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Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by zizman: 12:03am On Jul 29, 2015 |
How do men feel when they know the woman they are
marrying has a dirty past?
Is it ok for a lady to tell her man graphic details of her
past? Should a man try to know?
Twice I have had had women tell me their pasts (out of
love I guess) and it wasn't
easy living with it. Is it just me or do men generally feel
same? |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Nobody: 12:05am On Jul 29, 2015 |
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Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Nobody: 12:38am On Jul 29, 2015 |
for me I'd say if your past has so much graphic details then it should stay in the past,no need bringing up ugly events...most times people want to know these things,but they really cannot handle what they end up finding out. so if it isn't extremely necessary,forget your past and live in the present! 2 Likes |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by donkarly(m): 12:43am On Jul 29, 2015 |
wife- yes,girlfriend- no.. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by jamex93(m): 12:45am On Jul 29, 2015 |
if u wish to know, u r free 1 Like |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Captainswag225(m): 12:47am On Jul 29, 2015 |
YES so he can decide whether to accept her or not. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Nobody: 12:51am On Jul 29, 2015 |
I'm not interested in her past. I'm only interested in her present and future aspirations 1 Like |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Captainswag225(m): 12:53am On Jul 29, 2015 |
Jacksparrow0712:not knowing her past can come back to affect ur marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Nobody: 12:55am On Jul 29, 2015 |
Since I live in present, I'm really not bothered bout her past tbh. If her past comes hunting, then she'll have to pay for it Captainswag225: |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Captainswag225(m): 12:56am On Jul 29, 2015 |
Jacksparrow0712:lol, okay ur majesty. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Nobody: 1:21am On Jul 29, 2015 |
I think if you can't handle the truth of her past you shouldn't bother to ask. Live in the present. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Gurgle(f): 1:44am On Jul 29, 2015 |
It depends whether that past could affect their future It would be unfair on him if you withhold info from him that you know will definitely affect him later on Its difficult but if youre getting married you have to speak up BUT you have to use your discretion. Some guys may use the info against you later on. So be careful with details and just know the kind of fellow he is Don't need to go and blurt everything out with no filter; you are still a human being and you don't need to debase yourself for any reason, not even marriage And you don't need to say anything unless the relationship is serious. Otherwise how many people will you end up telling? Also you should seek spiritual counsel before all of that to make sure you handle it logically, without getting carried away and the guy shouldn't use it to manipulate you. Maybe seek spiritual counsel afterwards if the info is disturbing him I would mention something about guys being honest about their pasts too but I know nobody cares so let me go and watch tv 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by skyfullofstars(f): 2:29am On Jul 29, 2015 |
Mmm well, all I can say is that if I'm dating a man, I want to know everything about him, including his past. As a matter of fact I'm angry at my hubby because he has lied to me by telling me a wrong number of women he's dated in the past. I think it is important to know who the person has been in the past, as much as who he/she is in the present. Just my opinion |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Gurgle(f): 3:06am On Jul 29, 2015 |
zizman: Were you grateful for their honesty or did you wish they hadn't told you? |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Nobody: 4:28am On Jul 29, 2015 |
knowing her past is important.at least not too graphic details .girls with too graphic past hardly find man stay by their side long |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by whizqueen(f): 8:01am On Jul 29, 2015 |
If he is gonna love me then he should love me just the way I am regardless of what my past entails. ![]() ![]() On a lighter note, it depends on what happened in the past, how bad was it? |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by sebali: 8:08am On Jul 29, 2015 |
Gurgle: Mam u re so on point. If d past wud affect d future I shud be in d kn e. g U lost ur womb via an abortion, u murdered someone and u re on d run or ur ex is a friend i kn and am still friends with etc otherwise i dnt care hw many men u've slept with or hw many successful abortion u ve done... Wat matters most is d present and not d past. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by babyfaceafrica: 8:08am On Jul 29, 2015 |
I will like to know as much as I can..so I will be prepared for anything in the future,it is better she tells me naw..so we can settle it than when I hear it from third party,cos then even my late mum will not be able to settle the fight!!...I cherish honesty!!!! |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by hrhobi1(m): 8:17am On Jul 29, 2015 |
That's why I settled down with a virgin. No reason to think of her past because there's actually nothing to know about her past. I became her past and present and future. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Nobody: 8:31am On Jul 29, 2015 |
I think it's impossible not to share some things from your past with someone you're in a relationship with. However, there are things that I think one should take to the grave if they have nothing to do with the relationship or won't interfere with the relationship long term. How do you get off telling someone about your abortions & things of that nature? That's oversharing. It's none of their damn business what you did before them, UNLESS, it's something that might pop up in the future & jeopardise the relationship if you kept mum. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Johnnoah1st: 9:24am On Jul 29, 2015 |
zizman:if i luv her deeply i can easily waid it off any bad past, even if she was fu*k in my presence, but someone i dont like so much, or someone i married to only because of some reason. MEHN! dats a great escuse 4 me to log her out |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by xkris11(m): 9:35am On Jul 29, 2015 |
The past should remain the past.No man can deal with a ladies past,it will only hurt the man s feeling.if he truly loves her,he won't bother about her past. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by scribble: 9:45am On Jul 29, 2015 |
How Nigerian women think 101 http://www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2015/07/full-disclosure-in-relationships-yay-or.html?m=1
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Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by tosyne2much(m): 10:04am On Jul 29, 2015 |
It's RISKY to tell your man about your past, it's even RISKIER withholding your past from him To each his own opinion ![]() |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Gurgle(f): 10:36am On Jul 29, 2015 |
sebali: Yeah I think most of the time its not the actual incident that annoys people its just that they didn't tell the guy in time. Although it will be very difficult |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by no1madman(m): 10:52am On Jul 29, 2015 |
yes!EVERY FACKIN DETAILS. . . |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Mznaett: 12:06pm On Jul 29, 2015 |
D man wan die young ni?? ![]() |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by ksbusari(m): 12:22pm On Jul 29, 2015 |
Good and bad. Good in d sense dat quick decisions to stay or leave r made and bad in d sense if d Man or d woman eventually finds out. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by jackpot(f): 1:33pm On Jul 29, 2015 |
Me, I don't normally ask. But I have got no dirty past myself and I don't expect my partner to have. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by sebali: 3:37pm On Jul 29, 2015 |
Gurgle: Lik my boss wud say.... "Some things are better left unsaid" |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Gurgle(f): 3:57pm On Jul 29, 2015 |
sebali: But the problem is what if somebody else says it for you 1 Like |
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