IamLEGEND1:


then MOVE ON

#NoTime

We have both done that over the years but we always seem to comeback. I like her and also won't mind a relationship. She wants the same but wants to take her time

IamLEGEND1:
make your move after taking her back home from a nice dinner which YOU should pay for.

if she slaps you,.....

OH WELL, try again another time.

As d matter lie ontop mattress now, im head no dey for pillow. Wetin i mean be say, for dis matter, na pidgin abi na broken i go take talk am.

1st be say d gal don too enta ur head; Dat one na normal. Na one of those things. For u to start claiming say u no like am much more, my man, e go dey like joke nau. Even u sef, go dey call urself mumu 4 ur mind. No go ridicule urself o.

Call am 4 round table, make una two reason 2geda again. At d end of d day, if una no arrive @ a reasonable conclusion, make una begin un-like unaself shaparly.

Understanding matters a lot here. Goodluck bro

Tallesty1:
It is ok like that. She needs to know how much you like her and what she means to but don't give her the impression that life is impossible without her. If she gives you reason to believe you bug her then she probably isn't interested in the relationship or maybe she isn't that into you yet. Keep working on it wisely This conclusion of mine may seem premature but that's what I can draw from this very line that I am quoting; thing is, she's got another guy back home and she's not really sure of you so she's taking her time to know who's better to avoid touching stories You can't ignore her because you love but you can learn to pretend.

Don't be available all the time and learn to over-look her little mistakes.

Good luck

OK let me be very clear about the it seems i am bugging her bit. We actually talk often and she calls me to let me know how her day is going. When i got to naija she came to see me the next day. We went out, made out e.t.c. She always picks my calls

The persistent bit comes from the relationship thing. She says she wants one and she likes me but does not want to make mistakes seeing that I have hurt her a lot before and its LDR, so we should see how it goes. But i can get that. Every babe i have been with are never this logical. Once they like you they always seem to take chances. She is very cautious. It would be surprising if she has a guy cos we have spent enough time talking. She is coming to see me tomorrow till sunday and she is considering coming to the states in a couple of months.

Not trying to change your mind just want you to get the entire picture.

discoprophet:
As d matter lie ontop mattress now, im head no dey for pillow. Wetin i mean be say, for dis matter, na pidgin abi na broken i go take talk am.

1st be say d gal don too enta ur head; Dat one na normal. Na one of those things. For u to start claiming say u no like am much more, my man, e go dey like joke nau. Even u sef, go dey call urself mumu 4 ur mind. No go ridicule urself o.

Call am 4 round table, make una two reason 2geda again. At d end of d day, if una no arrive @ a reasonable conclusion, make una begin un-like unaself shaparly.

Understanding matters a lot here. Goodluck bro

For u to start claiming say u no like am much more?? did not say that nau. Also you seem to think that it is allowed for me to be this crazy about the babe. Na wetin dey make me lose control be that nau. She seems to have it better under control

Gurgle:

josh2015:


We have both done that over the years but we always seem to comeback. I like her and also won't mind a relationship. She wants the same but wants to take her time

the in the mean time
you find urself a nice,sexy lady
to be
uuuuuuuhhhhmmm

eeeeeeeerrrhhhh


"servicing" you while you wait for her to come back to her senses.

josh2015:


For u to start claiming say u no like am much more?? did not say that nau. Also you seem to think that it is allowed for me to be this crazy about the babe. Na wetin dey make me lose control be that nau. She seems to have it better under control

U dont seem to undastand me sha. D tin be say u started giving her 'top hand' ryt from d onset. Bugging her wit calls all d tym, and oda stuffs. In dis 21st century? Infact, dis matter don dey turn my head. Me wey dey talk sef, my single status na hardcore(girls don smile, lol). Everybody needs help

discoprophet:


U dont seem to undastand me sha. D tin be say u started giving her 'top hand' ryt from d onset. Bugging her wit calls all d tym, and oda stuffs. In dis 21st century? Infact, dis matter don dey turn my head. Me wey dey talk sef, my single status na hardcore(girls don smile, lol). Everybody needs help

Abeg u fi explain your point well lol. I dey lost

You want to be official but LDRs aint your thing. You guys are just playing each other. Well... good luck and do update us after the visit.

