Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Acidosis(m): 2:24pm On May 31, 2015 |
There is nothing wrong in marrying an older woman.
God created a woman because he felt a man shouldn't be alone. He didn't create the man before the woman because of age, seniority, etc.
Your message is the reason many Christians will burn in hell fire. Stop deceiving the people because you know how to twist the bible. 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 2:25pm On May 31, 2015 |
freecocoa: This is laughable. Ogbeni face front abeg, bottomline is, I'm no business of yours, stop stalking me, bye. Whatever. Last last, na man go still dey fucck you even if him no marry you. You cant fucck yourself and if tries with a fellow lady, the feelings cant be the same and morally, very wrong. Bye too. 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by dnuelly(m): 2:26pm On May 31, 2015 |
God Bless Us and guide Our Path... AMEN!!!! No be dat nkechi o... postmann:
GOD bless you too. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by dnuelly(m): 2:28pm On May 31, 2015 |
Acid... U dey f-up Acidosis: There is nothing wrong in marrying an older woman.
God created a woman because he felt a man shouldn't be alone. He didn't create the man before the woman because of age, seniority, etc.
Your message is the reason many Christians will burn in hell fire. Stop deceiving the people because you know how to twist the bible. 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by cococandy(f): 2:28pm On May 31, 2015 |
RedBenson: Op, nice one there.
@ No. 4: The Feminist, we seem to have so much of this type of ladies these days especially by the traits they show on this forum. Sophyrocks, freecocoa, cococandy, khia come to mind and these are women either grudgingly married or still looking for a man to marry. TheSonOfMark, come check out how your feminist sisters will come defend theirselves here. because you wanted to add me to your list and you do don't know how to bold facedly say we are still looking for a man to marry, you had to add grudgingly married Nairaland. Ok they tied me to a tree and married me off against my wish. I hope that settles it for you. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 2:30pm On May 31, 2015 |
postmann: “I have perceived among the youths, a young man lacking sense, passing along the street near her corner, taking the road to her house” (Proverbs 7: 7-8 )
Marriage - a lifetime covenant, an irrevocable oath reconized by GOD, man and spirits, separable only by death. With this truth in mind, a man has to be very careful and wise when considering marriage. And if you follow the counsel of GOD, HE will go before you to lead you to the right path.
NOTE: This is not a sexist post. It's only a guide for men intending to get married.
So here's the 10 women to avoid when considering marriage:
1. THE UNBELIEVER: Scripture is replete with exhortations against such marriages (in both the Old and New Testaments). Contrary to popular misconception, God’s prohibition against marriages to foreign women in the Old Testament was not due to racism. Instead, God was simply preventing the spread of idolatry. Israel, God’s chosen people in the Old Testament, represented what Christians would later represent in the New Testament. Hence, God’s prohibition against marrying an unbelieving woman in the New Testament (2 Cor 6:14) is simply the extension of God prohibiting a Hebrew man from from marrying a Canaanite woman in the Old Testament (Deut 7:3-4). “Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, for they will turn your children away from following ME to serve other gods, and the LORD’s anger will burn against you and will quickly destroy you” (Deut 7:3-4). What then, is a believer? A Christian essentially is someone who believes in the gospel of Jesus Christ. What then, is the gospel? The gospel is: 1. God is holy, loving, and just. He therefore, must condemn all sinners to punishment in the flames of eternal hell; 2. You and I are all sinners who deserve nothing but God’s wrath in hell after our deaths; 3. God loved humanity so much that He sent His only Son, Jesus (who was fully God and fully man), to die on the cross for your sins. Jesus paid the debt for your sins and absorbed God’s wrath on your behalf. 3 days later, Jesus resurrected from the dead; 4. If you repent (turn from) all your sins and personally put your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord, God and Savior, then you will have eternal life.
