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Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 7:35am On May 30, 2015 |
cococandy: Lolzz, I was not done before you quoted that post, the new one includes my reason for quoting you and an apology |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 7:59am On May 30, 2015 |
As for this thread....... All that has to be said has been said, i must say this though, most women agreeing with the op already have a history which they do not intend to disclose anyway, this thread only serves to reassure them, which it has... To the few who intend to practice this, sorry for you in advance. On the other hand, this is a wake-up call for the men, you owe yourselves a responsibility to find out every detail about the woman you intend to marry, sexual history, criminal history, family history, social history... Employ the services of a professional investigator if necessary, if she was a prostitute or criminal or have had abortions before, it shouldn't be too difficult to find out... There's always that vindictive friend or angry ex-boyfriend or jealous neighbour, looking for an opportunity to deal with her... Dig hard enough and they would come through.... dont be a victim.... 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by PreciousBro: 8:28am On May 30, 2015 |
njokusboy: This input summarises it,that is why some igbos seek information about the intending spouse,i never saw the wisdom in it, I guess now I do. And to add to it, those that think that for some reason they have or posses some super-natural power or instinct to determine the future if things are done this or that way regardless of the bad in their act, should also put that super magical prowess in good use by avoiding real life disturbing intricacies as premature death,sicknesses,bad omen ,subsequent disasters, after all, they know the future by their act. Imagine the vague excuses of "Men do it" and so why shouldn't we, who are the men ? The men in peoples exclusive relationship or marriage ? You know about that ? Does it justify it as right ? Do we as good and respectful men shake the hands of men that were armed robbers,assassins and rapists for misleading women into marriage without telling them their disturbing past ? This is sense Versus Nonsense, human beings are either good or bad, men or women are guilty of either being good or bad so why should some women justify or advance and advocate vice over virtue on grounds that "men do it so its right" bases ? The fickleness and intricacies of the female mind never ceases to be perturbing. Smh I once revere some monikers I saw here with such hideous ideology as advice, not anymore, although it isn't important anyway, after all people are good or bad, just relate with them as what they are. All I know is that we reap what we sow. For some glaring reasons the norm and order of some now is to sow a bad seed expecting good tidings out of it . Is that wise ? I believe the synonym for that definition should and would be everything adverse to wisdom. Thank you. 14 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by bukatyne(f): 9:12am On May 30, 2015 |
babyosisi: You know I say God is sometimes diplomatic. Anytime I read that story, I marvel. |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Ngokafor(f): 9:13am On May 30, 2015 |
keppyy: ...Listen up sweetie,those women are simply being realistic.. ...A lot of such confessions have back-fired big time in the faces of such confession-mongering females.Our men are simply too immature to handle anything that has to do with a womans sexuality,yet these same he-goats will just not let women be..even if you are married!!..(talking from experience). ...so except you have a disease or have no womb because of too much abortion which you should disclose to you partner..keep your mouth shut and confess to God alone.You are confessing to man,is he God?.How did you offend him when the affairs were before you met him? ...As for those talking about 'digging'..i just laugh in your faces.. ...Like the icon Chinua Achebe said,..'since the hunter has learnt to shoot without missing,the eneke bird has learnt to fly without perching'...so Goodluck without Jonathan. 5 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Anaskie(m): 9:53am On May 30, 2015 |
Ngokafor:You should have pointed out the flaws in my argument, rather than calling me names. Anyways, I get your point. Keep your shady past away from your husband/fiancee and pray he never finds out abi? Why in the world should you tell him that you no longer have a womb because you've had 8 abortions? He clearly doesn't deserve to know about such sensitive information. Of course, smart women should know that such privileged info belongs to them alone. Best advice ever! Clap for yourself!! 8 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by simiolu1(m): 10:10am On May 30, 2015 |
As a teenager, I understood that every1 has a past whether good or bad. In fact, I see it a fundamental human right. I have mine too and in every relationship, I make my partner always understand that their past would not be an issue if it does not interfere with our relationship and future. With this mindset, my partners have been able to open up to me and I've heard things that would make most ears tingle! I've once dated a mother of twins (in fact she was my first gf), a girlfriend once admitted to being in a lesbian relationship etc. But the one that suprised me most was a girl who once told me she was a virgin (she told me of her own volition; I never ask if a girl is a virgin or not cos I know that time would tell). Later on when we were about to start dating, she told me she wasn't a virgin but that she's been abstaining from sex. When things got serious, she told me that once I hav sex with her, she won't be able to control her urges. This made me travel from Ogbomoso to Oyo every week back then. One night while in my arms, she opened up to me and delved into her past relationships, how she became a sex addict, got pregnant for her ex-bf and did an abortion. What I've learnt is that ladies are calculative. They ain't stupid. If they tell you about their past, it's a test. They do so cos they trust that you'll keep their secret. On the guys part, you must be mature enough to handle a relationship and all the issues and baggages that come with one. If you are not, you have no business being in a relationship. A friend of mine told me about the sex life of his current relationship. He, the girl and I attend the same church and cos my friend is a "bro" I just assumed they weren't shaggin. My friend expressed his suprise to me bout the different sexx styles this lady has been showing him in d bedroom and asked me where she learnt them from. I was like are you a learner? |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by harveyspec: 10:48am On May 30, 2015 |
