plz my fellow nairalanders i need ur candid and unbiased advice on this issue that has been bothering me;
Am hoping to go for my fiances' introduction by the end of this year and all things being equal we hope to get married by 1st quarter of next year (2016). she's 22 and will be rounding up her NYSC by October. her father has always wanted her to do her M.Sc immediately after service which i totally agree with but the problem now is that the M.Sc form is out and her father is saying he doesn't have money to buy the form for her talk more of sponsoring the program. So plz i wanna know if its my responsibility to sponsor her Masters program. Note that i have always been ready support her in the program but its like her father is trying to push that responsibility to me which in all sincerity i don't think i can shoulder alone at this stage because i have our wedding to plan, am running a professional program and my Masters at the same time.
pls ur thoughts and opinions are needed.
No hate word or insults pls. MOD PLZ DO THE NEEDFUL

woju:
plz my fellow nairalanders i need ur candid and unbiased advice on this issue that has been bothering me;
Am hoping to go for my fiances' introduction by the end of this year and all things being equal we hope to get married by 1st quarter of next year (2016). she's 22 and will be rounding up her NYSC by October. her father has always wanted her to do her M.Sc immediately after service which i totally agree with but the problem now is that the M.Sc form is out and her father is saying he doesn't have money to buy the form for her talk more of sponsoring the program. So plz i wanna know if its my responsibility to sponsor her Masters program. Note that i have always been ready support her in the program but its like her father is trying to push that responsibility to me which in all sincerity i don't think i can shoulder alone at this stage because i have our wedding to plan, am running a professional program and my Masters at the same time.
pls ur thoughts and opinions are needed.
No hate word or insults pls. MOD PLZ DO THE NEEDFUL

Why bother consider it if you can't afford it?

Just be honest about it and ask her to defer it

her father has always wanted her to do her M.Sc immediately after service


As you have said, it's her father decision not yours so therefore her father should sponsor the program. If you guys are Already married, nobody will ask you not to sponsor her. We have seen many cases whereby a guy sponsor a lady to school and the lady later dump him for another guy. (forget introduction date and wedding plans. we have read it here on this forum where a lady left the guy on their wedding day)

I don't know how strong both of you relationship is but I don't trust ladies of nowadays . Her responsibility is still on her parents since you haven't married her but that doesn't mean you will not spend on her if you have.

in conclusion, check your pocket and see if you can risk it and make sure you will not regret it.

She is not your wife nd not yet your responsibility...

If you can afford it, go ahead but if you cant be sincere to her dad.

Perhaps her dad is afraid you wont put her education into consideration after you marry her

If you have The capability go ahead and sponsor her. If not let her see reasons.

Hope the dad won't stop your wedding because of that....

She isn't ur responsibility yet cos u ain't married 2 her. Since her father wants her 2 go 4 her Msc,he should b ready 2 shoulder d responsibility. U can den support in wat eva way u can

pretydiva:
She isn't ur responsibility yet cos u ain't married 2 her. Since her father wants her 2 go 4 her Msc,he should b ready 2 shoulder d responsibility . U can den support in wat eva way u can

that's the main point here

woju:
plz my fellow nairalanders i need ur candid and unbiased advice on this issue that has been bothering me;
Am hoping to go for my fiances' introduction by the end of this year and all things being equal we hope to get married by 1st quarter of next year (2016). she's 22 and will be rounding up her NYSC by October. her father has always wanted her to do her M.Sc immediately after service which i totally agree with but the problem now is that the M.Sc form is out and her father is saying he doesn't have money to buy the form for her talk more of sponsoring the program. So plz i wanna know if its my responsibility to sponsor her Masters program. Note that i have always been ready support her in the program but its like her father is trying to push that responsibility to me which in all sincerity i don't think i can shoulder alone at this stage because i have our wedding to plan, am running a professional program and my Masters at the same time.
pls ur thoughts and opinions are needed.
No hate word or insults pls. MOD PLZ DO THE NEEDFUL

I suggest you talk to her father Man-to-Man
Let him know you're ready to support her, but can only do so after the wedding (when your pocket comes back to life)

Or if you can sacrifice the wedding till next two years so that you can use the money to support her.

TheChoiceIsYours
#my2kobo

agarawu23:
her father has always wanted her to do her M.Sc immediately after service


As you have said, it's her father decision not yours so therefore her father should sponsor the program. If you guys are Already married, nobody will ask you not to sponsor her. We have seen many cases whereby a guy sponsor a lady to school and the lady later dump him for another guy. (forget introduction date and wedding plans. we have read it here on this forum where a lady left the guy on their wedding day)

I don't know how strong both of you relationship is but I don't trust ladies of nowadays . Her responsibility is still on her parents since you haven't married her but that doesn't mean you will not spend on her if you have.

in conclusion, check your pocket and see if you can risk it and make sure you will not regret it.

THANKS MAN

woju:
plz my fellow nairalanders i need ur candid and unbiased advice on this issue that has been bothering me;
Am hoping to go for my fiances' introduction by the end of this year and all things being equal we hope to get married by 1st quarter of next year (2016). she's 22 and will be rounding up her NYSC by October. her father has always wanted her to do her M.Sc immediately after service which i totally agree with but the problem now is that the M.Sc form is out and her father is saying he doesn't have money to buy the form for her talk more of sponsoring the program. So plz i wanna know if its my responsibility to sponsor her Masters program. Note that i have always been ready support her in the program but its like her father is trying to push that responsibility to me which in all sincerity i don't think i can shoulder alone at this stage because i have our wedding to plan, am running a professional program and my Masters at the same time.
pls ur thoughts and opinions are needed.
No hate word or insults pls. MOD PLZ DO THE NEEDFUL

Okay, you wrote that her father said he doesn't he have money to get her M.SC form and sponsor the program.
Why not ask her to know the decision her father is trying to make concerning it? Probably, it might not be that he's trying to dump the responsibility on you.
After confirming from her and you find out that's her fathers' true intention, you can then open up to them whether you can sponsor her or not.

Goodluck!

Omotayor123:
If you have The capability go ahead and sponsor her. If not let her see reasons.

Hope the dad won't stop your wedding because of that....

Shouldn't

jaybee3:
Shouldn't

you didn't see 'Hope'.

'I mean I hope he won't'......

Omotayor123:

you didn't see 'Hope'.


'I mean I hope he won't'......

I'm high on janjaweèd

jaybee3:
I'm high on janjaweèd

Talk to the girl's father and pour out your feelings