2. THE DIVORCEE: Jesus clearly taught that unless the first marriage ended due to a partner’s sexual infidelity, a second marriage is to be considered invalid and adulterous. A divorced woman, therefore, is off limits for a Christian man. Unrepentant adultery being a sin that prevents one from obtaining eternal life (1 Cor 6:9). “If she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery” (Mark 10:12). “And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery” (Matthew 19:9).
3. THE OLDER WOMAN: Not a sin, but certainly not God’s ideal. God expects men to be the spiritual leaders of the home (Eph 5:25) and it certainly requires an extra measure of grace to lead a woman who’s older than you. Again, if you’re a man and you’re already in such a marriage, then honor it till the day you die–it’s still a valid marriage and divorce is not an option! However, if you’re not yet married but thinking about an older woman I want to remind you that God intentionally (with good reason!) created Adam before Eve in the First Marriage. Scripture informs us that God created man first chronologically for the sake of authority! Listen: “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve” (1 Timothy 2:12-13). Evidently, within the First Marriage, God intended chronology (age) to be a reason for authority. Apparently, even secular researchers are now beginning to discover results that back up God’s wisdom as demonstrated in the Bible: “If you’re a woman two or more years older than your husband, your marriage is 53 percent more likely to end in divorce than if he was one year younger to three years older.” (Source: Rebecca Kippen, Bruce Chapman and Peng Yu, “What’s Love Got to Do With It? Homogamy and Dyadic Approaches to Understanding Marital Instability,” Melbourne Institute of Applied Economic and Social Research, 2009.)
4. THE FEMINIST: There’s no room within Christendom for the “Christian feminist.” Though women and men have equal value in the eyes of God (Gal 3:28), they certainly have different God- given roles. Any woman who tries to usurp her husband’s authority or even claims to be a co- leader with her man is gravely dishonoring the God who created her to be subject and obedient to her husband (Eph 5:22, Col 3:18, 1 Pet 3:1). Eve was distinctly created “for” man, a point that the apostle Paul makes abundantly clear in 1 Corinthians 11 when he writes, “For man was not made from woman, but woman from man. Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.” (1 Corinthians 11:8-9). Men, your wife is to be your “helper” (Gen 2:18)–not your leader and certainly not your equal in terms of authority. Look for a woman who agrees with you in this very vital God-ordained relational dynamic.
5. THE IMMODEST-DRESSER : Sexy might inadvertently catch your eyeballs, but it shouldn’t catch your heart. The way that a woman is willing to expose herself says much about her heart:
“And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart” (Proverbs 7:10).
The text in Proverbs explains that a woman will dress in a certain way to catch a certain type of man. Don’t be that man. Don’t be the fool who’s led by his hormones instead of the Holy Spirit. Remember: you want godly, not gaudy.
6. THE GOSSIPER/SLANDERER: Women may love to talk, but there’s wisdom in looking for a woman who speaks with wisdom. Gossip and slander are not good things to have in your marriage. Desperate housewives make for desperate husbands. “Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.” (1 Timothy 5:13).
7. THE CHILDBIRTH AVOIDER: Do not marry a woman who is not willing to have children of her own. In the Christian worldview, there is absolutely no room for two married, biologically capable, human beings to remain intentionally child-less. If you are adverse towards having children, then there’s a simple remedy for that: single-hood. However, if God has called you to marriage, then He actually expects children. Both the New and Old Testaments are very clear on this teaching: “Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking ? Godly offspring” (Malachi 2:15). “Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control” (1 Timothy 2:15).
8. THE WANDER-LUSTER: There’s nothing wrong with the occasional family vacation. There is something very wrong with a girl who regularly needs to be “out of the home.” The constant desire for new experiences, new places, new faces, and new forms of entertainment only serves to clearly manifest the fact that the woman has not found her rest in God. Believe it or not, Scripture speaks repeatedly about such women: “She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home ” (Proverbs 7:11); “Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house . And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense, saying things they ought not to” (1 Timothy 5:13).
