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Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by phyllosilicate(m): 8:21pm On May 11, 2015 |
Pastor don enter one chance. The first lady is a "Virgin" he has known for years and the other lady that the pastor hasn't even seen is a "naïve house wife material" with a 3 year old baby ![]() ![]() ![]() Tell the Pastor to pray over it. 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Nobody: 8:22pm On May 11, 2015 |
The pastor no get Holyspirit or pray make God lead am? |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by ojinuocheibi(m): 8:22pm On May 11, 2015 |
paschu:tell the pastor to forget about the Internet girl or his life will soon be over be the child's father is locking around in the dark like the eyes of the devil looking for who to prey on for his failure. Let him go back to his creation the first girl she will marry him she just doesn't know yet, by the way what is keeping the pastor from fucking her for a period of 8yrs? He must be incomplete ![]() paschu:tell the pastor to forget about the Internet girl or his life will soon be over because the child's father is locking around in the dark like the eyes of the devil looking for who to prey on for his failure. Let him go back to his creation the first girl she will marry him she just doesn't know yet, by the way what is keeping the pastor from fucking her for a period of 8yrs? He must be incomplete |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by AdeniyiA(m): 8:23pm On May 11, 2015 |
Such a confusion is 'unchristianly' and unbiblical ,especially for a personality he claims. 2 Timothy 1:7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear(confusion) ; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by gebest: 8:24pm On May 11, 2015 |
Fake pastor, can't u pray for God direction. 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by ogawisdom(m): 8:27pm On May 11, 2015 |
D pastor is a certified clown ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by bid4rich(m): 8:28pm On May 11, 2015 |
Im not perfect o but this is what I can say in my own little way ''let the pastor follow his heart and the leading of the Spirit'' Since the girl wants him, it means she can convince the parent. I see no reason why he (pastor) shld settle for someone that just delievered. The question is ''the 2nd lady in question'' how did she get pregnant? Has he found out? What if he (pastor) go ahead and find out that she is not the type of person he actually want, will he consider divorce as option as a man of God? Im sure he knows the spiritual state of the 1st girl, does he know the spiritual state of the second? He should think twice because it may cost him heaven as well. He should remember also that ''unbalance home will reap unbalanced children'' The Bible says ''the husbandman shall be the first partaker of the fruit'' he has laboured spiritually and its the greatest investment in the life of any human being. Therefore, he must reap the fruit BUT prayerfully. 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Nobody: 8:30pm On May 11, 2015 |
greggng:u denied the baby then, and now coming back to claim him?? Also u want the baby now, and still rejecting the mother.... Guy u are a very wicked man!!! U dont deserve that baby ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by headtik: 8:32pm On May 11, 2015 |
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Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by chaloner(m): 8:33pm On May 11, 2015 |
oyin17:I dnt tink uu re ok , so d pastor won't marry abi , I tink u need to sprinkle urself anointin water. Ur mentality is smelling |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by jaybee3(m): 8:34pm On May 11, 2015 |
Aren't they meant to wait for the lord's guidance? |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by kpolli(m): 8:38pm On May 11, 2015 |
OP you want a wise answer but placed this in NL kids section?? But on a serious note, he is a pastor; I can't advice him better than the holy spirit... He should listen to Him... Plus I don't agree in accepting a child that isn't his when the real father is alive.... He should not be roped into a lie, then the mother will lie to the child that he is the father and then years later the truth comes out.... He will be the pastor who lied, the woman should realize the child has a father and should realize that the father will one day come back to her child's life.... The pastor can take care of the child as his but that is not his first child... And about the virgin girlfriend, what is her offer now? 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by anathemiamia(f): 8:41pm On May 11, 2015 |
He should man up and had better be prepared to take the child as his if he really loves her. Its not too much to ask. Its the equivalent of adopting a child but even better as he loves the mother. I'd be wary of the woman he met online and most people can agree that its quite easy to be different online and talk about emotions because he's not there to read your body language. Also its easy to type about feelings you don't actually feel because their just words. Harder to form these when the person is next to you. Last on this girl, if i had a 3-month old, i'd be desperate to get married and would say things you want to hear because you cant see me rolling my eyes or sighing in frustration. If he wants, her, he should take it slowly and know her better first IN PERSON. Also watch 2 episodes of MTVs Catfish The Show As for the virgin girl, he doesn't seem convinced that she can take him to the heights a woman should be able to take her husband to or be that humble person he would need as a pastor. I hate to judge but if i'm right, he shouldn't marry her. He's going to be married a long time so you have to be with someone who can race right along with you. Let him sort out his emotions for this girl and forgive her and himself for all the time and money spent. I don't believe anything is wasted. God can use anybody Why does it have to be one or the other? If any of them was truly right for him, he wouldn't need to ask these questions 2 Likes |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by upsonn(m): 8:42pm On May 11, 2015 |
