Hi everybody i got a question for all of u! im a russian girl and im dating a nigerian man here in Russia. We r in our relationships for more than one year. Im soon will be 20 and he is 27.
He wanna marry me here nad later we go live in Nigeria. He is half ijaw and half urhobo but i dont relly know what it means, he just said to me once. I relly love him so much and believe he also does. But one thing is worring me too much. Is it possible that he can have second wife after marriage with me? Is it officilly accepted in Nigeria? And what is ur opinion now? Maybe if im not Nigerian he will not marry another wife.i dont know what can happen so need ur advice. Please

well
if he really loves you aah i dont think that
he would choose a 2nd wife, dispise if Ur from nigerian or not

There isn't a high possibility of him marrying another wife unless he's a muslim then there's a possiblity he might remarry especially if you have guys have short-comings or if he's a womaniser. But if he loves you dearly and you are aware of this then girl don't fret.

@Girlfriend

dont worry about coming to Nigeria, theres a Nigerian Russian Community in Lagos, full, half/cross breeds, u name it,

Hi Girlfriend,

a colleague of mine just asked me recently if I would consider becoming his second wife. I'm not sure if he was just pulling my legs but, at least, I took it as seriously as to tell him that "no, if you want to visit me, you cannot sleep at my house". And he's Christian not Muslim.

Anyway, when you come over to Nigeria, you should be warned that people will treat you differently than they will treat their fellow Nigerians. Kids but also some adults will call you "oyinbo" in the South-West and "onye ocha" in the South-East. It just means "light skinned person". Also, when buying anything, you will have to learn how to bargain and, even when you have learned it, you still will pay more than the black person before or after you. When people say "fun mi", they don't confuse you with somebody called Funmi(layo) but ask you for a dash. Furthermore, don't be surprised if guys will ask you to marry them and if girls will want to know whether you got a brother for them abroad.

The traffic, especially in Lagos, might be scary to you. Hence, when your fiancé asks you whether you want Okada (motorbike) or taxi, take the latter even if he should complain about the costs. Btw, Lagos is a pretty ugly place with lots of mosquitoes. If I were you, I would travel to the village asap. I'm sure you'll like it there. It should be much more quiet and less dirty and hectic than Lagos. The toilette there might not be the Western style though, more like a whole in the ground.

Try the different foods. Where I live now, Mango just doesn't taste as sweet as it does in Nigeria. Especially, try jeloff rice, moi-moi and dodo. Most foreigners love that staff. Peppe soup is also nice, but you should be careful; it can be hot as fire.

There are beautiful beaches, even close to Lagos, but, I think there are some dangerous currents at some places, and no lifeguards. If you should get married, do the wedding in Nigeria. You'll have a big party, people dashing you with money and afterwards you should have your honeymoon in the wonderful "Whispering Palms" hotel at Badagry. It's free of geckos and cockroaches! No, seriously, it's a really nice place. I think I would want to do my own honeymoon there (if the man of my dreams should ever propose to me).

In the end, there are Europeans who've spent many years - 5, 10, 20 years or more - in Nigeria, raising children and growing old. This is surely not suitable for everybody and, probably, you will have to experience the place yourself for some while before you will discover whether it could be your new home or not.

I know this is not exactly what you've asked for --- but I hope it was insightful and of help anyway. My regards to your sweetheart and all the best for a future together!

@somegirl

where are u from?

@Mochafella: Why do you want to know? Are you planning to come over to my village and ask my parents for their daughter's hand in marriage?  Abeg, save yourself the journey; I'll choose my man myself. 

somegirl:

@Mochafella: Why do you want to know? Are you planning to come over to my village and ask my parents for their daughter's hand in marriage? Abeg, save yourself the journey; I'll choose my man myself.

Whoa, easy there. I meant nothing by it, was just curious. Don't even answer the question anymore. Why the hell is marriage the first thing out of your mouth?

Easy over there as well. I was just pulling your legs. Peace?

It depends on his religion.

A muslim is entitled to four(4) wives

Yes, he can have a second wife in Nigeria as it is acceptable back there but as someone said earlier, If he really loves u, he won't do that to u!

wish u luck!

SOMEGIRL!

Thank u so much! It was so nice of u to give me so full information. I was very greatful for ur answer. My BF is christian and he is from Bayelsa State, i know that his father has only one wife so maybe im worried for nothing and its not their family tradition, well i dont relly know many things aboutNigeria but i see the place is something really special!

Hi some girl, hope russia is cool, while in nigeria it is not a practice for christains to mary more than one wife, however traditionist and muslims do. But for the law sha, i cant say for certain, but i can assure you that if he loves you and is a good christain he wont marry another after your marriage with him.

hi girlfriend
In Nigeria marrying more than one wife is actually ur choice whether muslim or christian. so have no fear if he loves u and wants no trouble for his life he wont marry another wife. it is just a personal choice

Somegirl know 9ja finish oo.

why are you so curious of knowing if it is possible of him having a second wife here in nigeria,is it that u are not the perfect girl for him?as long as he loves u without complain or grudges then there is no need for fear or panic.not even if he is force to get another wife.