Pastor Bisi Adewale



The choice of a life partner may determine the success of a marriage. It must be made with utmost care because it is a life-time choice

Counsel and conviction are necessary.
 Inform your pastor after you might have prayed through.
 The pastor could call you together or allow the brother to go ahead with the proposal.
 Only brothers should propose (Prov. 18:22).
 When proposing, the brother should be direct, polite, resolute but simple.
 No use of proverb, adage and so on during proposal.
 Avoid saying ‘thus saith the Lord’.
 Never intimidate or terrify the sister.
 Do not share your vision, dreams, prophecy and so on with her.
 Do not rush her into giving her consent; give her enough time to confirm.
 Avoid constant visits after proposal and do not give the sister any gifts. Let her take an independent decision.
 Leave room for refusal but do not give up if you are sure.
 Never make a lady who rejects your proposal an enemy.
 Never throw away a proposal without finding from the heavenly father. Don’t be snobbish.
 Do not fail to pray seriously about it.
 Do not bother to pray about proposal from an unbeliever, divorcee and married men. It is not the will of God (Joshua 23:11-13, Malachi 2:14-16).
 Go for counsel.
 Check love and character.
 Do not target financial gain.
 Do not delay giving the brother an answer as soon as you have it

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