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Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by ilaugh1: 5:05pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
leave him alone, but next time you see him, hit his stupid head with a big big stick. |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by JJYOU: 5:06pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
JustGood:mr just good this is NL. what is your problem? do i have to seek your counsel before airing my opinions? this thread is about a nigerian man deceiving a woman just like the women do too how do you bring american investment fraud here> should nigerians be playing and destroying peoples confidence becos americans are doing fraud? what else would you like me to blame americans for? nawa 4 u ooo |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by JustGood(m): 5:16pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
JJYOU: What exactly then is the problem with me also airing my opinion on your opinion? It is not specifically about Nigerian men but you made it out to be about Nigerian men. . .it was about a man! |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by realcele: 5:20pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
That is man in reality for you. Relax at least you are out of it with your senses. Get on with your life and define what you want in a relationship and you have got to be a bit selfish, develop yourself etc. Don't expect people to be faithful and truthful but be truthful to yourself, do a bit of research and learn a bit of psychology you will need it to survive with men expecially if they are African and more so from Nigeria. You have to be wise and i tell you never date a married man thinking he will divorce her for you. You might save yourself a bit of headache by speaking to the wife before you decide to marry a divorcee. Men very funny and as long as you make yourself available they will keep on lying or manipulating you. Giving you a key does not mean he does not have anybody they are great game player if they so wish. As with his family, there is nothing they can do on your part and you should be lucky this sister manage to tell you that a the man has a new baby. If not you will still be in the deceit wagon if you so wish and you might end up becoming one of his baby making maching. Get on with life and shine your eyes well well. Best of luck |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by JJYOU: 5:39pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
JustGood:you are exhibiting the problem naija men and women have with ease. how come you dont have problems with people taking advantage of others like our people do without shame |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by JustGood(m): 5:56pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
JJYOU: you are exhibiting the problem people who feel inferior exhibit with ease. Why is it that you dont go and find out if other men do it before you start speaking for Nigerians? |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by JJYOU: 6:04pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
JustGood:you will not get the licence to continue your deception with ease from me. majority of you are frauds and criminals in the way you go leading people you should have no business with into false relationships. get over yourself and stop trying to defend unacceptable behaviours. |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by Nobody: 6:15pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
so the guy forgot he had a wife and son. WOW! |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by JustGood(m): 6:16pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
JJYOU: I sense that you have a bitterness towards Nigerians. busy bodi, this is nigerians for you. mostly bad belle people Not really my business but you dont have to go around trying to label us all as evil simply because you were unable to achieve some things which you thought you could have achieved. |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by JJYOU: 6:41pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
JustGood:i generally dont have time for people like you. what am i trying to achieve? deceive a nigerian woman into relationship that i know i am not prepared for or what? label you. u that effortlessly without my assistance. are you insinuating i am behind all the men/women telling lies to the men/women complaining in various threads here? you have issues. the bad belle word you pasted was taken from the thread you and your likes were showing hatred for another nigerian woman. you hate truth. why cant you condemn the idiot doing this non sence rather than trying to justify nigerians stupidity with americans are doing it. that is my last word on this. |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by Bishop(m): 6:45pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
I am sinceley proposing that there should be a law enabling women to pronounce men 419 for chopping thier thing under false pretence punishable by hanging .abi what is nairalanders thinking |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by JJYOU: 6:49pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
Bishop:nice one but you know how many NL dudes will go under. |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by Nobody: 6:55pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
