Ok, i have been keeping this to myself for quite sometime now and i think its getting to me cause Im unable to talk to anyone about this! I really really need you guy's advise. Pleaseee. . . This is actualkly killing me!

My bf and I have been living together in one house together with 5 other housemates. One of them is my bf's childhood/ best and close friend. They both were neightbours in naija and both travelled to malaysia to study and work.

Anyways, somewhere before Val's day, his friend had admitted how much he loves me and he could not stand it. I did not take it seriously because he has a gf. . . A Canadian girl for that matter and that girl is soooo beautiful and slim and sooo attractive. to be honest, I like her alot because she is one of the most nicest person which I have ever met! But just before he admitted his feelings towards me, he dumped his gf and told her infront of my face that he does not love her anymore because theres no spark. To be honest, I almost fainted hearing this. The poor girl cried hysterically and begged him but he told her he has no feelings for her.

Anyways, its killing me all the time cause like most of the time, he would tell my bf on how lucky he is to have me as his gf and he would give that look on me and I just feel sooo uncomfortable. And he would always find opportunities to tell me his feelings. . . I told him off that I will only love my bf and no one else and I even made it clear that I dont want to get involve with him but he never gave up.

I wanted to tell my bf just like how I told him about how other guys come and bugged me but the thing is that I dont like to spoil their relationship as best friends. . . I would feel even more worst off.

Last week, I came to a conclusion to move out from that house and find somehwere else and I told my bf and he agrees but providing that friend of his moves in as well. Im like URGHHHH. . . . .

I mean what do you think i should do if you were in my shoes?

To be honest, i would never thought people would fall for me especially when their ex gf's are so much prettier and hotter and sexier than I am. I guess I am all wrong when it comes to judging guys. . .

Are you sure you are not Leila reborn? All your petty issues on nairaland.

Who is Leila?

And Im sorry ooo but I just happen to face this. . .  And if its petty, why not to tell me what shoudl I do?

I'll tell you alright. . . . . . . . Just stop about your boyfriend. Any topic but him will do.
Thanks.

Have you threatened to tell your boyfriend? And what was his reaction?

Yeah, you should tell your boyfriend what's going on.

Tell your boy friend that he is making passes at you, and that you don't feel comfortable around him which is why you are moving out, not to cause any friction between you all.

Tomorrow now how much salt to add to rice una go ask. Nairaland sef . . . comedy central.

Gabby ya better tell your bf before you get raped with your own consent.

spoilt:

I'll tell you alright. . . . . . . . Just stop about your boyfriend. Any topic but him will do.
Thanks.

Geeeezzzz. . . . You are really something. . . Ok, stop posting on my threads if you are annoyed and move it! if you are gonna create a thread, Im sure not to bash you up lady

stillwater:

Have you threatened to tell your boyfriend? And what was his reaction?

Uhm. . . . noooo. . . . . I actually had to rethink to ensure that I dont cause any palava. . . 

DaPhoenix:

Yeah, you should tell your boyfriend what's going on.

Wow! Phoenix, today Im amaze with you. You usually would sound really straight and you would post that moving picture thingy but today. heheh! 

Akinagirl:

Tell your boy friend that he is making passes at you, and that you don't feel comfortable around him which is why you are moving out, not to cause any friction between you all.

Ok, and the next thing he would surely ask, what kinda passes. He always wants a full detailed explanation. . . 

davidylan:

Tomorrow now how much salt to add to rice una go ask. Nairaland sef . . . comedy central.

Gabby ya better tell your bf before you get raped with your own consent.

Rape What made you say that The last thing i would know from Black boys is that they rape people. nansense!     

And this aint a joke ooo. . . So this aint comedy central.

gabrywyl:

Wow! Phoenix, today Im amaze with you. You usually would sound really straight and you would post that moving picture thingy but today. heheh!

I've changed.

LMAO!

gabrywyl:


Uhm. . . . noooo. . . . . I actually had to rethink to ensure that I dont cause any palava. . . 

What palava? He doesn't have the decency to respect his friend and you are thinking of "not causing palava". Newsflash---> Palava has already started and he started it. He's a very bad friend, a green snake in green grass. Tell your boyfriend!!!

yes, you are right in a way but I was just imagining all those years they have been friends. . .

Tell your boyfriend before the story gets twisted and he will say that you came on to him. Nip it in the bud while its early. Just my 2 cents.

chei, a lifetime of friendship goes down the drain. Are you sure you did not lead the dude on? I find it hard to see WHY you chose to live with 6 men in the same house.

Akinagirl:

Tell your boyfriend before the story gets twisted and he will say that you came on to him. Nip it in the bud while its early. Just my 2 cents.

I guess you are right but now I will have to think on how to tell him

davidylan:

chei, a lifetime of friendship goes down the drain. Are you sure you did not lead the dude on? I find it hard to see WHY you chose to live with 6 men in the same house.

Well, I rent rooms to foreignors thats why ooo.  And what do you mean by lead the dude on?

Lead which dude on? Randy people need no go ahead to chase what's not theirs.

Just dont let your bf catch you f@@king the guy. My candid advice. Or you will loose them both. Happened to a girl i know.

F***. . . . Ewww. . . Thats gross. . . I dont like and I object F**king some random guy. . .

gabby, berra let ur bf know b4 it is too late oo, cox it will even hurt more if he happens to hear it 4rom another person or even notice it himself

yes, U are right. even now he is starting to sense that Im not telling him something. . .

then it is time to let the cat outta box fast.

Sissy, have you ever experienced such case before?

gabrywyl:

Sissy, have you ever experienced such case before?

yup, i have but i never gave it a chance

So thats what you did? U told your bf? How did he react to that after that?

Gabby, what do you intend doing? Or are you tryin to tel NLanders dat u can't handle such kinda situations in your own way? Must we tel u what to do? Ok! You've got some positive replies but stil give excuses. I know u've been temptin him, now he's fallen and u are complaining! RUBBISH!!!

So you say that because you once behave like that abi? dont expect me to be like you ooo. 

gabrywyl:

So thats what you did? U told your bf? How did he react to that after that?

yes i did tell him, that i didnt like the way his friend was acting towards me and i went into details etc.
he did confront his friend about it and i guess they settled it mutually cox he starting acting decent but i never  spoke to him again. and i told him cox  he had many friends, n who knws that boy might just be discussing it with some of friends n 4rom there he might hear it, and then it will seem like i was doing something behind his back or lying, trust issues will develop blah blah. and even if i didnt tell him, he might notice it by my behavior cox i felt so much uncomfortable when that boy was around him and their groups. so that kind of behavoir sometimes sets off the alarm esp. when u dnt usually act like that around his group of friends b4.

Berra fork him and forget about it!

hmmm gabby i'll go with the house on this
tell ur guy before its too late

dhtml:

Berra fork him and[b] forget about it[/b]!

if only it was that easy