Adaeze003:
You want to be official but LDRs aint your thing. You guys are just playing each other. Well... good luck and do update us after the visit.

Playing each other? why do u say that?

josh2015:


I only put the information there to let you all know it is a LDR not for anything else. I am in Naij at the moment leaving in 3 weeks. Time......

No one cares whether you live in London or a Iran

as far as nairaland is concerned, I myself could be living in Paris

faceless forum

Abbey2sam:




No one cares whether you live in London or a Iran

as far as nairaland is concerned, I myself could be living in Paris

faceless forum

Thanks for the irrelevant post. Now go find something better to do instead of acting like an ass

josh2015:


Thanks for the irrelevant post. Now go find something better to do instead of acting like an ass

truth us bitter

Abbey2sam:



truth us bitter

LOL bitter . I dont care about where i stay just put in there for people because it is relevant to the post. U coming on here to state the obvious and not make any sensible contribution makes you look silly. Just my opinion but it is a free world

josh2015:


LOL bitter . I dont care about where i stay just put in there for people because it is relevant to the post. U coming on here to state the obvious and not make any sensible contribution makes you look silly. Just my opinion but it is a free world

This one you're trying so hard to defend your US citizenship, it makes you look like a liar and a desperado


don't quote me again, unless you want thunder to scatter your useless and empty brainless head

Abbey2sam:


This one you're trying so hard to defend your US citizenship, it makes you look like a liar and a desperado


don't quote me again, unless you want thunder to scatter your useless and empty brainless head

LOL u look like the desperate guy who is just jealous and sad. This is my thread u can Bleep off u can't handle it. Ps I live in the US does not mean i have a citizenship. Just educating you as well

pTomz:
Nto Ikpa isong ibibio na

Mkpo atieh dieh ye afo?

Lol.. I've been in ur shoes OP and trust me when I say its so messed up to have someone not fully reciprocate ur feelings.

Here's my tot on ur issue.

Your not scared to let her know how u feel about her as in u fancy no other girl but her. Alll u do is think about her which in turn gives her full control.

I can probably tell u three ways its going to go

1.its either she's scared and is still trying to make up her mind. In whic case give her time.

2.she's jst a tease and has already made up her mind and is jst string u along.

3. She loves the attention ur giving her and might not have any intention in dating you. A girl ones told me that girls like attention so much.

So my brother..

mrkay101:
Lol.. I've been in ur shoes OP and trust me when I say its so messed up to have someone not fully reciprocate ur feelings.

Here's my tot on ur issue.

Your not scared to let her know how u feel about her as in u fancy no other girl but her. Alll u do is think about her which in turn gives her full control.

I can probably tell u three ways its going to go

1.its either she's scared and is still trying to make up her mind. In whic case give her time.

2.she's jst a tease and has already made up her mind and is jst string u along.

3. She loves the attention ur giving her and might not have any intention in dating you. A girl ones told me that girls like attention so much.

So my brother..

How can i tell which one is it though. I have thought of all those options myself.... The thing though is that i cannot seem to know which one it is myself. Cos i have made so many mistakes with her which should genuinely make her hesitate but i don't know sha. What will be your advice though? Here are a reasons for taking her time

(i) I know her family (sister and cousin) (ii) I came on too strong when she came over to the states and she thinks i am in it for just sex (iii) I have insulted her and hurt her feelings a lot (iv) We fight a lot and i go months without talking. When she was in the states before we got into serious fights all the indicators were that she was set. Also she dropped that she had a ONS with a random guy during nysc when we weren't talking. I find this ridiculous cos she says i came on too strong.