With all the guys out there, why would someone go for a fairly used one? Or is it your 'purchasing power' miss? More seriously, I don't quite get the reason why lots of people choose to deceive themselves. Why would you still stick around after someone tells you he FORGOT his wife and son. Is he a slowpoke? |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by sosodat: 7:03pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
Bishop: It cuts both ways @ JJYOU Stop generalizing puleaseee! It's a case of a fraudulent man and hence not equal to labelling it all Nigerian men @Poster Take heart, its life. D guy is a scum, just see it as experience acquired which will equip you to have a better and deciet free life. Move on |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by JustGood(m): 7:10pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
sosodat: Thank you o. The guy will vent his Nigerian hatred on you if you dont simmer for him |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by JustGood(m): 7:12pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
what happened to all the old american women using young Nigerian men to satisfy their thirst for companionship and the boys also getting into it knowing that they are only in it for the passports/greencards? Is that not a case of love 419 from both sides? |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by tatooboy: 7:20pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
For me as pathetic as your story sounds, i seem to have a few misgivings. 1. How come its your guy's younger sis that is carrying a new baby on her back? 2. You give us the impression that his sibs like you, so y would one of them spite you this way? If your story is true, u know what to do, So if nairalanders tell you to continue, you will continue abi? Spend time in the presence of God. Attend midweek services in your church if your a christian. Like i have always said, the beauty about how God created the heart is that no matter how hurt you are , the hearbreak can still mend. Its a matter of time. I promise you'll find happiness again by the grace of God. Always remember, no one on NL is better than you, dont let anyone run your self esteem down. We are all equal before God. Who is perfect amongst us, let him or her raise their hands. All the best sis. |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by dae(f): 7:25pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
Some serious stuff Going on wid you mennn! anyways, get you another dude and next time u set your eyes on the one that F'd up - SMILE AND STICK OUT YOUR MIDDLE FINGER AT HIM --[color=#990000][/color] |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by Outstrip(f): 9:20pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
So do you need to be told that you have to leave this man. Husband to be!!!!!!!!!!! You are free woman. Don't be a fool. He is a liar. |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by kezzy09: 10:18pm On Mar 05, 2009 |
My dear,pls beware of married or engaged men in the future.Look out for single prospective young men,with whom u can build your future. Also not every single guys are serious or ready 2 settledown, the problem we ladies have is that wen we are in our 20s we tend 2 be so desperate. guys know wen we ladies are so desperate and so takes advantage of dat. girl u need 2 pick up the remains of ur broken heart and move on. we learn from our personal experiences. |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by dmy(m): 5:23am On Mar 06, 2009 |
i'm always amazed about how naija girls allow themselves to be used like this.4 Gods sake the guy told you he FORGET! to tell you about his wife and children!PLEASEEE.that should have sent alarm bells ringing in you head.and to think he'l leave his wife and children 4 you?get a life girl.you are lucky he didnt get you preggy and leave you! |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by aduje(m): 8:06am On Mar 06, 2009 |
My sister, this shows you are not fully matured no matter your age! Anyway, I feel you should go and do a pregnancy test: If you find yourself pregnant, marry him as a second wife (that will be the reward for your stupid and blind love). If you are not pregnant quit and continue a new life. You are a simple and sincere girl. I trust God to give you a husband that will be sincere to you. Good Luck. |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by benedictac(f): 9:39am On Mar 06, 2009 |
@ Poster, You supposed to had know this from the onset that he wasnt yours. How can a man tell you he wants to divorce his wife (ex-wife) as you call it, to marry you? what makes you feel if he had married you would still not use the same broom to sweep you out? I dont know why our youngstars (most especially ladies) of today are just rushing for marriage and they dont care who they date what they are told. Marriage is not feelings but reality. My dear forget about that guy and move forward. I think this is a big lesson for you to learn from. This goes for all the single ladies in the house, have prestige and add value to yourself dont just jump at any man just because he said he wants to marry you. take you time to really know him and know if it is the will of God for you. My dear poster, just thank you God that the marriage had not happened bcoz it would had been more devastating for you than now. Remain blessed as the real one is just by the corner waiting for that smile. Smile Jesus loves you. |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by Hadone(m): 10:51am On Mar 06, 2009 |
