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by chemaze(m): 11:56am On May 08, 2015 |
Girls of 2day lack the act of protecting their chastity Let my wife be virgin i pray 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by umu(m): 12:02pm On May 08, 2015 |
Jazakallahu Khairan! 1 Like |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by kwaraguy(m): 12:09pm On May 08, 2015 |
Allahu akbar |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by makzeze: 12:11pm On May 08, 2015 |
Nice one. lets train our kids both male and female to be moral. 5 Likes |
Re: Female Virginity In Islam by BabaAlaji(m): 12:12pm On May 08, 2015 |
Thnx & 9c write up. 1 Like 2 Shares |
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