good morning,
I am a man of 27 years old and I am a bit comfortable and will like to settle as soon as possible. The problem here is that 2 girls are in love with me. The first I met her in 2010 without wooing she started falling in love and she was a bit desperate as she was asking for marriage during my service year she was in year 1 then at university. The second girl was a nurse I met last year in the course of my work she was a student then I ask her she agreed after playing me for 5 months I am getting fed up when she send the 'I don accept' text msg. I am more comfortable with the nurse than the other girl. The first girl always initiate break ups and coming together always complaining of me not [/b]CARING AND ROMANTIC[b] (I am not truly cos I lost that part of me when I lost my favourite cousin to death in 2009). I am not the lady type sha cos I don't really like something that will take away my freedom.
The problem now is the first girl after breaking up with me in late 2013, she just show up at my place last week telling me she loves me bla bla bla to a point she was demanding sex as she claimed she was a virgin meanwhile the nurse is working on my psyche up to the point that right now I am a regular church goer (as I abandon everything after my cousin death to the point that cost my first class) but now she is misbehaving just because I shouted at her on phone and not telling her where I am going before time and she has stopped talking to me. She even came to my house cos she was treating a cousin of mine that stays with me, she just 'hi' me.
What should I do to both girl?

THING TO NOTE
1. They are both virgin to me as I have not had sex with them and they claim to be
2. My friends prefer the first girl
3. My family love the other girl as my family lives close to her family in my village
4. I am not a virgin, I am active "clubber" and regular traveller as my job entail
Thanks
Baajoko (please don't mind my English construction) thanks all for the advices please I need more the mods can please help me push it

You can lie ooo

baadejoko:
good morning,
I am a man of 27 years old and I am a bit comfortable and will like to settle as soon as possible. The problem here is that 2 girls are in love with me. The first I met her in 2010 without wooing she started falling in love and she was a bit desperate as she was asking for marriage during my service year she was in year 1 then at university. The second girl[b] was[/b] a nurse I met last year in the course of my work she was a student then I ask her she agreed after playing me for 5 months I am getting fed up when she send the 'I don accept' text msg. I am more comfortable with the nurse than the other girl. The first girl always initiate break ups and coming together always complaining of me not [b][s]CARING AND ROMANTIC (I am not truly cos I lost that part of me when I lost my favourite cousin to death in 2009). I am not the lady type sha cos I don't really like something that will take away my freedom.[/s]
The problem now is the first girl after breaking up with me in late 2013, she just show up at my place last week telling me she loves me bla bla bla to a point she was demanding sex as she claimed she was a virgin meanwhile the nurse is working on my psyche up to the point that right now I am a regular church goer (as I abandon everything after my cousin death to the point that cost my first class) but now she is misbehaving just because I shouted at her on phone and not telling her where I am going before time and she has stopped talking to me. She even came to my house cos she was treating a cousin of mine that stays with me, she just 'hi' me.
What should I do to both girl?
THING TO NOTE
1. They are both virgin to me as I have not had sex with them and they claim to be
2. My friends prefer the first girl
3. My family love the other girl as my family lives close to her family in my village
[s]4. I am not a virgin, I am active "clubber" and regular traveller as my job entail[/s]
Thanks
Baajoko (please don't mind my English construction)

Do turubom,turubom and pick

I would advice that you stick to the nurse because she is the one who has and is adding value to your life by working on your psycho and morally by making you draw closer to God by attending church services. The first is not truly faithful to you due to the fact that she is still young and in school and I believe her constant breaking up and coming back is as a result of her being carried away by the wiles of school life (if you know what I mean). My advice is that you stick to the one who is adding value to your life. Most importantly you have to work on yourself as well.

goodmorning40:
Do turubom,turubom and pick

He's talking about human beings here and not items!

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D nurse shud b d rite option for u cus she s d one u luv, folo ur mind n take decision u will not regret 2mao...

Which of them do you truly like?

Kingsasian:
I would advice that you stick to the nurse because she is the one who has and is adding value to your life by working on your psycho and morally by making you draw closer to God by attending church services. The first is not truly faithful to you due to the fact that she is still young and in school and I believe her constant breaking up and coming back is as a result of her being carried away by the wiles of school life (if you know what I mean). My advice is that you stick to the one who is adding value to your life. Most importantly you have to work on yourself as well.

