It is not uncommon for parents to go against the choice of their children’s marriage partner for one reason or the other. Most of the time, this conflict could happen as a result of tribal difference, social status, natural preference or for no obvious reasons which the parents cannot even explain themselves. Whichever way it happens, the fact remains that your parents don’t approve of your marital choice and this could generate a lot of tension between you, your parents and extend to your fiancée or fiancé as the case may be. When this sort of ugly incidence rears its head, can it be handled? Can it be resolved? Yes, absolutely but depending on your approach, composure and understanding.

The first natural reaction from anyone in this situation is to get angry towards your parents for their inability to acceptance your choice. You can even decide in extreme case to ignore and shut them out of your affairs entirely but let me say this to you that, in as much as it is understandable for you to be angry (though your anger should also be coded and decisive too), don’t ever ignore your parents or what they are saying whether it makes sense to you or not, at least, at the initial stage. I have discovered from folks over the years that shutting out your parents worsen the situation for you in the sense that they won’t understand why you have got to cherish and value a stranger (yes, a stranger and that is who he or she is to them for now) more than those who raised you up. This is one reason why some parents remain adarmant for a long time. Some of us go as far as disrespecting our parents, for all it’s worth, even if they don’t approve your choice now, you still need to respect and listen to them first to get their reasons in order to know the angle where they are coming from because it can be helpful to think through the situation further. Remember, they will always be your parents and they could be right!

Truth be told, I am not sure any parent will just want to make life difficult for their children especially when it comes to marriage. They are not always right though, but even in the midst of their error, I want to believe parents are doing what they know best according to the level of understanding they have in order to safe guard your happiness. Though there are times they come up with unrealistic reasonings like tribal sentiments that even tend to go over board, but if we are to critically look into it, there still lies an underlining sheet of love to protect you from falling into wrong hands.

What is the starting point here? I will not advice anybody of marriageable age to date or court secretly as some of us are in the habit of shutting people out of our relationships. As soon as you are sure of your choice, even if marriage is not in view yet, let your parents know before you go far. This is very important so that in case they have any reservation about your choice, they would have let it out on time for possible resolution as soon as possible. And in a situation where it cannot be resolved, it will be obvious that the two of you need to part ways on time so that nobody’s time is wasted. It’s actually risky to court someone for two years without allowing your parents to know what you are up to. Then out of the blues, you just show up with your partner when you plan to get married in less than six months to come. That could spell doom for the two of you should any of the parents disagree.
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Nice writeup.
But sorry I aint clicking that link!