I will advice him to go for 1year prayer and fasting.... Marathone to seek the face of God for his bone of the bone. Among the two... By then, he will be 37 n his brin will be fully functioning. 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by rakasbabe(f): 8:42pm On May 11, 2015 |
I dnt knw the denomination of dat pastor bt 4 christ sake he should nt involve himsef in such 4 d sake of his ministry. Cos pple go think say na his baby ,if he is a widower it will be acceptAble. 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by anathemiamia(f): 8:50pm On May 11, 2015 |
greggng: Dude, i know you think you're right but you have some growing to do with her. You want to take the baby after denying her when she needed the support. Forget it. You should have been there to eat some humble pie along with her. Find a way to be a father to your child without living with her. Ask for him to spend some weekends with your fam or with you so you'll have some responsibility. Stop thinking about marriage and concentrate on your child. Ask someone with a kid that age to tell you how much to send per month. Don't just send gifts, go out of your way to buy things for both of them personally. I'll advise mainly foodstuff and diapers. Everytime you've met her, you have judged her based on appearance and clearly found her wanting. You need to start over. Treat her like someone you just met who is going through a rough patch in life. Try to understand her, always listen to her. If you can't be with the person she truly is, don't marry her. You don't owe her marriage unless you forced her or you already promised to marry her. You're a man, deal with the pressure from your family and stand your ground regardless of what it is. No one will come and live your life for you 3 Likes |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Etizz: 8:50pm On May 11, 2015 |
If an unbeliever go to d pastor for counseling because he (unbeliever) proposed n fixed a marriage date on someone he met online, what will the pastor say to the unbeliever ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by shiki(m): 8:51pm On May 11, 2015 |
This pastor of urs need healing, ....Did he know the reason why the 1st man dump the lady? He would have been a nice pastor if he advised the lady without proposing, he's now planning for wedding without seeing her face to face, what if the lady has one leg? ![]() For me, it's advisable for him to accept the conditions of the 2nd lady and go ahead with the marriage, since nobody pushed him to her, .....except he never test a virgin before ![]() |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by greggng: 8:51pm On May 11, 2015 |
stardragon: U re entittled to ur opinion. Remenber I told you something happened before she presented the issue of her pregnancy. I didn't wanna say it but it becomes necessary now. I left her in my house for my nysc. One day I receive a call by my landlord threatening me with a notice to pack out and I asked wat happened and he simply replied that my girl friend has been gosiping him around the estate. I laughed over it. So went I got to lagos I asked her and she denied any knowledge. May I remind u that in the night I asked her for sex and she told me she is on her period . She knew I don't make luv to her anytime she is on her period. The next day I left . Two weeks later she told me she wants to confess something that happened btw her and the landlord. She told me that the landlord sent for her and when she got into his office he crabed her from behind. That in the struggle she got him wounded cos one of his legs was amputed cos of diabetes. He was rushed to the hospital. My anger with her was that this incident happened two months before she was able to tell me. She said the landlord son begged her never to tell me cos I might be mad over the issue. A month after this she told me she was pregnant. I am not wicked I trained her from secondary to higher institution but when a family meeting was called to settle the matter her family fought me and everyone that went with me warned me never to ve such people as inlaws. If you re in my shoes u will do worst. Don't judge me yet |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by UthyWebAppsMan(m): 8:53pm On May 11, 2015 |
it's amusing u seek advice for a pastor on Nairaland... can't he just pray bout it abi God's answer wont b good enuf?!! ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by mignone(f): 8:54pm On May 11, 2015 |
Pls y doesn't he just seek God's leading instead of trying to solve it all by himself. d investment in d first girl means nothing mch; they might b destined 2 b jst friends 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Nobody: 8:55pm On May 11, 2015 |
Pastor should get to know the internet girl in the real world The reasons you have given as to why pastor wants to marry the first are well not inspiring- she is a virgin, he has known her for eight years, she wants him back in her life. Does he want her because she is convenient or because he genuinely enjoys her person? Pastor should Stop acting so desperate remember the place of being still and prayers 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by bestiyke(m): 8:57pm On May 11, 2015 |
