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Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by wrongnumber: 2:11pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
ceecee0703: Seems many people don't actually comprehend because there is nothing silly in the OP post infcat all i can see is that he never generalized and he kept hammering on the fact that a wife should not allow a made make the husband's food or make their matrimonial bed and i honestly wonder why any reasonable lady will have issues with that. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by wrongnumber: 2:15pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Mindfulness: Its like people have issues with the word "most" because most means not all. The issues of minor should be put to rest biko. A minor well come to our house to ask for 1k we sill be saying stories but this minor should rather GO AND DIE rather than work for 10k a month with free feeding and accommodation and by the way, if Nigeria okays 13years for marriage then shall we call a house help(not slave) of 13-17years unfit? Abeg lets think deep and stop upholding a baseless policies that will not put food on the table or provide education for these same minors. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Preshochyx(m): 2:17pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
SAMBARRY:. Do yu live in Kotokoto? |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by skedy1(m): 2:23pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Prevention is better than fighting temptation. This sentence though |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Nobody: 2:27pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
ceecee0703: I don't have to read it again. One time was enough. And whether most men are or are not able to resist temptation, he can't know. |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Nobody: 2:51pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
ORALL: Nothing wrong with you having a preference for women who enjoy doing house chores. It is up to you to choose the woman you want to get married to and to design your marriage the way you want it to be. However, many people have different priorities and that's fine too. Do you think that Mrs Gates' or Mrs Obama's main responsibility is to do house chores? I am sure they are busy doing more interesting things and yet their husbands do not consider them redundant. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by An2elect2(f): 3:08pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
tete7000:I think you are reading another meaning into my posts. I only called out a fact which is, men are weak and vulnerable by reason of the fall of our first parents. I didn't say it is okay to be weak, its the same as saying it is okay to be sinful. And i didn't say or imply that. We should teach our children to know what is right and wrong. No doubt, our male children should be told that sexual immorality is wrong. That will answer the question of what should be done but HOW they would do this is another question. Remember we are talking about sexual sin! and the biblical solution is flee! flee! avoid anything directly or indirectly that can arouse sexual thoughts. You mustn't commit the act first before it is termed adultery! Just a lustful look is enough! And of course, if a man commits adultery with his maid, he would be held responsible, along side his careless wife. She will share the blame too. tete7000:Sir, are you saying the best way to prove your love is to accommodate temptation and resisting it eventually? Are you saying, men should give room for temptation in order to prove that they love their wives?? This is strange Are you now playing the role of the tempter, the devil? Sir, please look away from yourself and look at Christ, the embodiment of all strength. We are weak beings. We are not strong people. We cant pat ourselves on the back because we have not met our match. It is only God's grace that can cause a man to exercise self control. Whether we are aware of it or not. Your ability to resist temptation of all kinds is because of God's grace. tete7000: Did Joseph flee or he stood to "resist" it? And oh sorry, God had already ordained before time that Joseph would be great, no matter what. And not because he overcame temptation. And yes, David the man after God's own heart, the blessed and righteous man also fell into many sins. That should tell you how weak we are. If David can fall, why not you? And should your wife help you fall? hell no. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by InvertedHammer: 3:12pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
peppyluv02: / You did not proffer any possible solution. Yet you couldn't wait to vomit on another person's opinion. Fact: Society will never be 100% free of crime. Crime can only be reduced. Got it? \ 2 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by jesustheissue: 3:24pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
I'm not sure the writer of this piece got the understanding of the bible verse quoted. The word ''maid'' as rendered in the scripture was used in the sense of female or lady or woman and not in the sense of housemaid or house minder. The ways of men with women are indeed wonderful |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by lovemaths(f): 3:30pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Bigsteveg: Tell that to your sisters and mama 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by SAMBARRY: 3:40pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Arijosh:apply the manners to yourself first. Oponu 2 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Nobody: 3:41pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Keep giving silly excuse for randy behavior. Still glad I know a lot of decent men out there who don't sleep with any woman just because she has ass and boobs. InvertedHammer: 4 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Bigsteveg(m): 3:49pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
lovemaths: EEDIOT, I was talking generally to every women outside, y is ur body heating up? Dats shows ure guilty. |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by marbee(f): 3:49pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Toks2008: When you eventually get married sleep with your maid if your wife is not there to cook for you. Finish matter. 4 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Nobody: 3:50pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
You think all men are like you to find only robust women attractive. So the slim ones are not attractive to anyone yet there is a slim craze in the world right now. Speak for yourself not all men. Men complain of trust and here you are saying she should always pray for her husband . A woman wants to trust her husband always knowing he's a man whose mind is not only occupied with sex and will not sleep with anyone they think is attractive. There is no moral justification for not having self control. jnrbayano: 5 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Bigsteveg(m): 3:51pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
remsonik: U and d op are saying the same thing, he only added d use of 'children as maid' to his. I'll look @it from two angles, he's right Buh didn't present it in a right way. But I do get his point. |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ORALL: 3:52pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Mindfulness: Miss gates and miss obama cultures ...I have seen and met so many people from across the sea who married nigeria men and do their will in terms of house keeping,so you using obama or bill wife is totally out of the equation |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by tete7000(m): 3:55pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
