It is said that you cannot ever truly know a person, hence it is almost impossible to expect that you should know every little thing about your partner. But is it right to knowingly keep secrets from the person you claim to love?

A 32-year-old banker says;

” I do not think I have any secrets from my husband neither does he keep things from me. I think sharing everything with the person you are with would make your relationship even stronger and last longer.”

On the flip side, 28-year-old Paul* expresses:

“There are some things which people might want to keep from their partners. I think it depends on how big of a secret it is.”

One thing we can say from the couple of responses above is that the issue of keeping secrets depend on the kind of secrets being kept. It is safe to say that if you the thing you are hiding could one day affect your partner, then it is only fair that you bring it to the open as early as you can.

We should also consider the fact that secrets have a way of always coming out, so if you try hard to keep important things about your life hidden and your partner ends up finding out from another source someday, the feeling of betrayal could easily ruin your relationship.

Mr John Peterson*, a 65-year-old man who has been married for almost 40 years shares some of his wisdom on this issue;

“A couple who believe in the strength of their love should not find it difficult to reveal all to each other. People only keep things hidden because they are afraid of how their partner will see them or whether their love can withstand certain things. But if you truly love and trust your partner, you would have no reason to keep secrets. You will feel safe with them and trust that they would take you as you are.”

Whatever the case, whether or not to keep things from people you love is ultimately a personal decision. But remember, while there is a risk that telling all might hurt your relationship, having someone still hold you close even after sharing all things with them would only increase the bond you share. The choice is yours.


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Depends on the secret. ?..
I aint telling nobody mine...

I personally believe nothing should be kept from your partner , not for any reason. It builds trust and reliability.

Some secret are meant to be secret. I won't tell mine.

XavierBlue

elantraceey:
I personally believe nothing should be kept from your partner , not for any reason. It builds trust and reliability.

So why then do you hide everything from me, double standards perhaps?

elantraceey:
I personally believe nothing should be kept from your partner , not for any reason. It builds trust and reliability.

like seriously? Your partner should know all your secret?


XavierBlue

jaybee3:

So why then do you hide everything from me, double standards perhaps?

Na , there's a difference between jaybee and my partner .

elantraceey:


Na , there's a difference between jaybee and my partner .

Jaybee/partner is your interchangeable choice of word that you've been using for days

Quit the shakara

XavierBlue:
like seriously? Your partner should know all your secret?


XavierBlue

Lol , yea, I'm not claiming to be a saint but there's nothing I've done or do I can't really tell someone . I've learnt to think of future consequences before doing anything I want to do and I have someone guiding my part so the idea of secrets doesn't really apply to me.

jaybee3:


Jaybee/partner is your interchangeable choice of word that you've been using for days

Quit the shakara

lol , you're sure you're quoting the right person?

elantraceey:



lol , you're sure you're quoting the right person?

I'm as alert as Fvck

Na you na, my sweetie pie

elantraceey:



Lol , yea, I'm not claiming to be a saint but there's nothing I've done or do I can't really tell someone . I've learnt to think of future consequences before doing anything I want to do and I have someone guiding my part so the idea of secrets doesn't really apply to me.

different strokes for different folks though.
There are some secret that shouldnt be let out.
If am married, then i will reconsider that but if it my gf, to hell with secret

XavierBlue

Yes and No

jaybee3:

I'm as alert as Fvck
Na you na, my sweetie pie

So what haven't I told you?

XavierBlue:
different strokes for different folks though.
There are some secret that shouldnt be let out.
If am married, then i will reconsider that but if it my gf, to hell with secret

XavierBlue

I was actually referring to marriage .

elantraceey:



So what haven't I told you?

Why you are hell bent on suffocating those twins

Secret is a must...........

So many dark adventures in my past

jaybee3:

Why you are hell bent on suffocating those twins

I thought as much. Their owner hasn't come around yet.


No more questions of this sort.

elantraceey:



I thought as much. Their owner hasn't come around yet.



No more questions of this sort.

heheheheh

Yes,I keep secrets.


We all have them.

Depends. Now I'm of the mentality that if it has nothing to do with the relationship, then it's none of their business. Because some people will use what you tell them against you in future arguments. Example, maybe you tell your man about something that happened in a past relationship, an altercation you had with a family member or whatever. So one day you & him have a fight & he brings up something that you have told him, like- no wonder why so & so did that to you, you're such a c*nt! True story

I've done it myself when I've been angry at someone I was dating. He told me that an ex of his hired some goons to beat him up. They broke his arm. So anyway, he did something to upset ME this time & I told him that I don't blame his ex for hiring thugs to f*ck him up, because I thought he was a horrible piece of sh*t that deserved every punch he got. Sometimes it's hard not to connect things that happened to someone in the past with the present, especially if there seems to be a pattern.

Tell your secrets/past at you own peril.