simiolu1: Spot on!! Notice the stages & timing it took for her to reveal her past, that ought to be the advise here of know when to spill, where to spill & how to spill it!!! If she had told u all at once at the beginning, you would have fled One of my best definition of love is "to know is to love" As I know/discover you daily, my love would grow deeper for u, not until I know you I can't truly say I love you As a guy, you meet a lady you like, get to know her, start dating, as the relationship progresses it is expected that certain info be revealed Because I like you & have come to know you & understand you, I can forgive some of the errors of your past, I will be willing to put myself in your shoe & understand why you did that thing Sometimes we are slammed with info we can't handle but becos we have come to love the person, we may pull back but we go back to that person Thanks for your submission, those that want to follow the OP's advice should do so but they should be given a Caveat Emptor too imagine what they are saying that " if it doesn't have any bearing on the future of the current relationship then don't spill" How do you determine which of your past or how ur past will pop up in your future? women are good with secrets but a woman that can successfully tow the OP's line is devilish, imagine the guilt she will be carrying knowing fully well that she is deceiving the man God help us all 6 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by pickabeau1: 10:56am On May 30, 2015 |
cococandy: Read my posts to bykatyne I was referring to stuff done in marriage Why r u confessing to priest when u have a husband? 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by pickabeau1: 11:20am On May 30, 2015 |
If your 'mother' in Israel had said something different then you will not be her daughter Na Brothers beware Deception lives and breathes in the church If these are the kind of people preaching ideology in d church you are best looking for a babe in the club Women in d church are ready to do anything just to keep and stay in their deceptive marriages I won't be surprised if they are also fetish and consult occult Beware.. babyosisi: 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 11:49am On May 30, 2015 |
harveyspec: I fully agree with this... |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by simiolu1(m): 11:56am On May 30, 2015 |
harveyspec: I didn't want my post to be too lengthy that's y I didn't talk about timing. But more importantly, your partner must rest assured that he or she has ur listening ear. If you're d type that doesn't engage your partner in heart to heart talks with an open mind void of bias and prejudices, don't expect him/her to spill nada! That's y I tel my niccurs and friends that being able to handle a woman is more than mind-blowing shagging. Also, a smart partner reveals things little by little until they know that you're capable of handling any baggage they dump on you! |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 11:57am On May 30, 2015 |
simiolu1: Why do you guys think that because a girl has a vast knowledge of sexual positions and she knows how to deep throat very well then she must be a LovePeddler or have a high body count? Girls watch Porn (I used to as a matter of fact) and while you guys watch it to jerk off, some watch it to learn and also have fun... |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 12:04pm On May 30, 2015 |
Personally, I used to care about. My potential "Bf's" past but recently I stopped caring because to me they are irrelevant and telling me won't change anything and besides the economy is too hard now, I need to make use of my time efficiently... Back then I used to investigate too seffff and so much more, I realised that I was insecure and maybe Jobless sefff... Right now I care about the past that affects the present and Getting a good job (abeg Abuja accomodation is not smiling and I need a car sefffff)... 2 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by simiolu1(m): 12:16pm On May 30, 2015 |
babyosisi:That man is a complete fcuktard while d wife is foolish too. In their years of marriage, the woman should have discovered the straw that could break her husband's back. I know a couple (in my church of course) whose marriage is between 35-40 years old. At a time when d husband was running after everything in skirt, d woman (a nurse) found comfort in d arms of a Dr. Long story short, she got pregnant for the same Dr and d husband knew the pregnancy wasn't his cos they had stopped sleeping together. To further compound issues, d Dr had many wives who had failed to give him a male child and when the woman told him d baby was his and a male, he forbade her from aborting it. So a married woman eventually got pregnant for another man in her husband's house, gave birth to that child, got accepted back by d husband and d husband raised the same child knowing fully well that the child is not his! Sounds like a script from Nollywood? I couldn't believe it either when I heard d story from the woman's lips. My point? Every relationship is different and this is clearly an issue of one size does not fit all. What is applicable to Mr & Mrs A may not be applicable to Mr & Mrs B. In conclusion, study your spouse and let wisdom guide you in determining how much of your past you're willing to disclose. If you ain't willing to disclose s.hit, pray to whichever God you serve that your past doesn't turn up one day to haunt you! #NuffSaid 4 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by simiolu1(m): 12:23pm On May 30, 2015 |
keppyy:I never said I think like that. I only cited that example to highlight one of the problems women have with showing and revealing who they are to their guy. You're right that guys miscontrue sexual knowledge to mean a high body count but remember that it is probable that that's what it means. |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 12:39pm On May 30, 2015 |
