1. Stop thinking that your way is the “right”
way. If he does something differently, it does
not mean that it’s wrong. When a wife
insists on having her own way, she is in
essence saying, “I have to be in control.”


2. Don’t put others before your husband. God
designed companionship in marriage so that a
husband and wife can meet one another’s
need for a close, intimate, human
relationship. He even said in Genesis 2:18, “It
is not good that the man should be alone.”
So what happens when you put your mother,
a friend, or even a child before your spouse?
Actually, you take a step (often unintentional)
toward isolation in your marriage. If you
choose, for example, to spend an afternoon
shopping with your mom when your husband
asked you to watch a football game with
him, you may leave hubby feeling that he has
second place in your heart.


3. Don’t expect your husband to be your
girlfriend. Most men and women not only
look different physically, but also have unique
ways of processing life. One example of this
is the need for conversation. I don’t know
about you, but sometimes I’m guilty of
wearing out my husband with countless
conversational details that he doesn’t really
care about. Now if he were a girlfriend, all of
those details would definitely matter!


4. Don’t dishonor your husband. Suggestions
included: Stop all nagging and don’t correct
hubby in front of others. If you finish your
husband’s sentences, you may be
unintentionally communicating, “I don’t really
care about what you have to say.”


5. Stop expecting your husband to fail you as
your dad failed your mom. “I spent many
years waiting for my husband to give up and
walk out on me, like my dad had years
earlier,” said one friend. Her unfounded fears
had robbed her marriage of much joy.


6. Don’t put your husband on the defensive.
For example, if you are driving around a
section of town looking for a restaurant and
he’s obviously lost, does it really help for you
to tell him that he’s been going around the
same place for the fifth time? One wise wife
said that she’s learned to be quiet in
situations like this. Now, before she makes a
comment, she weighs her words—asking
herself: “Are my words needed? Would they
be encouraging?” Proverbs 10:19 says, “When
words are many, transgression is not lacking,
but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.”


7. Never use sex to bargain with your
husband. Some women intentionally or
unintentionally say to their husbands, “When I
get what I want, you get sex.” However, 1
Corinthians 7:4-5 reminds husbands and wives
that their bodies are not their own. “Do not
deprive one another …”


8. Stop reminding your husband about things
over and over. Don’t make him feel guilty or
nitpick him about small stuff. One friend said
that when we constantly remind our
husbands about diet, weight, medication,
picking up the dry cleaning, etc., we are
actually acting more like his mother than his
wife.


9. Don’t make your husband earn your
respect. Many women think, I’ll respect him
when he earns it. But there’s a reason that
Ephesians 5:33 says, “Let the wife see that
she respects her husband.” As one friend
said: “If women could learn to understand
that respect is a man's native tongue, that it
absolutely heals his heart and ministers to
him like nothing else, it would make the
biggest difference in the world.”


10. Stop giving your husband your long term
to-do list. A colleague warns against
overwhelming your husband with too much
information. You may unintentionally cause
him to feel like a failure, thinking that your
long list means you are discontent. Or, he
may incorrectly assume that you want him to
do something immediately.


11. Don’t act like your spouse is a mind
reader. Instead, be specific about your
requests. One busy mom said that she used
to feel overwhelmed with household chores,
wishing her spouse would help her. She now
realizes that the only way he knows her
needs is when she tells him. “Most often,”
she says, “when I simply say, ‘Honey, will you
tuck the kids in tonight while I get the
kitchen cleaned up,’ he is glad to help.”
She’s discovered that a few words are all it
takes “to change a resentment-filled,
stressed-out night into a team-effort bonding
time.”


12. Stop putting housework ahead of hubby.
One young mom told her husband that she
didn't want to make love one night because
she had just changed the sheets and she
wanted them to stay clean. What do you
think that response said to her husband?
Another woman, who puts her husband ahead
of the housework, said: “Do not leave the
unfolded laundry on your marriage bed.”


13. Put an end to taking the lead because
you think he won't take it. “The first many
years of our marriage,” one wife said, “I
would see what needed to be done and get
frustrated that my husband would not take
charge and get it done.” She went on to say
that she’s changed by learning to wait on her
husband’s leadership. “I really believe,” she
says, “that our men don't lead because we
women are too quick to jump in and take
care of it all.”
Ephesians 5:23 says, “For the husband is the
head of the wife even as Christ is the head
of the church, his body … .”


14. Do not expect your husband to be Prince
Charming. After all, the perfect husband only
exists in fairy tales and your marriage exists
in real life. One young wife said that instead
of focusing on her husband’s shortcomings,
she’s learned to recognize the wonderful
things about him. What’s been the result?
He’s been encouraged to do even more to be
the man of her dreams.


15. Never look first to a book, a plan, or a
person to fix a problem in your marriage.
Instead go to God’s Word and believe and
act on the things that He says. “He will lead
me to any resources I need,” one woman
said. “God has already given us everything
we need for life and godliness (2 Peter 1:3)
but we have to live according to the
promises and expect Him to show up for us.”
A question
The Bible paraphrase The Message , says in 1
Corinthians 13, “Love never gives up … isn’t
always ‘me first,’ … doesn’t keep score of the
sins of others … trusts God always, always
looks for the best.

What do your words and actions say to your
sweetheart about your love? Do you need to
stop doing something in your marriage?

Waiting for a counter trade. Wey mrs Chima

Life is too short to research that epistle

starlingslimnet:
Life is too short to research that epistle

like seriously...

miriamgroove:

like seriously...

Yep....meant read....not research.....you mind spacing your work?

Tell em

meanwhile.....
i dey miss my wife gurgle.
she cheated on me
but my luv still dey strong like igbo girl's shoulder-pad.

Tell them ooo

donholy28:
Ur post could have made sense and also be enticing if only it was properly organized

THIS IS MY FIRST DAY POSTING ON NAIRA LAND...MAYBE I CAN LEARN HOW TO POST BETTER FRM U..

when will someone write '15 things husbands should stop doing' nawa for you people sha free women for once in your life jeez