9. THE CARIEER-FIRST WOMAN: Now, I want to clarify something here. There is nothing wrong with a woman who works (Acts 16:14), what’s wrong is a woman who puts her career ahead of her family. Modern society might hate to hear this, but God made men to be the providers and women to be the nurturers of the home (in most instances). It’s okay for a woman to be a doctor, attorney, or any other professional. However, if her career is coming at the expense of her home, then something is wrong. If day-care is raising her young children while she’s working, then something is wrong. I understand that there might be a season of life where the wife might have to be the main bread- winner due to her husband’s unemployment, but it should not be the desired norm. The woman ought to be willing (and even desirous–to some extent) to give up her job for the sake of raising her kids in the Lord. “So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander” (1 Tim 5:14).
10. THE DEVOTION-LESS WOMAN : Is the woman having a regular, daily devotional time with her God? If she doesn’t love the Lord now, chances are, she won’t love the Lord after marriage. (Don’t delude yourself–you’re not going to change her.) You want to marry a girl who has an intimate relationship with Jesus. Jesus (not you) has to be the first man in her life. Here are some good questions to ask: Does she have an active prayer life? Does she have a heart for evangelism? Is she hungry for God’s Word? What does her pastor think about her? Do you remember this account from Scripture: Now as they went on their way, Jesus entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house. [39] And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to his teaching. [40] But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.” [41] But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, [42] but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:38-42 ESV) Marry the Mary (no pun intended). Such women have picked “…the good portion, which will not be taken away” from them. God be with you men. Strong families start with strong wives. Choose wisely and choose in the Lord!
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Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by freecocoa(f): 2:35pm On May 31, 2015 |
RedBenson:
Whatever. Last last, na man go still dey fucck you even if him no marry you. You cant fucck yourself and if tries with a fellow lady, the feelings cant be the same and morally, very wrong. Bye too. You just keep getting daft by the minute. Buzz off abeg. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by cococandy(f): 2:36pm On May 31, 2015 |
No wonder your marriage was "before" You claim you will and have never cheated. Yet you believe. And I've always said that 99% of men will cheat in marriage. You're the holy 1% abi? this early Sunday morning una just dey yarn rubbish anyhow. Toks2008:
[b]Free cocoa get this straight. I have been married before and i know exactly what the institution feels like.
Please advice any lady or guy you know to find out very well about the past marriage of a divorcee who wants to start an affair with them because once a divorcee most times is always a divorce especially if a man divorcees his wife for any other reason asides sexual infidelity or if the lady divorcees the man asides UNREPENTANT ARBITRARY WIFE BATTERING and not because of irreconcilable differences or sexual infidelity.
Only immature ladies divorce their hubby because of sexual infidelity except they will never get married a gain or even be with any other man because 98% of men will cheat on their wives.
As for the career part please note that some women have left their marriage because of this. My ex practically told me to give her a break because she wants to pursue a career and i told her point blank that except she is planning to climb the career ladder by been slutty,i see no reason why any sane lady should leave her marriage to build a career no matter what especially when the man is not topping her from doing so.