You photocopied my mind.

Good one.



@OP, loving and caring in a student's dictionary means giving money and more money so use your brain.


I personally don't have any business with a student who is always talking about marriage, it is a sign that she doesn't know what she's doing so she is looking for a way to quit.

Choose the working lady over the student. Keep away from the drama queen who doesn't know what she wants.

@OP, i will advice u to stick to d nurse cus its seems she is the only one serious here.

Tallesty1:
You photocopied my mind.

Good one.



@OP, loving and caring in a student's dictionary means giving money and more money so use your brain.


I personally don't have any business with a student who is always talking about marriage, it is a sign that she doesn't know what she's doing so she is looking for a way to quit.

God bless you bro, u just completed it. Dating a student is a big risk o. I am talking from my own experiences. Lol

Neither of them is right for u.







Sit down and re evaluate urself,u need to know what u want in a woman and what u do not want.



U think marriage is like choosing between two pairs of shoes?

why would you date 2 girls at the same time when you say you wan settle down.
#YouWantToEatYourEba&HaveIt

If I were you, I would wait a little longer before getting married. It's not simply a financial matter, you're saying you're comfortable now and that's why you want to do it. Problem is, your mind should also be comfortable! You should get married by the time you decide to stop clubbing, and are ready to commit yourself completely to marriage. Marriage is sacred and it should be with the person you love. If you still don't know who to marry, then you should wait, since you should feel the sparks for your future wife. You don't have to pick someone, when the person comes slong, you will know from the bottom of your heart.

Please don't take a hurried decision, it's clear your mind is not there, wait.

missbehave247:
You can lie ooo

Well that is opinion, what is your advice?

Kingsasian:
I would advice that you stick to the nurse because she is the one who has and is adding value to your life by working on your psycho and morally by making you draw closer to God by attending church services. The first is not truly faithful to you due to the fact that she is still young and in school and I believe her constant breaking up and coming back is as a result of her being carried away by the wiles of school life (if you know what I mean). My advice is that you stick to the one who is adding value to your life. Most importantly you have to work on yourself as well.

Both are almost of same age. Thanks for the advice

ahsekeena:
Neither of them is right for u.







Sit down and re evaluate urself,u need to know what u want in a woman and what u do not want.



U think marriage is like choosing between two pairs of shoes?

Good advice as I am thinking of relocating for a time being and see a psychologist for self re evaluation

baadejoko:


Good advice as I am thinking of relocating for a time being and see a psychologist for self re evaluation

Good for u.


And what do u need a psychologist for

skyfullofstars:
If I were you, I would wait a little longer before getting married. It's not simply a financial matter, you're saying you're comfortable now and that's why you want to do it. Problem is, your mind should also be comfortable! You should get married by the time you decide to stop clubbing, and are ready to commit yourself completely to marriage. Marriage is sacred and it should be with the person you love. If you still don't know who to marry, then you should wait, since you should feel the sparks for your future wife. You don't have to pick someone, when the person comes slong, you will know from the bottom of your heart.

Please don't take a hurried decision, it's clear your mind is not there, wait.

Thanks the clubbing aspect of mine reduced drastically due to my job and that is for the trollers who may want to troll. Please how do I know and feel the 'SPARK' in case I saw one. (I am serious ooo)

ahsekeena:



Good for u.


And what do u need a psychologist for

For self evaluation abi you have an alternative

Johnnoah1st:
@OP, i will advice u to stick to d nurse cus its seems she is the only one serious here.

Yes she is serious but I have not seen the woman in her apart from her revving up my psyche, she has not show the real woman action like her doing cooking or cleaning whenever she visits always in a rush to go back to work or 'she can't do it cos we never marry'-ind of talk

andromida:
Which of them do you truly like?

I am 'trying' to like the nurse cos my nature was wire not to like or miss people

baadejoko:


I am 'trying' to like the nurse cos my nature was wire not to like or miss people

Keep an open mind. I cant believe any one was wired not to like people. You might like to look into your self why you find it hard to open up to women.

If you really want to settle down as you said, I advice you look for a way to make up with myths nurse as I can see she is the best one for you. The first one broke up with you and is now coming back because she did not get another guy like you. Big she did I am sure she will not think of coming back.