Goodevening.... My fellow nairalander.... Please i need advise from you guys...... I hav been sufering from depressiin for up to 10 years..... D reasons for my depression are numerous:i will try to name as much as possible.......well let me mention the ones i can remember:
1)i am confused:
At times,i want to be a soldier, somtins a musician, somtins a doctor, somtin a pilot, at times i jst dont want to do anything except driving and enjpoying myself.
2)i am scared:i am Christian and i believe every Christian has a purpose for his or her life, i domt tink i no mine.... So i am scared to do anytin else cos i feel God wont be happy because it might not be what he wants me to do.
3)i am not in a relationship:every human is a relational being but i am scared of talking to ladies....... Somehow...... Someone close to me has killed my confidence.
4)academically i am not sound:i am below average but somhw i find myself in school(university).
5)i feel inferior:dis all started when i started to schooling in Lagos(was schooling in Ibadan),its so bad that i cant even talk to fellow boy i feel is higher than me.
6)i am a perfectionest:and when i dont get things right,i feel so down and depressed.
This no fake story..... I dont want people playing with my emotion and i dont want any judhemental person to comment amd please if you feel nairaland is nt d best place for me to tell my story please keep your comment to yourself, if you dont have anythimng positive to say.... Thanks in advance to those that is ready to advise me.. Tanxs

Do u know what? God won't be happy wit u if u end up becomin useless in life... So just choose some path and grow in it... U can join d army or police....

Prayer is the key...

Yustash001:
Prayer is the key...

please put me in your prayers

Great1000:
please put me in your prayers

I will advice and pray for you and God will speak then, settle your case. Call me on: 07034551515. Emmydeep

Obviously you can't be everything at once so pick one of the things you'd like to be and work with that for now. Your purpose can be anything you decide to be as time goes on if you have any special purpose it will unfold so don't be scared to do what you like and enjoy somehow that is usually your purpose anyway.

God wants you to be Joyful and happy. Your being depressed does not serve him in anyway.

It's ok to be shy talking to ladies just keep talking to them anyway lol you are not alone in this many people are in this boat the ladies are shy too and shy guys can be cute lol if a chic rejects you in the process remember rejection is a part of life don't let it sink you.

Sorry for your loss of confidence the good news is that it's temporary no one can kill your confidence unless you let them. Confidence is just you being comfortable with yourself, your fears and your perceived shortcomings. Practice liking yourself as you are.

At this level of confusion it's no surprise you are not doing well academically your mind is so woozy and all. You feel bad about your self it's affecting every area of your life you see why you have to practice liking yourself with all your perceived shortcomings.

A change of environment can be hard on anyone not just you. Many of us have insecurities we just live with it so no need to feel inferior to other guys when you get to know them you will see that they too suffer from the human condition. To make friends look for another lonely soul and friend him or her up. Just small talk about anything that comes to your mind.

Ahhh this perfection we all seek lol it's ok not to get things right at first, just keep at it if it's something you truly desire, try out new ways to do it. What is not ok is to let your mistakes sink you.

You talk about others coming to judge you but you already judge yourself so harshly. Don't be so unkind to yourself do something nice and kind for you today and every other
day. You will be fine, I guess your hormones are doing a lot of adjustments as well.

Happy sunday, Happy life.

Lol, op relax. You'll grow out of all these feelings just be patient. I went through each and every one of the feelings u r having now and it was terrible while it lasted bit eventually I got over it.

As per the Christian thing, don't be waiting for a voice from heaven to tell u what to do. Look at something you like, something you have a passion for, something you feel you will enjoy doing, and invest in it. God will now bless u as you make a decision.


If it's still too confusing u can try this method : List all the careers you feel you like and then group them into science and arts. If you get science for instance reduce the group further by classifying into biological sciences or mathematical sciences. Keep specifying like this and eventually you'll have an idea of where your passion lies.

All the best.

Great1000:
Goodevening.... My fellow nairalander.... Please i need advise from you guys...... I hav been sufering from depressiin for up to 10 years..... D reasons for my depression are numerous:i will try to name as much as possible.......well let me mention the ones i can remember:
1)i am confused:
At times,i want to be a soldier, somtins a musician, somtins a doctor, somtin a pilot, at times i jst dont want to do anything except driving and enjpoying myself.

What do you think can you do best?

2)i am scared:i am Christian and i believe every Christian has a purpose for his or her life, i domt tink i no mine.... So i am scared to do anytin else cos i feel God wont be happy because it might not be what he wants me to do.

Your purpose is to LIVE! Live each moment as if it is your last.

3)i am not in a relationship:every human is a relational being but i am scared of talking to ladies....... Somehow...... Someone close to me has killed my confidence.

So one person is capable of making you feel inferior? Since you are a Christian, how can a human being's opinion of you be more important than the knowledge (you as a Christian should have) that God loves you?

4)academically i am not sound:i am below average but somhw i find myself in school(university).

If you are already in university, how comes you still don'T know what you want to become?

5)i feel inferior:dis all started when i started to schooling in Lagos(was schooling in Ibadan),its so bad that i cant even talk to fellow boy i feel is higher than me.

Again from the Christian perspective since you are a Christian, are we not all the same and created in HIS image? How can you be inferior then?

6)i am a perfectionest:and when i dont get things right,i feel so down and depressed.
This no fake story..... I dont want people playing with mote]

You need to develop kindness for yourself.
And you should not be so focused on the outcome of what you do but on the process. If you enjoy the process, the outcome will be great.