simiolu1: Yes, it's Probable but how do you discern if it's true or not I dated a guy once who dumped me because I gave him a BJ as good as a Grade A LovePeddler (His exact words)...He never believed that I learnt it from Porn and several practice with a candle stick and he insisted that I was not a virgin (which I was)...Despite all the explanations from my sister and friends, he dumped my sorry Ass... So tell me, how do you know what is true and what is not? As for Body count, I know some girls that their body count is ab out 8 and have a out 10 sexual penetrations, while some have a body count of 2 with over a 100 sexual penetrations... 3 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 2:11pm On May 30, 2015 |
njokusboy: If you have to do all this,you probably shouldn't Marry The women already should know that for every single thing she did,the man probably did ten Every abortion or prostitution history has men in it. The sexual history and criminal history of men is unequaled All these stories of rape,gang banging,sexual moles.stations ,pedophilia,incest and armed robbery ,kidnappings,419, drug dealings thuggery and killings both for fun and rituals,and home invasions we read about continually are committed 99.9% by males but when marriage time comes you become saints Ladies be wise Old things are passed away 2 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Jahblessme: 2:18pm On May 30, 2015 |
I dunno why they are crying about deciet..how is it deciet? The babe is simply not volunteering unnecessary information.aka being economical with the truth.. The painment on this thread is real.If you like employ FBI,a woman who is coded is coded.Nothing you can do about it except the chick works in a well known brothel. No to unnecessary mouth flapping 5 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 2:20pm On May 30, 2015 |
Ngokafor: I rest my case 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 2:21pm On May 30, 2015 |
Jahblessme: Don't u just love this thread? 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 2:24pm On May 30, 2015 |
keppyy: CHineke mee |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Jahblessme: 2:28pm On May 30, 2015 |
@ keppyy Next time please deliver a few strategic bites here and there to appear like you dunno what to do. Most of them cannot handle a woman who knows what she's doing.They prefer to be deceived.Very very few are matured enough to appreciate that a girl could be versed in the art of delivering se xual pleasure without being an ashana.. Yet they are on se xuality section sharing info on ashawo joints. Hope you've learnt your lesson. @babyosisi E dey sweet me like sugar 3 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 2:32pm On May 30, 2015 |
babyosisi: See wahala oh You must be a very devious woman, you are not in a position to say what I should or shouldn't do when I decide to get married... You cannot advice women to hide their shady past and tell men not to investigate at the same time.. Since women lack credibility, its now our duty to do a thorough check. Thanks for opening our eyes... Like aneke the bird said "since men have learnt to shoot without missing, I have learnt to fly without perching" Cunny man die, Cunny man bury 4 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 2:35pm On May 30, 2015 |
simiolu1: Every girl who has opened her stupid mouth to blab to a man should read this post well well Read it about 5 times consecutively Simiolu1 thank you for this Ladies,You must not be those girls,it's best you keep yourself but where you don't,apply wisdom No matter how love is shacking you,you must not never never give out any past information about yourself to a man that is just passing by please stop doing that.it is to your detriment. For those wondering why your relationships are coming to a sudden halt Watch yourself What are you saying and what have you said about yourself? Absolutely no abortion stories Never Stop No abortion stories should ever emanate out of your mouths 2 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 2:43pm On May 30, 2015 |
Jahblessme: Exactly She can't ever show she is a pro next time Wisdom is very very essential in life Anybody that lacks it should ask Husbands have been known to accuse wives of cheating because they wanted to do something different |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 2:44pm On May 30, 2015 |
Jahblessme: Hmmmmmm...Lesson fully learnt and till this day I have a phobia for that "stuff"... Personally, I don't even know what men what... As humans, we all want to know the truth but the question is "can you handle the truth?"..... I'm confused sefff... |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 2:46pm On May 30, 2015 |
keppyy: That is where wisdom comes to play Some truths are better un revealed when they serve no purposes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Ngokafor(f): 2:47pm On May 30, 2015 |
babyosisi: ..My thoughts too .. ..Erhmm @Keppy sorryoo you hear,next time form novice in that area.. ..besides becareful about divulging such info on this forum sef,or else it might be used against you to butteress why you are 'loose' the minute you disagree with some she-males here ..execise caution. |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Jahblessme: 2:49pm On May 30, 2015 |
Ngokafor: Ngokafor, very right Kepppyy please go and delete or modify.. Plenty she males will dig up and use it against you.That's their stock in trade oo. @babyosisi Please modify where you quoted keppyy in case she's concerned about Nl..who knows? |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 2:49pm On May 30, 2015 |
Ngokafor: Some people are comfortable with their sexuality that way and don't care what these nonentities say They disappear at the press of a button It is real life I care about That is what matters How many times have the same eediots accused me of being an ashawo,do I lose sleep over the words of people I don't know? |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 2:57pm On May 30, 2015 |
Ngokafor: Thanks for your advice... I've been here long enough (this is a new moniker seffff) and I know how people dig up the past on nairaland and How supposed "friends" eat you up tomorrow...I know this place well and the "Craziessss" don't move me. 2 Likes |
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