These three words - I am sorry- would prevent a lot of calamities.

A gentle answer deflects anger,
but harsh words make tempers flare.
Proverbs 15:1

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i am sorry is not the best way to apologize. if you want to rely apologize to someone or your loves one, you either treat them with what them like or show it with action (by caring and.......................



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Scholar8200:
These three words - I am sorry- would prevent a lot of calamities.

A gentle answer deflects anger,
but harsh words make tempers flare.
Proverbs 15:1

true talk bro.

O yes. Am sorry goes a long way to solve whole lot of problems. But some people can't say it. Why?
Am sorry flows out of my mouth like tap water. If that's what will solve the problem, ok. Am sorry you hear? Biko.

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Scholar8200:
These three words - I am sorry- would prevent a lot of calamities.

A gentle answer deflects anger,
but harsh words make tempers flare.
Proverbs 15:1

Very correct and also mean it when you say it... true talk brother

Anas09:
O yes. Am sorry goes a long way to solve whole lot of problems. But some people can't say it. Why?
Am sorry flows out of my mouth like tap water. If that's what will solve the problem, ok. Am sorry you hear? Biko.

That is cus of pride, they become too ashamed to apologize...

Pride and shame are not opposites, people do think pride negates shame so they tend to replace shame with pride.

But truly pride is the source of shame, true humility is the only antidote to shame/pride.

Anas09:
O yes. Am sorry goes a long way to solve whole lot of problems. But some people can't say it. Why?
Am sorry flows out of my mouth like tap water. If that's what will solve the problem, ok. Am sorry you hear? Biko.

Yeah, almost all the times, I'm sorry soothes the situation and opens way for the problem to be solved. However, in my dealings with people, I have come to understand that I'm sorry alone is not enough, a times it appears mechanical. A better way would be I am sorry for doing/saying/assuming so so an so things. That way the person you are apologizing to feels that you deeply acknowledge the situation and you are not just saying 'I am sorry' for peace to reign.

I had a gf who complained i say "i am sorry" too much ...

Sincerely, i say it to avoid fights, i hate fights and conflicts and it wont take anything for me to say sorry if i feel it would avoid that...but i was insulted for saying i am sorry...

How do one come back from that?

Not just three words. Say it like you mean it. Touch the person, put your arms around the person, give the person a hug, prostrate, kneel, do anything to truly show that humility but make sure its truly an event that demands ''I am sorry'' which is when the person is really hurt. Meanwhile,let me give two scenarios where your "I am sorry" might not be needed:

Scenario 1: When I first started my job as an engineer with my agency, any small mistake I made out of being nervous I just say I am sorry. This really irritated my manager, one day dude screamed out after one of my I'm sorry sessions IS THAT ALL YOU CAN SAY? Guess my next response? Yeah, you got it right : I am sorry Sir Since that day I've grown confident, any little error (though I rarely make them now) I just argue my way through albeit respectfully.

Scenario 2: @donffd As for your girlfriend you need to engage in those fights if ever they come. That's part of how you get to study your future partner especially if you are not wrong. Some girls do not really know what they want, today they want fight, tomorrow they want I am sorry but they hate boring and predictable guys more of which you fall in the latter category. Some girls will even see the person as fake pretending to be some Mr.Nice Guy. Variety is the spice of life.

rejosom:


Yeah, almost all the times, I'm sorry soothes the situation and opens way for the problem to be solved. However, in my dealings with people, I have come to understand that I'm sorry alone is not enough, a times it appears mechanical. A better way would be I am sorry for doing/saying/assuming so so an so things. That way the person you are apologizing to feels that you deeply acknowledge the situation and you are not just saying 'I am sorry' for peace to reign.

Yea, I know. When it's done mechanically, the recipient knows that it's not really meant for pasification. It dosn't really hide when you are indeed remorseful, your demeanor expresses it.
When I said, I say "am sorry" easily, It doesn't mean I just throw it at the person thinking "afterall that's what he wants to hear", am saying that because am sorry that I hurt his or her feelings indeed, and my attitude or actions are not nice.
BTW, life is a circle, what you give comes back to you, so, anyone who would not apologize when there's need, shouldn't expect apologies from any offender around them.

johnydon22:


That is cus of pride, they become too ashamed to apologize...

Pride and shame are not opposites, people do think pride negates shame so they tend to replace shame with pride.

But truly pride is the source of shame, true humility is the only antidote to shame/pride.

Yea, totally agree. Pride is the reason people can't say am sorry. The feeling of haughtiness. "A am better than him/her, why shd I say sorry?". Check behind pride, you'd find complex.

Patiently watch this video and pass on to others.

https://www.facebook.com/PastorJHoward/videos/1034575299916518/

Scholar8200,
You couldn't have said it any better...those 3 words....if only.

Lady39:
Scholar8200,
You couldn't have said it any better...those 3 words....if only.

Thanks, diplomatic efforts have collapsed, wars broken out, properties destroyed, blood shed and countless lives lost till somebody said those 3 words with diplomacy.