I dint know how to start this.I got a call this morning from a very good friend of mine to advise her.We were in school together,were still friends and added her husband to us.I have a lot of things with the husband,i can even say we two became closer than i am with the wife.I am saying to serve as an intro so that you will understand the shook i have for this wonderful couple and what i heard this morning.
She called me to get some advise from,knowing that it come natural to me to fix those kinda personal issues for people.
To cut it very short,this lovely friend[ a lawyer] whose husband[a business man] appears to be madly in love with, said her husband went ahead and married another wife,rented an apartment for her.And she is heavily pregnant.

She said a friend of her call her and asked if her husband is at home,she answered that her husband travelled to Abuja.

Being someone who has so much trust on her husband, she can not argue when her hubby says he is going Abuja ANY WHERE TOO FREQUENTLY.Knowing that her hubby is a clearing agent too.

Now, this people has three kids together,two boys and one girls.The wife doesn't worry him about anything.

I was forced to ask her what she thought of their sex life and she said GREAT.
She may be reading this,though i had advised here and still promised to see her hubby this evening.But can you say something to this beautiful and wonderful lady.Her life seems shattered but ,like i toldher,SHE NEEDS TO BE CALM AND NOT TAKE RASH DECISION.Your frank opinion will go a long way in helping this lady.Will text her right away to log in from her office

How can the guy marry another woman when he is still married?

I'm not going to jump to conclusions now, so i'd like to know if it has been confirmed that her husband has married a Second wife. Because accusing him without any proof will probably lead to nothing but a heated argument. So, is she sure ??

Is it possible to legally marry another woman in Nigeria?

Was this just a ceremony?

sistawoman:

Is it possible to legally marry another woman in Nigeria?

Was this just a ceremony?

lol, In Nigeria, anything is possible. I've seen men with 2 to 4 wives or even more. Sad but true.

Nothing is sacred in that country anymore

Badriyyah:

lol, In Nigeria, anything is possible. I've seen men with 2 to 4 wives or even more. Sad but true.

obviously youre not referring to legally contracted marriages.

Nigeria has laws. The fact that many people are ignorant of them doesn't mean that some people dont insist on them

Poster I have some questions: 1. Have you or the wife confirm this allegation? 2. What kind of marriage do they have? Customary, legal etc Although Since your friend is a lawyer she'd know what remedies are available to her under the law but you guys need to confirm this story before anyone confront the guy!

JustGood:

obviously youre not referring to legally contracted marriages.

Nigeria has laws. The fact that many people are ignorant of them doesn't mean that some people dont insist on them

Nigeria has laws?? . I didn't know that, Oh please educate me.

Sorry my dear. Although self pity is not what you need right now.
I will advice that you reconsider the foundamentals ie why did you get into marriage in the first place? Is it for companionship, love or support. what? with this new development is the foundamental reason threatened if yes then perhaps you may call off the union if you can get satisfaction else where.
However, let me advice that in line with Williams Shakespare, "we all in life are on a stage playing out a script that was not written by us and we have little or know control over what is written rather we can decide to play out the scipt well with pleasure or badly with pains". In the midst of this maximum betrayal you can still play out your script with love and I assure you, that is the only sure way to win with pleasure.
Like they say throw away the dirty water and take back your cloth.
Come to look at it some married women regardless of colours do cheat on their hubby to the extent of getting pregnant and planting the Child on the hubby it is only when one goes for DNA that you get to know who is who. I am not saying that this is good moral. No way. all I am saying is that there is moral decay and high level recklessness in marriage institution today but what you dont know and what you chosse to ignore will not kill you. Take heart and move on with your script playing,

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Are you sure this woman isn't the blind type who is always ready to deny even the most evident bitterness?

She has not even asked her husband yet. How does she know it is even true? If she has not asked him and she is willing to believe it is true it is because deep down she knew all along that he was up to something.

norin to say for now. . .brb.

I believe the Nigerian legal system recognized customary traditional marriages.

her husband went ahead and married another wife,rented an apartment for her.And she is heavily pregnant.

ha too late. Shhh get a divorce or be the best Iyale you can be

Just the whole truth.