When it comes to age, we all say age is nothing but a number but please lets be realistic, its not so easy to be in a relationship or marriage with a woman older than you because a man should be the head in the real sense and any form of alteration may only be coped with but will not naturalkly get balanced but nevertheless i dont see the age thing as a factor but the first two explained above holds water.[/b] |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Btruth: 2:41pm On May 31, 2015 |
olasmith10:
I think we should just pray to God for guidance.. der are some ladies dat looks wrong buh deh might just be d best for u, while der are some dat ll appear like d angel in heaven, and later, dier attitude will be an eye sore..I once met a pastor dat told me he married a young lady in his church because she can pray nd fast very well..hell was let loose on d eve of dier wedding, a little quarrel and d said Lady landed a hot slap on d pastor.. it tuk d intervention of fellow men of God dat persuaded d pastor to continue with d wedding plans.. Buh truh is, today, deh rnt togeda... ah! |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by thundey2(m): 2:48pm On May 31, 2015 |
same to men too |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by mechanics(m): 2:51pm On May 31, 2015 |
Bro i disagree wit u on older women, a question was ask in a marriage seminar i attended and d pastor said there is ntn wrong 4 a man to marry an older woman, he even made mention of some of d members dat married older women n dey ar living fine, even in our societies, we see men who got married to older women n dey ar enjoying their marriages. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 3:01pm On May 31, 2015 |
Viciyus: young man, learn to be civil, dont take everything as fight where is the fight/insult here?? |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by lordprosh(m): 3:04pm On May 31, 2015 |
sheddybest: My thoughts 1. Don't you think if you use the opportunity of the union to bring her to Christ it would be a good thing? 2. I agree with u on number 2 3. If your number 3 is a piece of advice from u, then it ought not to be on d list. If u find love in older woman, why not? 4. Whether a woman is the bread winner or the cake loser , I think it's pertinent to always accord ur hubby dat respect! 5. U can make her understand the relationship of d immodest attire to her womanhood. If she listens, go ahead and tie d knot if u saw love there 6. If u try to change her and she remains adamant, it's therefore a prohibited zone 7. The ultimate aim of every reasonable union is procreation. If she isn't willing to extend ur geneology, trek back to ur family 8. It's good to explore, but not at the expense of ur home. #AllMyLadies take note! 9. Nice point. Please don't sacrifice ur home at d mercy of ur career! 10. A necessary point. Find time to talk to this invisible reality! Just one question for you... Do u have the power to change a man |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 3:06pm On May 31, 2015 |
freecocoa: You just keep getting daft by the minute.
Buzz off abeg. Idiotically foolish. Nansense! 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by cap28: 3:07pm On May 31, 2015 |
The ideal woman for a Christian man:
The door mat - A woman who has no views of her own, no independent thought and lives to please the man without thinking about her own personal needs. 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Toks2008(m): 3:15pm On May 31, 2015 |
cococandy: No wonder your marriage was "before"
You claim you will and have never cheated. Yet you believe. And I've always said that 99% of men will cheat in marriage.
You're the holy 1% abi? this early Sunday morning una just dey yarn rubbish anyhow. before now i would have sworn that i was discussing with an intellectually sound lady but im just been proved wrong. out of billions of men in the world if out of 1 billion 1% will be 100million men that do not cheat. I hope this simple arithmetic will explain the basis for my statistical illustration so save your baseless sarcastic remark of why my marriage was before or watever you mean. 2 Likes |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Toks2008(m): 3:25pm On May 31, 2015 |
freecocoa: 1. You arrived at that conclusion how exactly?
2.Okay.
3.I'm not justifying what your ex did as I can say only based on the facts you present, all I'm saying is, is that, she still had the right to make the choice she made, did you have any agreement that she will never leave the relationship based on some reasons and the job included? She made a choice and as heartless as that may seem, I just need you to realize she had a choice to make, as do everyone, it's just sad that you had to suffer some set backs in the process, but I believe this will help you make better choices/judgements in the future. 1.Google it and find out from research. 2. Fine 3. In the moral school of taught that i belong to,there is a general notion that marriage is a forever thing 4bettr 4worse i guess so you even writing such absurdity of whether we signed...makes me shiver..let me stop here. Have a great sunday. 2 Likes |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by ndiyeauwa: 3:37pm On May 31, 2015 |
OP, you are just plain IGNORANT and are Blinded by outward superficiality instead of focusing on inner spirituality. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by onelife97: 3:46pm On May 31, 2015 |
Well written. God bless your wisdom. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by freecocoa(f): 3:47pm On May 31, 2015 |
Toks2008:
1.Google it and find out from research.
