I have always imagine sex... Now I
am married last week, finding no joy in it because d place is virtually closed... Every time she is shouting... My penis then goes weak... Paining me... Hav not even release...
though blood has come out but penetration still near zero

Na so e de be... I b 'mugu' for d tin, she be Virgin....

Any tips from you....

take your time, go slow, discover your bride fully, communicate with her, know when it hurts her and when she likes it, ask questions like "do you want me to go faster/slower" "do you like it""do you want me to stop" etc, she is a novice and so are you, so you guys need to learn together.

pls do NOT try to duplicate what you see in po.rn movies....these are movies and rarely what two loving virgin partner do on their 1st sex.

Am a virgin too,so here to learn

MRBrownJ:
take your time, go slow, discover your bride fully, communicate with her, know when it hurts her and when she likes it, ask questions like "do you want me to go faster/slower" "do you like it""do you want me to stop" etc, she is a novice and so are you, so you guys need to learn together.

pls do NOT try to duplicate what you see in po.rn movies....these are movies and rarely what two loving virgin partner do on their 1st sex.

Thank you for this ... I just downloaded one porn to see what I can pick out there but let me just delete it... U are right... I don't like porn but was forced to download.......

Me so eager to get passed this faze....

cyprus000:
[size=13pt] Then use star bottle head burst the hymen,if your diick dey pain you.

Thank me leta [/size]

Thank you already... Lolx

V card lost

ify84:


Thank you for this ... I just downloaded one porn to see what I can pick out there but let me just delete it... U are right... I don't like porn but was forced to download.......

Me so eager to get passed this faze....

op go with hand first b4 proper penetration,you can still use lubricant...ultimately ensure that shez wet already prior to slotting

@ OP,since u guys are new I bliv there are som tins to be done in ur case whc u guys hav not taken into consideration, firstly try fore-play before even goin for penetration as pre-intimacy tends to ease d nervousness on ur spouse side n it also helps in producing lubricant in her Vee dat aids in easy penetratn of ur member. Do a lot of discussion wit her abt sex ,dnt be in a hurry to penetrate n mke sure u slide in gently to giv her d comfort she desires

ify84:
Thank you for this ... I just downloaded one porn to see what I can pick out there but let me just delete it... U are right... I don't like porn but was forced to download.......
Me so eager to get passed this faze....

i fully understand that you are eager to make love to this woman and duplicate all the misconception you may have had about sex....but you need to slow down, and gradually get her to be the po.rnstar you hope her to be.

1) you have to accept that, because you guys are both novices in the game, it will take many trials and errors before you discover A) each other and B) what turns you on (or not). Rome wasnt built in one day, neither did good sex between
two virgins.

2) you have to be GENTLE, let me say it again: you MUST be gentle with this lady. if you are too eager and she is not receptive then you will only make her close even more while you want her to open. so dont force her into doing anything she doesnt want. you have to take it slow and focus on what you are doing. she is like a flower and you dont want to break her, you want to care and cherish her, so nothing "hard" or "brutal". so forget about penetration for a while and instead discover her body, discover her mind, discover her desires, and possibly her fantasies (that one is the jackpot). the minute you know what makes her wet is the minute you are making progress with your new wife.

3) she must be scared and/or uncomfortable, so start with making her feel comfortable around you so she can open up to you NATURALLY (and not by force). start with caressing her, soft touches here and there to understand which part of her body gets her all tingly. run you fingers on her body, practice on your own body to make it perfect, its like your fingers floating on her body, almost not touching her. she has a whole body, dont just focus on tittays and toto, these are just the cherry on the cake. you have hands so use them, sometimes you may do things that may seem pointless to you but that is so much rewarding to her. the aim here is for her to relax around you, if she doesnt then sex will never be rewarding.

4) your body, rub it on hers gently, let her feel how warm you are. hug her, keep her close to you, make her feel like you guys are "one". if she easily get nekkid around you then thats a good step forward.

5) while doing all this, talk to her, open up and let her know how you feel about her, how you love her and care for her (not just that you want to bang her). tell her what you like about her, tell her how warm she is, tell her how nice she smell, how good she tastes, how great she looks, how wonderful she is next to you, how lucky you are etc etc make her feel like she is the most beautiful woman on earth. you can also tell her this all day long, but in the bedroom it makes you score more points. btw: say it like you mean it, and if you can whisper it in her ears, it is even better.

5) kiss/lick her everywhere, yeah you heard me right, EVERYWHERE....your lips need to caress every single part of her body. run your lips/tongue all over her skin...if you do it right, you will see the goose bumps...her ears, her neck, her lower back, her sides...these are very sensitive places that need to be explored with your lips/tongue. again the tittays and toto is the cherry on the cake so focus on other places FIRST, and gradually arrive at these places. sometimes touch these areas to take her "temperature" and go back to what you were doing before. and even when you are going to lick her everywhere, be extra gentle... her ni.pples must not be sucked like you are sucking on an orange, they must be sucked/played with like they could break any moment. around the ni.pples is also very sensitive so play with that area.

6) before you penetrate her, you need to prepare her toto (remember this is like playing with dynamite)....so caress it gently, play with it, lick it good (if it aint against your religious beliefs), ask her if she likes it and start gently with inserting your little finger and let her get accustomed to it. discover all her inside gently, and let her naturally get wet (if she aint already), then try a bigger finger. you can lick her clit while you have a finger inside her (some women explode when you do that). the point is that she should be comfortable when your finger is in there. ask her if she likes it, how she wants it, slower faster, if she prefers it any other way etc. communicate with your bride, let you guys be ONE.

she should also be doing the same things to you but if she is a virgin then it will also take time. there is no GOOD or BAD way so long as you are both comfortable AND ok with what you are doing. so communicate communicate communicate.