Desa oye or what ever you called your self, i'm sorry but must refer you to be the last stupid i ever came across. You espect the guy (mind u he is not yours but his wife) to divoice and abandon his wife and mother of his children 4 u 2 come in? Then how many days or weeks do u plan to stay with him before he divoice you for another girl? u may not be moslem but it is good 4 u and every one who cares to hear to know that prophet of islam (MUHAMMAD S.A.W) said "the faith of everyone among u is defect until a person loves for others what he loved for himself. But as u said u needed advice from nairalanders, u better abandon the guy & keep praying 4 ur Mr right come. Best wishes!! Lag_boy, r u around d corner? say something now. |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by Acheina: 1:58pm On Mar 06, 2009 |
im very sure the MAGA used jazz on you,if not this wuldnt have happened.i also think that you are a naive gal,for you to believe all that crap he gave you.Anyway sha, all the best |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by luckia(m): 2:11pm On Mar 06, 2009 |
hi, though its hard for me to believe this story; since you guys have been moving from yours to his family. But my advice is this, just leave the guy and get a better guy, very simple, |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by Fhemmmy: 2:48pm On Mar 06, 2009 |
Thank God you knew before saying i do. Move on and i am sure someone better is out there for you. Good luck |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by JJYOU: 2:51pm On Mar 06, 2009 |
JustGood:i dont know where you live but you must be very naive to think there are old american women using young Nigerian men to satisfy their thirst for companionship just picture a group of senior citizens lining up for their pick of nigerian security guards, cab drivers and what have you as if their lives depends on it. i am old enough to know right from wrong. you dont have to deceive people to get ahead in life. this is very difficult for people like you to understand. you should be angry with your likes who see nothing wrong in deceiving people for fun or finance. in case you missed it there is a write up by oluwdashmi another deceived sister here. what else do you want to do other than declare to him that you have caught him and walk away. Although it is painful depending on how long you are able to put yourself together but life goes on. As for your family, don't tell them anything but if they ask you about him, tell them you are no longer together. sosodat:how did i label it all nigerian men? can i ask why it is difficult for some of you to say what a man or nigerian did is wrong |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by Higher(m): 3:05pm On Mar 06, 2009 |
U are asking fullish Q(sorry to say, didn't mean 2 insult u), by asking what u suppose to be the next thing u suppose to do. May be u don't know sha abi u know but because love don blind u, u know wan to be sincere with urself. U beter close yah eyes n make the best decision for urself. ok, may be u dont know, let me remind u , next thin is to rrrrrrrruuuuuuuuunnnnnnnn for ur HAPPINESS. |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by asoji23(m): 3:21pm On Mar 06, 2009 |
if you arent that daft you shouldnt have ask from fellow nairalanders what you will do in this kind of situation. that is what ladies who are after materials things see this is just the begining not until he has 20 children outside before you come back to your senses, go for deliverance coz u get problem. |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by sistawoman: 3:23pm On Mar 06, 2009 |
I dont see how bashing her is going to make this any better. Have not all at some point in our love lives been deceived by at least one partner? And when that partner came up with some lame ass excuse did we not believe them because we were in love and believed that they were in love too, so they must be telling the truth? Have you not gotten that gut feeling or that voice in the back of your head but you still ignored it because you were in love? this sista made a mistake because of love. She believed that because she had a key to his place and was free to go and come as she pleases that he was not hiding anything, so when the child and wife appeared he lied some more to her and she believed him. The best way to hide anything is in plain sight. When your partner has nothing to hide, or so you think, then you let your guard down and you trust more than you would if he was hiding stuff; like password protected cell phones, secret phone calls, refusing to give you a key, etc. Could it also be, just playing devils advocate, that he was indeed separated from his wife but they had sex one night 9 months ago and she got pregnant but refused to abort the baby because he was divorcing her and she wanted to hold on to her man? Sista I dont blame you for falling in love and believing that this man that met your parents, swore his undying love for you, proposed marriage, planned a future for you and him, lied and deceived you. I am sorry that this happened and hope that you find the one that make your heart leap for joy again and his love will be true. I would not want to be in your place feeling the hurt you are feeling and you are in my prayers. (that is coming from a married woman) |
Re: My Would-Be Husband Deceive My And My Family by JustGood(m): 4:05pm On Mar 06, 2009 |
JJYOU: The fact that you dont know that there are western women who do this leaves me with no choice but to discontinue this. Get out a little more. Get a job or something where you meet more people and you might see a little more than you know now. You dont know what happens and you refer to another person as naive |
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