[color=#006600][/color] The pastor should allow his emotin drive him. Let him feel that he pay back the first gal for break-up at 1st. Let him not be a victim sympathy. Let him not be driven by ego. Let ask baba God with open and free mind who he should marry- the first, the second or another - that will assist him in his ministry. Wait a minute what is a pastor doing on date site. Depression! It can lead to do undo. I commend him for devirgining the virgin during the days of mentoring and mentoring. Luzzzzzz! |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by BboyChinon(m): 8:57pm On May 11, 2015 |
The composer of this write up should be confused ![]() |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Iamvictor(m): 8:59pm On May 11, 2015 |
Pastor's Love : Latest Nollywood movie. Staring Kanayo o. Kanayo as pastor and patience Ozokwo as virgin girl..... Enjoy... #9ja4Life 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by greggng: 9:00pm On May 11, 2015 |
anathemiamia: I really appreciate ur coment. U talk like someone that knows my story |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by anathemiamia(f): 9:00pm On May 11, 2015 |
Iamvictor: Tonto should be the virgin girl 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Homguy(m): 9:00pm On May 11, 2015 |
paschu:sorry I had to quote your epistle. 1. As regards the 1st lady, she might be a virgin. She might want him back, they might have been together for a long time, but the ultimate questions are about her personality and family. Does our pastor think she has got the will to go against her parents? It takes more than her wanting to marry your friend. She might be calling him back out of loneliness, but remember she would be going to service, and would meet a plethora of people, situations And temptations. Do you think she would still stick to our pastor when richer, graduates propose to her as her parents are gainst the marriage and our pastor is unschooled?, I think not. Ladies like that are rare, and far in between. 2. The fact she is a virgin is a good. But its not a sure predicator of how marriage to her might turn out. Neither is the fact that she was an exco on campus anything serious to go by, especially as you stated that she's classy, maybe flamboyant, and hides her emotion from her supposed love, which expectedly drives him nuts. Would he want to deal with that for a lifetime? I personally won't. 3. The second lady might be as naive as your friend pointed, because very few ladies get pregnant out of wedlock and keep it despite the various methods of evacuation available. Her acceptance by our pastor has more to do with his personality than hers. Can he afford adopting another's child as his 1st? Can he cope with the divided attention of this new mother? Is he ready to take that child as his without unfair discrimination? There's also a possibility that he's just a rebound but that shouldn't scare him so much. I have a hunch she would be indebted to him and try to show her gratitude by giving him her all, as opposed to the 1st lady. 4. This isn't directly related to what's happening, but does your friendwork and earn? Can he cater for an extra or 2 extra mouths or is he as poor as former? It determines to a large extent how things might turn out, if he's not making any decent income, the 1st lady might just be about using him AS A seat filler because on few graduate ladies would marry a poor man who is unschooled for that matter . Besides , I don't subscribe to jobless pastors. 5. Finally, if he were my brother, I would ask him to consider a totally different lady from both, but if he is bent on either one, he has to answer affirmatively to questions I asked as regards both ladies before I can give an advice.however, The second lady is IMO a lesser risk to a peaceful marriage than the fresh, virgin graduate, who i doubt would want to marry against her family's wish, and to a pastor who might not be earning much. Ladies like that are rare, if she is, if he can answer affirmative to my questions about her,then she's a gem. Give me her number,lol. 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by skondo09(m): 9:01pm On May 11, 2015 |
i tink pastor went for d online gal because he is emotionaly stressd, d babymamai tink is usin pastor as remedial drug n lukin for responsble man to carter for ha son, their rltnshp is kindq out of pity n may nt last. If d oda gal is crious she shld be consdered, i guess pastor shld give sum tym b4 goingon on his marriage plan. If he is stil a pqstor let him pray |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Nobody: 9:01pm On May 11, 2015 |
chaloner: You need Jesus like never before! are you ready to give your life to him? He is standing at the door of your heart, open your heart for him to come in. tomorrow may be too late. are you ready? |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Charly68: 9:02pm On May 11, 2015 |
Why should a pastor be interested in internet dating to the extent of proposing marriage to a lady he does not know. He really needs salvation and should stop calling himself pastor. How do u leave reality for unreality? Did he feel discourage because of family opposition to his earlier fiancee? It means he is not a man. So her expected the lady's parents to give him automatic acceptance. Life does not operate in that order always . 1 Like |
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