An2elect2: Joseph lived with Portiphar's wife for a long time before that incident. If you read your bible well it tells you at various times, the woman had tried many times to seduce him but he constantly refused. He found a way to always avoid her, metamophorically constantly fleeing from her. It was on a particular day the woman wanted to force him to lay with her that he ran and left his cloth with the woman. Of course the woman will later used the same cloth to lie against him. He landed in jail because he couldnt displease God. One thing you can be sure of is that you are no man, I am. Imagine that I work in a place and there is a woman trying to seduce me there, do I abandon my work because the bible say I should flee and becomes jobless? Let say I do so with my first job and luckily get another and face the same situation, do I do that in all my subsequent places of work and ultimately becomes an insane who can't hold on to a job? The problem with many people is that they give literal translations to biblical quotations. Flee doesnt necessary mean run, it means don't put yourself in situation where there is no way out of temptation for you, where you can but compromised. If you have to work with a seductive coworker for instance, leave the door always open and don't remain alone with such a person long after people have gone. Only in extreme cases where you are totally helpless must you leave jobs. Fight the devil back with spiritual war- prayer when necessary and live to let people know what your stand on christian moral issues are at all times. Temptation is part of a Christian life. Go back and read the parable of the weed I recommend to you. You will understand God doesnt expect us to live without the devil. He is ever present tempting us but the grace to overcome temptation is given by God himself. A life of constant prayer and vigilance is what we need. We can't be paranoid about being tempted that our live is totally devoid of any useful purpose:- we stop doing the job we like, we can't accomodate a helper we need. That is not christianity and that is not what the scripture meant by flee my sister. Anyone indulged in live will never grow. Even our immune system doesn't develop until exposed to disease. Moderate exposure to temptation is needed for a strong and vibrant spiritual life not a paronoidal running from everything seen as temptation. How can a decent and modest house-girl living with a woman becomes a perennial source of temptation to her husband? In that case it is no longer the girl who is the source of temptation to the man but man the source of temptation to the poor girl. He chases her around the house seeking to have intercourse with the poor girl and claims the girl tempts her? Nonsense! Who tempts who? Why do you want to marry a 'Christian man' that can't see a maid without desiring sleeping with her? The same thing Portiphar's wife sought to do with Joseph. What sort of useless man is that? Where is his spiritual strength? Will he walk on the road and seek to sleep with all the half nude girl walking around too? If he prevents a maid from living with him, can he prevent his co-worker from indecently dressing to work too? Jesus lived as man here on earth, He was surrounded and was catered for by women not related to him and you didn't hear he lusted after those women neither did you read he kept the women at bay from himself. He should be model of every serious Christian man. 4 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by InvertedHammer: 3:58pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
peppyluv02:/ We are not concerned about the decent ones. We are worried about the indecent ones. The thread is not about decent men. Why is this difficult for you to understand? Running away from a problem does not solve it. \ 1 Like |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by coolviv: 5:20pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Welll all I can say is let us accept the op's opinion 100% on one condition. That such a tempted man will fall if the maid has HIV. Daz all! 3 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Nobody: 5:47pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
ORALL: This is not about a different culture. I have never said that women overseas do not do chores. I just chose these two examples because I was just reading an article about these families. The gist of my comment was that many ladies prefer doing something else than chores and their husbands do not mind and yet their families are "intact". Some ladies even hate doing chores, they consider the work extremely boring. (Can you blame them?) There are even men who prefer a business lady who employs a domestic aid to women who focus on chores. And there are men like you. This is perfect. Each cup fits a lid. 2 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Nobody: 6:40pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
cococandy:Re-read your comment and hear your own voice in your head... You see what I'm saying? Beautiful dunce. 1 Like |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by tucee31: 7:29pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
fr3do: And what makes you think that " a matured help" cannot be oga's prey huh? Guys stop making excuses for your lack of self control . 1 Like |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by fr3do(m): 7:38pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
tucee31: I'm speaking against child labour and slavery, IDGAF if a man has consensual sex with his 18 or older maid. So far the man is not my brother in law. |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by Joy1706(f): 7:40pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
chinnyonwu:YES. Variety is d spice of life 3 Likes |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by bukatyne(f): 8:08pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
tete7000: There is hope in Nigeria afterall |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by bukatyne(f): 8:12pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
tete7000: You just dey sweet me seriously |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ideykwum: 8:29pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
I know you don't have home training and possibly, your IQ is pretty low; otherwise, you'd understand the benign humour, and the art of conversation, especially when you'd rather show humility rather than thump your chest! If you had a modicum of decency, you'd have highlighted your concerns without showing your uncouth street urchin habits! chinnyonwu: |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by adorable29(f): 8:31pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Seriously! What manner of MAN is this tete7000 guy?! Can I PM you? Ehmmm.... Hope you aren't married?! Lol! Just kidding. Let's leave the voluptuous or not voluptuous maid asides for one second! Seriously, why should a man's brain stop functioning (literally) to the extent of destroying himself, his wife, his children, his peace of mind, his integrity, etc etc..... Just to have SEX with his maid! Even if she wears only pants and bra to serve him breakfast in the bedroom! I mean think, think, think, think! For once, let that kpomo in between your legs DON'T do the thinking for you!!!! The thought of what you have ti loose, is that not enough to reset your 'intelligent' brain?! Is it worth it? like really, is it not gross stupidity? Am looking at it from another angle! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ideykwum: 8:32pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
And since you're not daft, you'd also know the meaning of speculation. Yours is a special case of stupid! chinnyonwu: |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by chinnyonwu(m): 8:44pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
ideykwum:You must be a v foolish fowl. So you cannot still comprehend my post? Were you not the one talking about "self control"? How you can never sleep with your maid but can carry as many Uniport Babes. did you forget you were talking about self control? Or you were high on drugs when you typed that? 1 Like |
Re: When your maid becomes the madam. by ideykwum: 9:02pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
You're a fool who doesn't know when his kernel has been cracked by the gods! You come on Nairaland and instead of seeing it as an opportunity to foster new bridges and friendships, you go about cursing your betters...people you don't know from Adam! What kind of parents raised this kind of degenerate imp? Like I said, you don't know the meaning of humour and speculative discuss! Stick-in-the-mud crap! Untrained young imp! chinnyonwu: 1 Like |
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