i'm trying to check mate the way i spend money because i found out recently that i spend too much, of which i can't give account of how the money was spent, so my girl opt for a joint account to check mate the way i withdraw and spend money. what is your stake on this? pls let me know what your opions are.

Hmm this is subjective. It depends on the type of girl you have. If you trust her enough, why not? But, personally i wouldn't try it. Whatever floats your boat love

g/f NO NO. the mrs 101% MUST

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g/f NO NO. the mrs 101% MUST

To think of it I wouldn't want to run a joint account with my husband. We've got different lives, innit
So far the bills gets paid on time and we don't have to argue about money, then we're totally cool

busygirl:

To think of it I wouldn't want to run a joint account with my husband. We've got different lives, innit

why is that?

@ topic

hell no

she is your girlfriend not your wife!

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why is that?

I'm not tryna be selfish but i think we still hold different lives. I wouldn't wanna argue with my husband over money. So let every one be the caretaker of his/her own account. So far the bills are paid on time and your husband is performing his responsibilities ( a personal view though)

Omolola1:

@ topic

hell no

she is your girlfriend not your wife!

is she going to steal your money with out your mandate (signature)? hell no. except she will wants to be wicked not affixing her signature on the cheque.

Galfriend/Fiancee . . . .No way.

Wife. . .Yeah why not. . ._{afterall that aint my only account . . .right}

busygirl:

I'm not tryna be selfish but i think we still hold different lives. I wouldn't wanna argue with my husband over money. So let every one be the caretaker of his/her own account. So far the bills are paid on time and your husband is performing his responsibilities ( a personal view though)

thanks. i believe (personally) every family must have a common joint account.  they should by all means have their personal accounts plus what we call family accounts that both have access to. ours are mostly operated by the lady of the house because she is better at it.  it suits us best.

feel free to practice what you think will work best for you.

so some Naija men can still fall victim to female fraudsters in this Obama generation

Boyfriend NO. But he can give me his bank card sha with the pin

Husband YESSSS.

funkybaby:

Boyfriend NO. But he can give me his bank card sha with the pin

Husband YESSSS.

Ben20001:

so some Naija men can still fall victim to female fraudsters in this Obama generation

so love have no respect in this situation. there is something i still don't understand, will he/she make withdrawal without on your behalf? something i think is not possible. i love this girl and i think oh i will want to marry her.

Boyfriend, Fiance's NO WAY!!! Husband, hmmmm,

I dey craze? Not even a full joint account with my husband.

dgr8truth:

i'm trying to check mate the way i spend money because i found out recently that i spend too much, of which i can't give account of how the money was spent, so my girl opt for a joint account to check mate the way i withdraw and spend money. what is your stake on this? pls let me know what your opions are.

Looks to me like she's juts offering you help . . . you can say no if you want to , but personally I dont see anything wrong in that. I'm a wasteful spender myself so I'll really appreciate someone in my life who'll help me handle my finances better.

Besides like someone said what is she gonna do? Run away with your money? She cant make withdrawals without your consent so kini big deal?

Ujujoan:

Looks to me like she's juts offering you help . . . you can say no if you want to , but personally I don't see anything wrong in that. I'm a wasteful spender myself so I'll really appreciate someone in my life who'll help me handle my finances better.

Besides like someone said what is she gonna do? Run away with your money? She cant make withdrawals without your consent so Kin big deal?

I think your point(s) is well articulated.

It seems these people are just saying no without any good reason. well I'm not surprise that is how most Nigerians behave they are not rational in the ideology and psychology. just because she is your girlfriend it's a no go area. come on wake from your ignorance and start thinking as a rational person.

First all,
We both seem to be in the same jam -spending habits that's getting way outta control. But that's where the contrast ends-as there's no gal suggesting a joint account.
Two things:
1. Fine,you go ahead and open a joint account-but what happens if the relationship ends thereafter.
2. An ex suggested that in the past,it wasn't for a joint account though-but for a joint investment.
Lets just say i was advised against it -reason being that we weren't married. Relationship ended still, so no awkward strings attached thereafter.

If the relationship ends in the near future there is no problem we go to the bank and close the deal there. the problem with so many of guys is that the way we end our relationship is always crown with enmity with the other partner as a result of which we find it very difficult to communicate which aught not to be so. All relationship is not expected to lead to marriage, that should be registered at the very back of our mind, so that it wouldn't come as a surprise.

Lovelace:

First all,
We both seem to be in the same jam -spending habits that's getting way outta control. But that's where the contrast ends-as there's no gal suggesting a joint account.
Two things:
1. Fine,you go ahead and open a joint account-but what happens if the relationship ends thereafter.
2. An ex suggested that in the past,it wasn't for a joint account though-but for a joint investment.
Lets just say i was advised against it -reason being that we weren't married. Relationship ended still, so no awkward strings attached thereafter.

Answere to your questions:

1. If you split you close the joint account
2. If your split you can either decide to continue with the business or you split the profits and bail out if you think it'll be too awkward.

Like I said earlier, nothing wrong with it. Besides marriage is no guarantee. Some marriages do end in divorce.

Laye Laye , I don marry am ni ? Girl friend Never

pureminded:

Laye Laye , I don marry am ni ? Girl friend Never

It seems you don't have a cogent reason why you won't do it. I guess because others have said no, you just have to join their boat. Common man be on your own ok.

Never because she's not yet my wife. Ever heard of the Yoruba adage that says "ówo lo ñ bojù òré jee".

Hey Girl or Boy , could you pls mind your Biz ? Im nt here to yahb ok? but if you request im gon give it to you real well . I dont think i've said someffin wrong and what make you think im not my self?? common boy or girl, Can you use a joint account with your GF? Maybe you are ajebutter or small boy, I dont know , but i think if you are mature enough , u suppose to know girl friend can f***k you up and chop off all your sweats and do you have experience of mature dating at all? we are not talking about kids dating here , Ok? we r talking about mature relationship (Fiancee thing)ok?

I don get point Now

guy we nor dey here to quarrel, ok. you talked about matured dating. what do you call mature dating when you can maintain thesame financial habit with some you want to marry. i think she knowing how much you will make her to mind her asking habit and when you tell her you don't have she will understand any way it depends on individual.