In discussion few days ago with my niece, I asked her what type of man she was looking for in a relationship and she said a “Stable man”, but in her description I realized she mixes up a ‘Stable man’ with a ‘wealthy man’.

Who Is A Stable Man?

Stability means the ability to remain in one state or remain on course no matter the changes in the environment. When used in a relationship to describe a person it means for instance a person who is not likely to change or affected adversely by either situations or with time. When it applies to men, it’s typical of men who have regular jobs or businesses that grow over time, most likely to either remain employed or generate income till retirement. These are also men who have lived in a certain location for quite a while without relocating around every now and then. Women prefer stable men because they show traits of being reliable and some who will be there when he is needed. Even though they may have a very modest income say N100k or less a month, the family can plan their lifestyle around that income and project with near-accuracy, where they may be 10years from today.

Who is A Wealthy Man?

Wealth is determined by a person’s Net worth (Assets – Liabilities) or what a person owns minus what he owes. Wealth is the most elusive quality to base a relationship on because it goes up and down. Moreover, most people we see as wealthy have negative Net worth. They may have flashy cars, dress like celebrities, and live in mansion, however, majority of them are swimming in bank loans and riding on connections. A little shakeup in their life and situation see them crashing like balloon filled with water. I guess you know many celebrities who lived flamboyantly in the past, however either died poor or are living in poverty today. Except if the wealth is table (from a concerted investment plan that guarantees lifetime continuity) otherwise it’s called a ‘Moving Target’ or building on a ‘Quick Sand’ . It caves in very easily under pressure.

Choosing Between both With Examples

A young man who is an Assistant Lecturer today in a university, driving a fairly used car, and lives in a three bedroom apartment with a prospect of becoming a Professor one day should be much more stable and attractive for a long-term relationship than a young man who drives a Benz 550 S-series, has a lavishly furnished office, lives at Lekiki area of Lagos but whose income depends on either 419 or political connections. Such people crash fast when they lose their connections and eventually develop unhealthy addictions and lifestyles to validate themselves. They also die early due to excessive risks, lifestyle diseases, and more likely to have unstable relationships, troubled old-age because they are ‘moving targets’

I hope this helps as you make life-changing decisions through prayers and God's will

Hmmm... Pondering.....

Most of these bishes still prefer a rish guy.

I choose a stable man that is wealthy.

Stable has always been my style.
You can't have a meaningful relationship or make future plans if you're not sure the other person is capable of sticking it out.

I like them stable









And wealthy!

ladyF:
I choose a stable man that is wealthy.

That makes two of we hehe

*dusts shoulders* who no like better thing?

Stable guy coz we can grow together in our careers and other things....rich dude just throw money in ur face anyhow and they are mostly the paranoid type thinking yua only dere for d doe

;DStable and blessed man all the way. Cause am also a blessing so make blessing jam blessing. For Double portion.

Ladies will be with the "stable guy" only because the wealthy guy is out of reach

Stable and comfortable I like

'Stable man please!

hurpeyeahme:
Stable and comfortable I like

Hmmm! I am not sure there's anything as a comfortable man or comfortable marriage. A comfortable man wouldn't need a woman in the first place because he has all his comfort. He married because he's lacking something....people don't marry for comfort, dear.

most 9ja girls will go for the wealthy guy,even the female monikers that have commented thus far, will go for the wealthy guy.

Nna mehn, Give me wealthy man, after 1 yr of sucking him dry, I will handle the stability.

EggovinMma:
'Stable man please!

haba! you for tell me since all these while, I would have turned in my application a long time ago . Abeg, the vacancy still dey?