SAMBARRY:
I mean all the ones wey dey fight for exclusive right and ownership of phenese Don quench.

In other words she will choose whether to concentrate on her baby or turn cid aka the penis is mine and let her kids turn out like their father and continue where their father stopped.

The choice is hers. Nobody can decide for her

freshvine:


Why is it always a fight of "sexist" on nairaland, can't we maintain some form of objectivity in our opinions?

Today its the husband dealing with his " follow come" bachelor issue tomorrow it might be her turn to display the worst of behavior. Remember the marriage is still at it infant stage.

Pray tell, is the OP an angel in human form that made you go all out demonizing the hubby?

My question on this board to you all is are your husbands angels?

5minsmadness:

His silence is guilt over what you have found, not nonchalance. He doesn't know what to say.

You said u r a nursing mom. Have u been denying him sex of recent? Not that it justifies his action but most ladies tend to ignore thier men when nursing especially when it's thier first child. The man feels angry and neglected but guilty as well since the reason for his neglect is his baby. So such men start to secretly look for affairs outside to meet thier sexuaI needs.

bukatyne:


Nurse a babe for 3mths and come back to tell us How attentive you were to the needs of other people.

5minsmadness:

what's your problem? Why are you always so bitter?

5minsmadness:


You must be new to this section.

They wont stop until she decides to divorce him.
Just watch.

bukatyne:


I am suddenly bitter because I ask you to nurse a babe and tell us your experience?

This must be the moment of your madness today.

I am sure If I came with 'men will be men' fast and pray bullshit, I will be sweet and a good 'Nigerian' wife.

God forbid I am 'sweet' and 'good' by your standards.

Abeg shift.

You said u r a nursing mom. Have u been denying him sex of recent? [size=18pt]Not that it justifies his action[/size] but most ladies tend to ignore thier men when nursing especially when it's thier first child. The man feels angry and neglected [size=20pt]but guilty as well since the reason for his neglect is his baby.[/size] So such men start to secretly look for affairs outside to meet thier sexuaI needs.

Nurse a babe for 3mths and come back to tell us How attentive you were to the needs of other people.

SAMBARRY:
I mean all the ones wey dey fight for exclusive right and ownership of phenese Don quench.

In other words she will choose whether to concentrate on her baby or turn cid aka the penis is mine and let her kids turn out like their father and continue where their father stopped.

The choice is hers. Nobody can decide for her

freshvine:


Why is it always a fight of "sexist" on nairaland, can't we maintain some form of objectivity in our opinions?

Today its the husband dealing with his " follow come" bachelor issue tomorrow it might be her turn to display the worst of behavior. Remember the marriage is still at it infant stage.

Pray tell, is the OP an angel in human form that made you go all out demonizing the hubby?

My question on this board to you all is are your husbands angels?

KanwuliaJara:


OYA oooooh!
Abeg tell this OP to get up and dust herself.
NEWLY-WEDS MAKE ME SICK I SWEAR!
I now understand why our grand-mothers were BANISHED to their fathers' houses as soon as they got pregnant! Fear go let them come out to question other wives in the same compound?

This one dey house dey "SARCH" pocket and read text messages!
If the man ask am for sex 3 times a day with her SEXXXXXY FAT PAD for NYANSH now, she go say she get headache!

Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeew!!!!!

5minsmadness:


You must be new to this section.

They wont stop until she decides to divorce him.
Just watch.

KanwuliaJara:


Why don't women get this?
Every second we see these "golden poohsie queens" on NL CRRRRRYING for EXCLUSIVE RIGHTS! See this OP wey blood nefa dry for her toto with small baby for hand dey pursue man all over the house? Come make nose like "what shall I say into the lord"?

bukatyne:


I am suddenly bitter because I ask you to nurse a babe and tell us your experience?

This must be the moment of your madness today.

I am sure If I came with 'men will be men' fast and pray bullshit, I will be sweet and a good 'Nigerian' wife.

God forbid I am 'sweet' and 'good' by your standards.

Abeg shift.

5minsmadness:

what's your problem? Why are you always so bitter?

SAMBARRY:


Many pheneses are public properties just like any public staircase, chairs etc . If you want to turn such into a private entity then get ready for hypertension and high blood pressure. Shioorrr

5minsmadness:

Why not quote me directly?
I'm not blaming her for it.
I expressly said it's not an excuse.
I even asked if he was the one doing the neglecting

I'm trying to get to the root of the problem and since her husband isn't here it's only her I can address.

MRBrownJ:
if you think you can solve anything with silent treatment then no wonder your hubby is not faded!

btw why go snooping if you aint going to do anything WORTHY about the dirt you find? you should have just ignore his phone and live stress free!

if you aint willing to FIGHT for your family, then you should have stayed single.

SAMBARRY:
it is obvious you don't know what it is to be a mother to an infant
1.your feelings needs and desires become secondary and the baby's feelings needs and desires become primary

2.you have to wake up at intervals in the night to breast feed . You can't have a sound uninterrupted sleep and wake up whenever you feel like
3. You have to breast feed and nurse the baby almost 24hours then you also have to clean up yourself and struggle to get rid of all the accumulated blood clot and fats during pregnancy
4.you can't do whatever you feel like go wherever you feel like and eat whatever you feel like. It even affects your relationship with your friends and sometimes siblings
5.theres no how you will go through this FOR THE FIRST TIME IN YOUR LIFE AND NOT BE MOODY OR temperamental depending on your endurance threshold
5. I know you can't do it for 2 weeks.i mean you can't be a mother for 2weeks without being grumpy talk more of being a mother for life . Your whole life body psyche priorities etc changes for life

so please shut up till you understand the sacrificial life of motherhood from pregnancy to death and be grateful your mum didn't do dnc on you for her own selfish desires whether in marriage or out of marriage

Onegai:
OP you have done nothing wrong. I'm a nursing mother and Lord knows how hard it is just to understand why your baby is crying, talk less of the lack of sleep nightly. And your husband is acting irresponsible by FORGETTING HE HAS A FAMILY AND RUNNING AWAY FROM HIS REALITIES. Babies are hard work but that is no excuse for him to say "I want a break from being married so I can indulge in Single Man Fantasties", what about you? You don't deserve to feel pretty and relaxed enough to go have fun? Is it only your child??

No man ever wants to suffer for their mistakes and THEY KNOW WOMEN FALL OVER THEMSELVES TO MAKE EXCUSES FOR THEM.

5 brothers and countless male friends taught me that. It starts with their mother's indulgently telling them "Boys will be boys" and ends with society telling them "all men are polygamous in nature". They feel they are doing you a favour by hiding their cheating sef (because STIs and unwanted pregnanices by girla outside and the financial drain of cheating don't exist in their minds)

Let that man beg and do everything to win your trust. Please bone "fighting for your home", if he gets seduced by the girls outside and kicks you out, will he remember it is "your home"? Tell him he has lost your trust and he should win it back or you too can be irresponsible one day. Or forgive him before he has even had time to think of a way to manipulate you to clean up his mess and he will say to himself "phew that was close, next time be more careful".

freshvine:


Trust me I hold their dossiers.
From Cococandy youth service in port Harcourt to Evina....but I am too discipline to indulge their ilk.

I definitely will excuse their immaturity

freshvine:


My question on this board to you all is are your husbands angels?

zeb04:
odiegu monitoring spirit.

jobless in real life that's why they have time to monitor people and keep dossier.

nothing I will not see.