I remember when we used to write letters and wait for people to call us on our home phone, I remember a time when people actually got excited when they received mail, when the idea of having a cell phone wasn’t as life changing as it’s become today, those were the good old days. Now the world has evolved, internet has come into the equation and the social media has come to stay. Many people won't deny the fact that the social media plays its part on modern day relationships so I would try to be brief and highlight some real life problems social media plays on relationships and marriages..

1. Jealousy: “I think social media causes more insecurities between couples. For example seeing someone else in a picture with your significant other. Its easy for jealously to arise. Also too many distractions between couples. They pay more attention to what they don’t have instead of being grateful for what they do have. The most important thing we can give one another is our time. The one thing we can’t get back is time so be careful because life is short. Never be too proud because you will wind up losing something because of ego. People make relationships too hard now days, they worry about what others think or too many obstacles to overcome. I believe if you love someone nothing can come between”


2. The Return of the ex

With apps like “Whatsapp”, “Snapchat”, “Viber” and many more, it’s not too hard to get in touch with anyone if you really want to. This is when people are tempted, if they’re weak enough, to make certain mistakes that they regret later. People will only be tempted to do something if they knew they had the power to do it, this is what separates the good people from the bad. This happened with me personally with my ex. So one fine day, we were out having lunch and the battery ran out on my phone, so I asked if I could use hers. She hesitated a little and then gave it to me, I noticed the hesitation on her face and I just had to know why she did that. After the call, while the phone was still in my hands and her eyes on her phone, she received a message on “Whatsapp”. What do you know, it’s her ex who apparently “broke her into pieces” saying “How are you doing today, love?”.

3; A doorway to cheating and lying.
Like I said, power works both ways, bad people use it for bad purposes, good people use it to make others happy.Social media and technology makes it easy for bad people to cheat on someone, because there’s always something they can do to hide their steps. Everyone eventually gets caught in the end, but the price to pay is months of heartache and a lot of developed insecurities that take a lot of time to go away.


4: Finding Salvation elsewhere.
with the amount of social media and sex/dating hook up sites, so easy for people to cheat on their partners, whether online or more. People who are in rships tend to be in between 15-20 sites, and when u ask them, they say it was just chat, but when you advertise your last std check its obvious it was more. So much more I could say, I think social media impacts relationships. Some people tend to turn to their online friends instead of reality.”


5. The spy paranoia
Partners now tend to become more or less monitoring spirits on their partner. They check all their posts, comments and other online activity to see what they'v been doing and when the other partner finds out, they get furious and freaked out hence causing a lot of problems on the relationship.


I"d end with 5 points... Feel free to air ur opinions and comments on this piece.



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In comparison to the gargantuan monster, misinformation, all the points above, stacked on one another, will only be as tall as a chihuahua: So much falsehood is being peddled by media and self-proclaimed relationship experts these days. Case in point, you logon to nairaland and the sun is suddenly blotted out by a barrage of lists' projected from the cannons of these pseudo-experts. Well, a good few of us know just when to take cover. But the rest, they just stand there and soak it all up...lol

no 2 is so true. I went through my ex's whatsapp msgs to know whether he was cheating or not. I became single after that. Not sure i'll be doing it again. D advent of whatsapp and d likes makes it easier for men to cheat anyhow. Smh

Jhenny:
no 2 is so true. I went through my ex's whatsapp msgs to know whether he was cheating or not. I became single after that. Not sure i'll be doing it again. D advent of whatsapp and d likes makes it easier for men to cheat anyhow. Smh

awww.. Its a pity...

Add an obsession with sex to the list.

So true

Negatively impacted

Negatively impacted

You're absolutely right there

Hmmmm

So true, Op. I'm taking a 'crap' in the toilet with my phone in hand 'Whatsapp-ing' away! I'm beginning to think it's time I went 'old school' to that era when I didn't have a smart phone. That good old Nokia 3310 era!