2. Fine
3. In the moral school of taught that i belong to,there is a general notion that marriage is a forever thing 4bettr 4worse i guess so you even writing such absurdity of whether we signed...makes me shiver..let me stop here.
Have a great sunday. Some researches are what they are, they are not to be taken as final say. 2.fine fine . 3.I'm glad that it's only in the school of thought that YOU belong to, now given that you, my learned friend, recognises that there are other moral schools of thought, I wonder why you should find it absurd that I don't share same beliefs. Live and let live, it's that simple. You have a great Sunday too, my friend. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by abbey2021: 3:54pm On May 31, 2015 |
Thanks for the exhortation |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by STEVENcrack(m): 3:54pm On May 31, 2015 |
Viciyus:
Still the time I dey read bible, I never see were them mention do not marry two or three wife, EVEN Jesus no take anything about marrying only one woman.
U av not been reading the bible..or you are like the Ethiopian eunuch...ever reading and never comes to understanding. U no read wen jesus told d pharisees that in there beginning that God made everytin one one. A male and a female even adam na only eve God make for am..study d bible very well b4 spewing error and publicly dis gracing yoursef cos even our brothers from d other religion are reading it.ok |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by cococandy(f): 3:59pm On May 31, 2015 |
So out of every 100 men, only one will be faithful. And you're that one? Toks2008:
before now i would have sworn that i was discussing with an intellectually sound lady but im just been proved wrong.
out of billions of men in the world if out of 1 billion 1% will be 100million men that do not cheat. I hope this simple arithmetic will explain the basis for my statistical illustration so save your baseless sarcastic remark of why my marriage was before or watever you mean.
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Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by chrmn1: 4:01pm On May 31, 2015 |
mystiqueDZ: [right][/right]Balderdash!!!!!!!!!
1. THE UNBELIEVR: Who is an unbeliever? The lady that do not believe your own church doctrine?The one that belives in Allah or just that agnostic/theist lady? 2.THE DIVORCEE: Please do answer me dear one...Would you love for your sister to have a second chance at marriage if God forbid the first one was a disaster? 3. OLDER WOMAN: By older what do you mean? Months older,years,decades?if you meet a loving soul who is ready to respect you et al,it is not ideal because she is few years older? 4.FEMINIST: I wouldn't digress on this one but am very sure you do not want a yes sir,yes sir lady....... 5. IMMODEST DRESSER: Hmm no right thinking lady would not cover herself..... 6. GOSSIPER: Please do tell....how do you know a lady who gossips? 7: CHILD AVOIDER: I love kids so I don't know how a woman wouldn't want one or more..but what if the man do not want kids as well....is it ideal/ christlike? 8.WANDERLUSTER: Hmmm you got me there....... 9.CAREER FIRST: A real woman balances her family and work.... 10. DEVOTION LESS: If I forget to read my daily manna every morning....does it mean am not devoted?
The interesting thing about the bible – like the constitution – is that you can use it to justify just about anything if you put your mind to it. Pick a little bit here, paste a little bit there, and voila! You have your own doctrine......
Ill take you up on point no. 5 where you said every right thinking lady would cover up. Imho, you dribbled your way past that point as he didn't challenge ladies covering up but ladies dressing imodestly. 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by lezz(m): 4:06pm On May 31, 2015 |
Acidosis: There is nothing wrong in marrying an older woman.
God created a woman because he felt a man shouldn't be alone. He didn't create the man before the woman because of age, seniority, etc.
Your message is the reason many Christians will burn in hell fire. Stop deceiving the people because you know how to twist the bible. all I see in your post is a personal reaction to the OP's post . is your wife older than you ? 2 Likes |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Pluslargent(m): 4:14pm On May 31, 2015 |
Apart from the older woman part..which is subjective any way. .most of you having issues with other points the op raised are either one of two things, 1) Never been married. 2)Don't share the same spiritual view with him. 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by JesusDWay(m): 4:15pm On May 31, 2015 |
postmann: “I have perceived among the youths, a young man lacking sense, passing along the street near her corner, taking the road to her house” (Proverbs 7: 7-8 )
Marriage - a lifetime covenant, an irrevocable oath reconized by GOD, man and spirits, separable only by death. With this truth in mind, a man has to be very careful and wise when considering marriage. And if you follow the counsel of GOD, HE will go before you to lead you to the right path.
