bluespice:

guys quit being hard on her
not many can move on that fast
granted she's lingering a whole lot longer than usual well, thats cos she's still single
n very much aware ( i mean she still seems him maybe not physically but on facebook) of this ex

on those calling me topup naw
not about to start posting in colours
love me some black anyday

just kidding yeah i like talking on relationships
just dont do it often



its more fun to make noise honestly


topup look its very very okay to be 'un-nice'
im in my second yr in college n i can tell u the 'nice' girls dont have as much fun as the 'un-nice'
dont get me wrong they r nice just that u have to be worthy of their 'niceness'
the less u spread urself out in the aim to be 'nice'm
the more 'niceness' u have to share with those that actually deserve it


sorry for the many nice_s

tope ill go soft on u if ur not carefull!

bluespice:

tope ur not good
im telling mommy on what i saw on ur laptop in that encrypted file
never leave ur laptop or pda near me again
im in IT major breaking codes is my hobby!

chamotex:

Sorry but is it like an essay competition going up in here or something??

C2H5OH:

If you want to hear what I have to say, I think you're putting too much effort into trying to keep a relationship with your boy.  Even though you claim that's how you are.  You need to cut him of completely, in your heart, as a boyfriend and even as a friend or facebook buddy.  For the sake of your sanity you cannot be friends. You can't sit on your computer desk with your arms folded obsessing over his status messages on facebook or watching him upload pictures with new girls, watching him have fun with the boys. You will sit there moping, wanting what you can't have.  It will only serve as fuel to make you look back on your past relationship.  Friendship with him right now is not a good thing because you are not completely over him.  Give your heart time to fully heal.  Please  

Lol, I understand completely. I'm not doing any of those. I think I might have risked it by introducing him into my life again so soon and hence slowing the recovery process, but nonetheless I am still recovering, and I was doing so good. He managed to make me feel bad for ignoring him despite his contact for three months. There's a lot more that's happened in between that I left off Nairaland because I was over it, it's just that his birthday is coming, and I want to find the perfect act that doesn't mean anything and can't be faulted if you know what I mean. By the way, there is no relationship between me and him.

As I was writing the topic earlier, I actually wanted to block him from my Facebook, I don't go on his profile and haven't been on in 2 weeks, and before that week, I hadn't been for 2 months (I've been too busy).

I'm not asking for Nairalanders to cut me some slack, I'd rather they just understand me, and my reasons before they judge.

I feel like taking your blind advice because you've been reasonable to me on this thread, and I feel like cutting him off. But what happens on that day when I stumble on his name, I don't want to be shocked. Now, I see his status on my homepage, every now and then, and I don't even stop to read it (apart from a week ago, that I had holidays and was really bored and was reading everybody's and commenting on everything ).

Ebony-Silk:

Don't give too much of your life away on this forum, top up.
You're telling toomuch

bluespice:

dear dont get irrational and quit this forum altogether!
as there r people that honestly care about u so also are people that . . . well forget about those ones


im not in America whatever gave u that idea?  

when i said fun i wasnt relating to being popular or not (who thinks about that in college seriously?)
i meant doing things without having to give excuses for actions
doing things because u want to damning almost all consequences

i really think u should read the book i suggested
it will do u awhole lot of good

topup:

HAHA! It seems that's one of the best pieces of advice I've received so far.

You know what though, I can't talk to my friends about it either. They hate men, and the instant response is; "Get over it."

Ebony-Silk:

Somehow, I'm not the kind of person that'd bring my love life issues on NL where majority of the readers have unstable relationships themselves.

onyinye2:

Nwanyi di njo

Ebony-Silk:

If your friends won't listen, talk to an impartial listener.
Somehow, I'm not the kind of person that'd bring my love life issues on NL where majority of the readers have unstable relationships themselves.

I don't know. I think you should talk to someone who does not know him and you very well. Someone who'd listen to both side of the story without making biased judgments.

Your friends will always blame your antagonist  

Noted & thanks.

Same to bluespice & ethanol

Ebony-Silk:

Oh dear me, both sides of the story.

But we never do hear both sides of the story, so unfortunate

Ebony-Silk:

Translate, you know that agaba stopped teaching me Igbo  

topup:


So you're ex-girlfriend/boyfriend's birthday is approaching, what are you going to do??

C2H5OH:

It's okay sweets.  Whenever you feel the need to talk, come here.  We are one big happy family, so we should be able to lean on each other for comfort.  Right now you need our brotherly/sisterly words of advice and that is exactly what we are going to give you.  As harsh or pleasant as they may seem, please try to understand that we all want the best for you - I know I do.  You don't have to wobble through this lonely road alone.

bluespice:

top-up
im sorry r friends wont listen
n NL hasnt proven to be ur best succor
why dont u try writing?
i mean write what  feel
and how u feel
u should get some form of mental clarity after putting all ur jumbled feelings n thoughts on paper

~Sauron~:

Ex-girlfriend's birthday?? Who remembers such??

topup:

Noted & thanks.

Same to bluespice & ethanol


That's true, I hope I haven't painted a false pic of the guy lol. Luckily for him he has a bestfriend he pours his heart to - his sister.

onyinye2:

It means you bad girl. When did he start teaching you in the first place?

agabaI23:

O ruby bu ebony-silk?

Chei!

agabaI23:

O ruby bu ebony-silk?

Chei!

Ebony-Silk:

You forgot, nwanyi?
Kedu?
I meela?
Gini?

onyinye2:

@top up

Personally if I'm having problems with guys in general, the last people I would go to is women. I'd rather go to my guy friends first then them. Because guys usually give it to you straight. Not that women don't but sometimes women are a wee bit manipulative and that is the last thing you need to be around.That's true!! My friends messed up my mind. They all had different ways of dealing (which worked for them).


So find yourself a really trustworthy guy friend and he doesn't necessarily have to be straight. Because I have guy friends who are gay and give great advice.

Just do whatever you feel is right.Maybe. . .

I am not trying to focus on appearing as if I'm moving on fast, but more on the issues. I need to understand why I linger over these things, and the funny thing is I'm lingering to find out why I linger.

Hehe, did I ever mention that I have 3 blogs, and write a ton of poetry??

I think I should watch out for these friends, the same ones that come up to me and ask me; "hows the ex, have you heard from him, you haven't talked about him for a long time." or "despite what topup says, I think she WOULD take him back, because she's not strong enough."

Heartfelt real advice right there hehehe

topup:

If you have Facebook, you will.

onyinye2:

LMAO!! Okay maybe he taught you somethings, but even though I aint fluent in Igbo. I can still sort of read and make out what was said. And it sure wasn't something a teacher would say

bluespice:

oh well,
im off to bed guys
n topup writing has and is still helping me in my life

Take care,