barcanista:
the gods are to be blamed

freecocoa:
I could use the time for something else.

Kadri4:
Whose fault?

Sagamite:


What a question!

Of course the men.

You don't use your position of power to get sex by force or coercion.

In Africa, the girls that become housemaids are normally from extremely poor backgrounds that can't afford to lose their jobs, so if an employer is putting pressure on them for a silly thing as sex, they might succumb to the transient suffering of unwanted sex than the long suffering of hunger and hopelessness.

Swagt101:
And what on earth is worth attending to other than your husband/household needs?

GogobiriLalas:
When people say that the husband is stooping so low, I don't understand; are they saying that the housemaid is less than human, just because she happens to be an housemaid? The Nigerian mentality that your level in life is determined by how much money you make or your educational background is quite honestly annoying; every occupation should be accorded it's dignity, housemaids offer an essential service to the society and should be respected as such. That stated, when a woman fails to realize that part of the seduction process involves the respect and care she offers her husband I.e in the little things she does, like making him food, paying attention to his attire, etc if she totally reneges on these duties and leaves it to the housemaid, she effectively sets up her husband to be seduced by the housemaid; besides, a housemaid is so awestruck by the attention she receives from the master of the house, she is willing to submit to a lot of things madam no longer deems necessary and if you're a man, you know there's nothing more flattering nor seductive than a willing woman....in short, it is my opinion that when a man begins to cast a lustful glance at the housemaid, it's a symptom that madam is neglecting her duties somewhere....enjoy yaself

Swagk101:
Yes oo...the gods of the maid's barca(4rm ur moniker)

freecocoa:
I will attend to the needs ofcourse, that's why I need more time.

Swagt101:
Guy just imagine say ur wife hire her type as househelp, talk true, shey u go wire her?.... End time is near ooo

Swagt101:
... Invariably, there's no need for a househelp!

INTROVERT:



It's just in you men's blood to put your thing in any thing that wears skirt.

Men most times initiate such adulterous relationships and even when its the maid that does the man still has the power to refuse and sack the byatchh.

Even if your wife for any reason can't satisfy you it's still your duty to understand her and teach her and work with not chasing your maid in the kitchen

Twaci:
A woman should be able to handle her husband, marriage and family and she not able to do these successfully is failure on her part.

But then, the man -being the head of the family- should be able to help his wife carry out her duties effectively....not tempt her with reasons for divorce (e.g, extra marital affairs, physical abuse, etc).

In the case laid open by the OP, I blame the husband and his wife.

#my2cents

Aminat508:
This long standing anomaly of men sleeping with house helps even in most times ending up the woman leaving her matrimonial for the maid....who gets blame?
does the wife takes a greater blame by leaving the house maid to run everything in the house...even attending to the man's needs

while she plays madam sitting doing nothing nd forgetting her wifely duties

DrAremu:
The blame rests squarely with the man.[s] Mostly they are men who cannot stand anything in skirts.[/s]

freecocoa:
There is o.

I won't like to cook and clean everyday.

Swagt101:
I know u wouldn't give in, sha open eyes b4 u carry maid come house... Konji is everywhere . And trust no man

macherie1:
Is he a dog? so if the wife neglects her duty it is okay for the man to sleep with anything in sight. what a shame! A lot of men her really loosing it.

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1. It's well known men bleep ever thing in skirt whether she carry front and back or no carry. Even girls that are old enough to be their daughters or younger sisters.

2. Take a chill pill. Did u marry a slave. Most of you marry just because u want a cook cleanker and bleep partner. All men know how to do is go out to work, drink afterwards and come home and ask for food. Be considerate at least because every working woman tries to balance work and family duties which is just not easy. If I cook food can't my hubby come and assist me to wash plates while we chat. He will just be in the parlour watching film and after all that work he will still want to climb. Mtscheww don't make me vex.


3. Killing current is relative. We know it's you men that suffer from quick expulsion most and also can't get it to stand when its needed the most.

INTROVERT:



It's just in you men's blood to put your thing in any thing that wears skirt.

Men most times initiate such adulterous relationships and even when its the maid that does the man still has the power to refuse and sack the byatchh.

Even if your wife for any reason can't satisfy you it's still your duty to understand her and teach her and work with her not chasing your maid in the kitchen