...and this is just pre-intimacy

ps: ask her to close her eyes, if it makes her feel more comfortable around you (but beware because some will then start fantasising about some other dude, haba!!!!)

cyprus000:
[size=13pt] Then use star bottle head burst the hymen,if your diick dey pain you.

Thank me leta [/size]

you no serious

[quote author=cyprus000 post=33710067][size=13pt]
Sweery,abi na lie?[/size][/quote


I don't know o

this is why i cant marry a virgin
cant go tru all this stress again
u have to extra arouse her, start with fingering may take days, or even weeks for u to fully penetrate

[quote author=oyin17 post=33710173][/quote][size=13pt] C'mon.
Don't be shy,say somtin to daddy
Daddy doesn't lyk shy shy baby [/size]

cyprus000:
[size=13pt] C'mon.
Don't be shy,say somtin to daddy
Daddy doesn't lyk shy shy baby [/size]

shyness is not in my dictionary

Ify84, MrBrownJ is totally on point.

In addition, make sure you always use lots and lots of lubricant, and that she takes a lot of vitamin C throughout the day (you can talk to a doctor for detailed explanation on that).

ify84:
I have always imagine sex... Now I
am married last week, finding no joy in it because d place is virtually closed... Every time she is shouting... My penis then goes weak... Paining me... Hav not even release...
though blood has come out but penetration still near zero

Na so e de be... I b 'mugu' for d tin, she be was a Virgin....

Any tips from you....

two of you are no longer virgins, whether you penetrate near zero or fully.

ify84:
I have always imagine sex... Now I
am married last week, finding no joy in it because d place is virtually closed... Every time she is shouting... My penis then goes weak... Paining me... Hav not even release...
though blood has come out but penetration still near zero

Na so e de be... I b 'mugu' for d tin, she be Virgin....

Any tips from you....

premconceptonline@yandex.com

ify84:
I have always imagine sex... Now I
am married last week, finding no joy in it because d place is virtually closed... Every time she is shouting... My penis then goes weak... Paining me... Hav not even release...

Dear ify84 first of all I would like to congratulate you on achieving what a lot of us based on one excuse or the other could not achieve. In the future this achievement would come to mind when trust issues arise. Once again I say congrats.

Your wife's case 'seems' to be a simple case of vaginismus (you can wikipedia it). It happens whan the size of the vagina entrance is small and the muscles in that area do not expand to required size. Note that this is a temporary situation as every adult vagina can accomodate the size of a baby so there is no need worry. The solution is to train the vagina to accomodate your manhood size with time. Overall this might take aperiod of 2weeks to a month. By the time you guys have your first baby it would not even be remembered.

Keep the torch burning bro.
Wishing you well - Teemy
STEPS
Work your way up with tiny insertions from your pinky finger till it can accomodate the thumb.
Always use lubrication. (Olive oil is readily available)
Catch fun as you both perform the exercise of she can keep doing this whenever she is less busy.

If you guys are open to it in the interim you guys can have MouthAction and play to get used to one another's privates.

N.B I would highly recommend you keep off porn as the emotional demerits do not compare to whatever info you might skim trust me (first hand info).

boynigeria:
this is why i cant marry a virgin
cant go tru all this stress again
u have to extra arouse her, start with fingering may take days, or even weeks for u to fully penetrate

For the woman you call wife it would add to the stories you would both laugh about in the future. Really solving that vaginismus together is a funny get-together event.

In every marriage no matter how much they both trust ano another there would always be trust issues and your partner's past would always be a yardstick to how long you would hold that thought in mind. Being a virgin has its merits and is still fashionable. For the religios ones I believe if it was an unattainable feat the Higher Power would not have encouraged this.

teemy:


Dear ify84 first of all I would like to congratulate you on achieving what a lot of us based on one excuse or the other could not achieve. In the future this achievement would come to mind when trust issues arise. Once again I say congrats.

Your wife's case 'seems' to be a simple case of vaginismus (you can wikipedia it). It happens whan the size of the vagina entrance is small and the muscles in that area do not expand to required size. Note that this is a temporary situation as every adult vagina can accomodate the size of a baby so there is no need worry. The solution is to train the vagina to accomodate your manhood size with time. Overall this might take aperiod of 2weeks to a month. By the time you guys have your first baby it would not even be remembered.

Keep the torch burning bro.
Wishing you well - Teemy
STEPS
Work your way up with tiny insertions from your pinky finger till it can accomodate the thumb.
Always use lubrication. (Olive oil is readily available)
Catch fun as you both perform the exercise of she can keep doing this whenever she is less busy.

If you guys are open to it in the interim you guys can have MouthAction and play to get used to one another's privates.

N.B I would highly recommend you keep off porn as the emotional demerits do not compare to whatever info you might skim trust me (first hand info).

thank you, we have now made progress... and still making, looking for the best sex position, as i am over 6feet, missionary position, hard

premConcept:
premconceptonline@yandex.com

reply my mail

ify84:


thank you, we have now made progress... and still making, looking for the best sex position, as i am over 6feet, missionary position, hard

man there are lots you can do than that. search positions on cosmopolitan website. there are lots of soups you can prepare in the kitchen than egusi alone. wink*.

All the best dear.