NOTE: This is not a sexist post. It's only a guide for men intending to get married.
So here's the 10 women to avoid when considering marriage:
1. THE UNBELIEVER: Scripture is replete with exhortations against such marriages (in both the Old and New Testaments). Contrary to popular misconception, God’s prohibition against marriages to foreign women in the Old Testament was not due to racism. Instead, God was simply preventing the spread of idolatry. Israel, God’s chosen people in the Old Testament, represented what Christians would later represent in the New Testament. Hence, God’s prohibition against marrying an unbelieving woman in the New Testament (2 Cor 6:14) is simply the extension of God prohibiting a Hebrew man from from marrying a Canaanite woman in the Old Testament (Deut 7:3-4). “Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, for they will turn your children away from following ME to serve other gods, and the LORD’s anger will burn against you and will quickly destroy you” (Deut 7:3-4). What then, is a believer? A Christian essentially is someone who believes in the gospel of Jesus Christ. What then, is the gospel? The gospel is: 1. God is holy, loving, and just. He therefore, must condemn all sinners to punishment in the flames of eternal hell; 2. You and I are all sinners who deserve nothing but God’s wrath in hell after our deaths; 3. God loved humanity so much that He sent His only Son, Jesus (who was fully God and fully man), to die on the cross for your sins. Jesus paid the debt for your sins and absorbed God’s wrath on your behalf. 3 days later, Jesus resurrected from the dead; 4. If you repent (turn from) all your sins and personally put your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord, God and Savior, then you will have eternal life.
2. THE DIVORCEE: Jesus clearly taught that unless the first marriage ended due to a partner’s sexual infidelity, a second marriage is to be considered invalid and adulterous. A divorced woman, therefore, is off limits for a Christian man. Unrepentant adultery being a sin that prevents one from obtaining eternal life (1 Cor 6:9). “If she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery” (Mark 10:12). “And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery” (Matthew 19:9).
3. THE OLDER WOMAN: Not a sin, but certainly not God’s ideal. God expects men to be the spiritual leaders of the home (Eph 5:25) and it certainly requires an extra measure of grace to lead a woman who’s older than you. Again, if you’re a man and you’re already in such a marriage, then honor it till the day you die–it’s still a valid marriage and divorce is not an option! However, if you’re not yet married but thinking about an older woman I want to remind you that God intentionally (with good reason!) created Adam before Eve in the First Marriage. Scripture informs us that God created man first chronologically for the sake of authority! Listen: “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve” (1 Timothy 2:12-13). Evidently, within the First Marriage, God intended chronology (age) to be a reason for authority. Apparently, even secular researchers are now beginning to discover results that back up God’s wisdom as demonstrated in the Bible: “If you’re a woman two or more years older than your husband, your marriage is 53 percent more likely to end in divorce than if he was one year younger to three years older.” (Source: Rebecca Kippen, Bruce Chapman and Peng Yu, “What’s Love Got to Do With It? Homogamy and Dyadic Approaches to Understanding Marital Instability,” Melbourne Institute of Applied Economic and Social Research, 2009.)
4. THE FEMINIST: There’s no room within Christendom for the “Christian feminist.” Though women and men have equal value in the eyes of God (Gal 3:28), they certainly have different God- given roles. Any woman who tries to usurp her husband’s authority or even claims to be a co- leader with her man is gravely dishonoring the God who created her to be subject and obedient to her husband (Eph 5:22, Col 3:18, 1 Pet 3:1). Eve was distinctly created “for” man, a point that the apostle Paul makes abundantly clear in 1 Corinthians 11 when he writes, “For man was not made from woman, but woman from man. Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.” (1 Corinthians 11:8-9). Men, your wife is to be your “helper” (Gen 2:18)–not your leader and certainly not your equal in terms of authority. Look for a woman who agrees with you in this very vital God-ordained relational dynamic.
