elijah24:
I've been dating her for six years. 3 years ago i found out she was seeing someone else, but when i asked her she said she was going to stop seeing the guy immediately but till date she still goes to see the guy, sometimes even in the guy's school.

I am in my final year while she is in her 3rd year. The other guy is in his OND1.

i feel betrayed and wanna end the relationship but all her friends are begging me to give her time to put an end to the affair with the guy. She also begged me to pardon her that she will end it. My problem is i can't share my girl with someone else especially in this era of STDs and even HIV. I love her and anytime i ask her to stay away from me i fall sick after a day or two. Please guys and babes, i need sincere and genuine advice. I don't wanna act and regret later.

I am confused that's why i brought it to the house for good advice. Please pals help a bro that is helpless now

The only way to save this relationship of urs is to correct ur erroneous defination of love for her!!! It almost tending to obsession cos u shudnt say u can't stay or ud feel sick without her. U may feel down nt be urself.
2. Seems ur relnshp ain't blanced!! U clearly love her way more than she does for u and dats dangerous for any party in a relnshp so u MUST BALANCE IT ASAP or face d consequences.
3. She cheated dont mean shes bad cos 85% of all gals cheat bt d degree and reason for d cheating needs to be looked at carefully. If she actually loves dis other guy and not u anymore. RUN LIKE HELL. Bt if it ws due to sm negligence or lousy behaviour or manipulation. Dat can be correct by counselling and guidance. Cheers mate.

Nb: ive dated a gal fir dat long so I knw how u feel exactly. Trust me.

Please don't listen to all these guys calling you mugu and all other stuff. Na some of dem go rush drink poison first if their BF/GF leave them! Don't feel bad! It's normal, EVERYONE is or has been in love one time or the other. Since you are not married, you can't say she's CHEATING on you, cause the other guy can say the same too.
If you love her, hustle for her love! Remember, a woman is like a cloth in the marketplace ,no be who first price am dey get am.
I wish you good luck in your hustle. If you win, and finally marry her, it will be a nice story of perseverance to tell your freinds and family.

elijah24:
I've been dating her for six years. 3 years ago i found out she was seeing someone else, but when i asked her she said she was going to stop seeing the guy immediately but till date she still goes to see the guy, sometimes even in the guy's school.

I am in my final year while she is in her 3rd year. The other guy is in his OND1.

i feel betrayed and wanna end the relationship but all her friends are begging me to give her time to put an end to the affair with the guy. She also begged me to pardon her that she will end it. My problem is i can't share my girl with someone else especially in this era of STDs and even HIV. I love her and anytime i ask her to stay away from me i fall sick after a day or two. Please guys and babes, i need sincere and genuine advice. I don't wanna act and regret later.

I am confused that's why i brought it to the house for good advice. Please pals help a bro that is helpless now

My brother all I can tell u is that no being is irreplaceable, except God. Move on with ur life, & forget about her she's not worth it.

elijah24:
i must confess some of u are mean but truthful though,breaking up is wat i ve decided to do but need wider consultations so i wont regret later thats why i post it here for general assessment.thanks everybody.i really appreciate ,this shows that my decision was the ryt one thanks all nairalanders

gud u listen n use ur head,every1 makes mistakes 1ce in a while bt dis doe,....neva cordone a cheat unless u want ur gateman n madams "cousin" 2b d fadas of ur kids n d only thing u shd luv so much is God n gud business

[quote author=younghartz post=34617124]Love or obsession?

You'll waste your whole life waiting for them to change. Sleeping next to them and feeling alone. Wondering why they won't treat you right. You keep thinking it's your fault and you give more and more, hoping that your efforts will change things. You're in love with a lie, ths just the truth that you don't want to face. Let it go bc God wants better for you & you deserve better [/quote

I'm so in love with this quote "Your re in love with a LIE, just d Truth u running from".
My brother u see this our Women needs us More Dan we do. so guys just chill and avoid premature death

agarawu23:
should I call you a fool?
her friends are begging you to endure and promised you to change her ways? you wasted additional 3years after your discovery? chai !!! you must be the girl's MAGA!!!. I guess you are rich bro

dump her ass and move on.

if she truly love you, she won't be sharing your love with another guy.

lol

leonatty:
Stop deceiving urself. Are u going to marry, if yes then go and see her family and I bet u, she'll stop. Better don't ruin her life by dumping her later. Who knows if the other guy is more serious.

indeed