Advice needed on how to turn it on her and also what u think on the post

The painful part of this whole scenario is that one particular guy would be brushing this same thing you're hustling for carelessly with no decorum for the puccy.

If a woman plays hard to get, forget about her and watch her submit herself to you on a platter of gold when you least expected her to .

Truckpusher:
The painful part of this whole scenario is that one particular guy would be brushing this same thing you're hustling for carelessly with no decorum for the puccy.

If a woman plays hard to get, forget about her and watch her submit herself to you on a platter of gold when you least expected her to .

Hello bro, hope you are good? Did you get my text messages?

Truckpusher:
The painful part of this whole scenario is that one particular guy would be brushing this same thing you're hustling for carelessly with no decorum for the puccy.

If a woman plays hard to get, forget about her and watch her submit herself to you on a platter of gold when you least expected her to .

Bro!!

barcanista:

Hello bro, hope you are good? Did you get my text messages?

Yeah bro, will soon by 9pm.

dearpreye:


Bro!!

What have I done?

Truckpusher:
What have I done?

Your words too strong

dearpreye:


Your words too strong

But that's the truth.

Truckpusher:
The painful part of this whole scenario is that one particular guy would be brushing this same thing you're hustling for carelessly with no decorum for the puccy.

If a woman plays hard to get, forget about her and watch her submit herself to you on a platter of gold when you least expected her to .

I am hoping not but i know thats a possibility and it kills me

josh2015:


I am hoping not but i know thats a possibility and it kills me

That's what happens but sometimes we prefer to shy away from the truth to protect our unimportant ego and pride.


When a woman is crazy about you - You don't need a soothsayer to reveal it to you.

First mistake is making a woman to believe and understand that you love her to a fault .
Always learn how to mask your feeling with a water tight plan but always say it to her that you love her but she shouldn't take you for granted.

Women listens to a man with the will power to trash his most beautiful desire for nothing.

Truckpusher:
That's what happens but sometimes we prefer to shy away from the truth to protect our unimportant ego and pride.


When a woman is crazy about you - You don't need a soothsayer to reveal it to you.

First mistake is making a woman to believe and understand that you love her to a fault .
Always learn how to mask your feeling with a water tight plan but always say it to her that you love her but she shouldn't take you for granted.

Women listens to a man with the will power to trash his most beautiful desire for nothing.

So i have being told. Sent you an email. will be good to talk

josh2015:


So i have being told. Sent you an email. will be good to talk

I already replied you bro .

josh2015:


How can i tell which one is it though. I have thought of all those options myself.... The thing though is that i cannot seem to know which one it is myself. Cos i have made so many mistakes with her which should genuinely make her hesitate but i don't know sha. What will be your advice though? Here are a reasons for taking her time

(i) I know her family (sister and cousin) (ii) I came on too strong when she came over to the states and she thinks i am in it for just sex (iii) I have insulted her and hurt her feelings a lot (iv) We fight a lot and i go months without talking. When she was in the states before we got into serious fights all the indicators were that she was set. Also she dropped that she had a ONS with a random guy during nysc when we weren't talking. I find this ridiculous cos she says i came on too strong.

Advice needed on how to turn it on her and also what u think on the post

Bro this na strong thing. My advice would be complete communication. Many relationships fail cos of lack of communication. tell her your fears, let her know that your trully sorry for hurting her in the past and u've come to realize how precious she is to you.

Make her understand that ur serious this time and that you can't jst stop thinking about her. You just have to be completely vulnerable.. Let her know how u truly feel.

Then wait for her reply she might hesitate or might not reply immediately. she's a girl they like shakara. Depending on how she replies you'll get to know how she feels towards you. If possible give her a time period you would want her to make up her mind.
Then the rest is up to u, u can limit the way u chat her up, limit ur calls if probably get urself busy with something else or someone. If she really wants something with you she would worried that u don't talk as usual. But if she doesn't then u know where u stand and try and move on bro.