5. THE IMMODEST-DRESSER : Sexy might inadvertently catch your eyeballs, but it shouldn’t catch your heart. The way that a woman is willing to expose herself says much about her heart:
“And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart” (Proverbs 7:10).
The text in Proverbs explains that a woman will dress in a certain way to catch a certain type of man. Don’t be that man. Don’t be the fool who’s led by his hormones instead of the Holy Spirit. Remember: you want godly, not gaudy.
6. THE GOSSIPER/SLANDERER: Women may love to talk, but there’s wisdom in looking for a woman who speaks with wisdom. Gossip and slander are not good things to have in your marriage. Desperate housewives make for desperate husbands. “Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.” (1 Timothy 5:13).
7. THE CHILDBIRTH AVOIDER: Do not marry a woman who is not willing to have children of her own. In the Christian worldview, there is absolutely no room for two married, biologically capable, human beings to remain intentionally child-less. If you are adverse towards having children, then there’s a simple remedy for that: single-hood. However, if God has called you to marriage, then He actually expects children. Both the New and Old Testaments are very clear on this teaching: “Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking ? Godly offspring” (Malachi 2:15). “Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control” (1 Timothy 2:15).
8. THE WANDER-LUSTER: There’s nothing wrong with the occasional family vacation. There is something very wrong with a girl who regularly needs to be “out of the home.” The constant desire for new experiences, new places, new faces, and new forms of entertainment only serves to clearly manifest the fact that the woman has not found her rest in God. Believe it or not, Scripture speaks repeatedly about such women: “She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home ” (Proverbs 7:11); “Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house . And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense, saying things they ought not to” (1 Timothy 5:13).
9. THE CARIEER-FIRST WOMAN: Now, I want to clarify something here. There is nothing wrong with a woman who works (Acts 16:14), what’s wrong is a woman who puts her career ahead of her family. Modern society might hate to hear this, but God made men to be the providers and women to be the nurturers of the home (in most instances). It’s okay for a woman to be a doctor, attorney, or any other professional. However, if her career is coming at the expense of her home, then something is wrong. If day-care is raising her young children while she’s working, then something is wrong. I understand that there might be a season of life where the wife might have to be the main bread- winner due to her husband’s unemployment, but it should not be the desired norm. The woman ought to be willing (and even desirous–to some extent) to give up her job for the sake of raising her kids in the Lord. “So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander” (1 Tim 5:14).
10. THE DEVOTION-LESS WOMAN : Is the woman having a regular, daily devotional time with her God? If she doesn’t love the Lord now, chances are, she won’t love the Lord after marriage. (Don’t delude yourself–you’re not going to change her.) You want to marry a girl who has an intimate relationship with Jesus. Jesus (not you) has to be the first man in her life. Here are some good questions to ask: Does she have an active prayer life? Does she have a heart for evangelism? Is she hungry for God’s Word? What does her pastor think about her? Do you remember this account from Scripture: Now as they went on their way, Jesus entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house. [39] And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to his teaching. [40] But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.” [41] But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, [42] but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:38-42 ESV) Marry the Mary (no pun intended). Such women have picked “…the good portion, which will not be taken away” from them. God be with you men. Strong families start with strong wives. Choose wisely and choose in the Lord!
You are extremely on-point! Extremely scriptural, although point 9 is still a bit subjective. However, you wish a woman who satisfies all these are easy to find, it doesn't appear so brother! I really wanted someone like this and kinda searched but mehn! it was hard. The ones who are close to this were already taken and i didn't have the conscience to break up a relationship but the funny thing was that those ladies seem to be with men who weren't so spiritual like them(i'm not very sure but i think that's the situation), it was just surprising why a lot of the times, good girls end up with not so good guys and vice-versa and these things keep happening even when you try to wait for what you feel is right(don't forget that there are people who have waited like this and it seem time passed them by and no one seem to be desirous of them anymore and they are now desperate). I've been married now for like 2years and i can't exactly say i've really met anyone even after i got married that satisfies all those things you wrote. I seem to found out that it was christians in the years before our own generation who really allow God's word in their character moulding, our generation needs God and the Holy Spirit to help us. You will be so surprised at the expectation of the sister you think is so spiritual, getting close to many of them will surprise you. The ones i got close to liked my company but weren't ready to be with me which i guess was because of money(i had a job o but obviously not a big paying one and it doesn't seem anyone was ready to start small. There are even some who had revelations from God about a man but will refuse to marry the person, ladies can be a different breed o!). The bad* boys just seem to thrill them. You also must need to know that there's more to us than just the spiritual, there's the psychological to us as well and not many sisters may actually be what you think, i guess its the reason Apostle Peter admonished us to dwell with them according to knowledge(remember he was married and may have some experiences while Paul was not and as such, its possible they have slight variations in their submission on the matter of women). An example was Rev John Hagee, a fiery preacher who said when he got married, he gos out and comes back and asks the wife if she's ok. The wife will reply she's fine but what was going on inside her was different, as she expected they will be having candle light dinners , while the man just seem to go about his own preaching business and possibly never felt the wife will even be imagining candle light dinners while souls are perishing Finally, Proverbs did say 'he that findeth a wife findeth a good thing', which portends you really have to search for that woman but in Ecclesiastes as well, he said he searched and searched and could only find a woman whose heart is full of snares and nettles......the prayer is that God should just help us not fall into the wrong hands and that Proverbs 19:14 should be our experience. 2 Likes |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by bukatyne(f): 4:22pm On May 31, 2015 |
cap28: The ideal woman for a Christian man:
The door mat - A woman who has no views of her own, no independent thought and lives to please the man without thinking about her own personal needs. Lols I will replace the Christian with religious |
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Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by lezz(m): 4:47pm On May 31, 2015 |
ndiyeauwa: OP, you are just plain IGNORANT and are Blinded by outward superficiality instead of focusing on inner spirituality. without facts to counter the OP's points, your post has been confined to the dustbin. 2 Likes |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by meiloya: 4:53pm On May 31, 2015 |
erico2k2:
Post such as number 2 is what people take out of context and form their own sect.If God can forgive Saul who sort fo Christians and killed them and changed his name so that he delivered plenty how much more of a divorcee who was at the time of marriage naive to know what it realy meant to be married and there fall short of her obligation.SO you my friend be very careful of what you think and post in public forums as you know, religious incitement is getting considered as a criminal act.This is 20015 we should read more meaning into the word in the Bible and understand the context in which such views where made,some of them do not and no longer apply to today's society.I'm more than open to discus this with you if you have the time. If only you could state what is wrong with the verses quoted in number 2... 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by meiloya: 4:57pm On May 31, 2015 |
Toks2008:
The bolded are so spot on.
Anyman who marries a divorcee is on his own expecially if the lady diuvo9rcees the man over any other excuse asides wife battering and not even infidelity.
This may come as a shocker fore many but there was never a provision in the bible for a woman to divorce her hubby over adultery but it was specifically stated for the man to do so and this quote from the scriptures is not about a he been used for both gender.
If a lady leaves a hubby due to sexual infidelity then she will leave every man she enters into marriage with because 955 of men will cheat no matter how holy they may claim to be because men are polygamous by nature and evcen the closest men in the Bible to GOD were polygamists.
So trust me, guys must be very careful before they consider marrying a divorcee especially the one who left her marriage due to irreconcilable differences. Oga, where you get your statistics from? 95% ke? |