Listen to your gut

Tips to catch a cheater can help you get closure, but if you find yourself constantly having to question your relationship and/or stalk your partner on social media, you already know the answer: It's time to end the toxic relationship.

Ask open-ended questions, and listen to the answers

When detectives interview witnesses, they are trained to use the cognitive interview technique, which involves asking a question in a non-threatening way. So asking 'How was last night?' works better than 'Was that girl from work at the bar with you guys last night?' The key is to actively listen to the answer and note the details - then ask again later, and check for contradictions.

Watch for phone-y behavior

Hiding his phone, turning it on silent at night, disappearing from the room to take calls or changing his texts so that they don't appear immediately should all be considered red flags. Also take note if a new 'friend' starts calling regularly - and remember that many cheaters put their contacts under guy's names, so Steve could really be Stephanie.


Check the physical evidence

Cheaters often use the excuse that they are working late - but coming home smelling shower-fresh, or jumping in as soon as gets home, should make you suspicious. If he claims to be showering at the gym, it may be time to grab a guest pass and stop by.

Other red flags include him making excuses to avoid intimacy or starts wearing more clothes around the house than usual, it could be time to check for bizarre bite marks or scratches.

Hire a private investigator

When all else fails, a properly licensed private investigator can follow your partner and get you closure. Make sure that they are properly licensed and insured, get good references - and never investigate your own case - you could tip them off that you are suspicious, and drive yourself crazy in the process.

The last point is wack. Hire a private investigator, over wetin?

The most scariest part of a relationship.... sigh

I don't understand what closure you are talking about? guys don't usually have this problem.. they eventually accept and move on.. but girls on the other hand.. claim they want to catch a cheat and get closure.. closure for what!?? when they eventually confirm their suspicions and catch the cheat.. they do not get closure they only get further pain and sorrow and realize they did not really want closure.. they sink into deeper psychological chaos.. Accept this FACT of Life.. Love is not forever and It is not unnatural to cheat. it is in our genes.. society places an imaginary line that we must be mature NOT to cross - it does not mean a man cannot cross it for personal selfish reasons..

why should u do all this?...........taking his fone and checking his messges? mtwwwwwwssshhhh....HEARTBREAK for you

KashyBaby:
The most scariest part of a relationship.... sigh

why scary.. knowing that Love is not the ultimate super-glue or imagining all the sex positions he never tried with you - girl brace yourself for the eventuality.. it will happen and it does happen. Accept the reality and prepare for it.. Love is not a bouquet of roses

FLAWLES:
why should u do all this?...........taking his fone and checking his messges? mtwwwwwwssshhhh....HEARTBREAK for you

sensible girl..

u may be right but I dnt Accept cheating ….not my cup of tea…its juz scary coz u may never know what cud be the worst thing a person who's been cheated cud do...

voltron:


why scary.. knowing that Love is not the ultimate super-glue or imagining all the sex positions he never tried with you - girl brace yourself for the eventuality.. it will happen and it does happen. Accept the reality and prepare for it.. Love is not a bouquet of roses

Cheater ? HMMMMM I TOT CHEETAH WAS AN ANIMAL?

Cheat or cheater? Some have even responded

KashyBaby:
The most scariest part of a relationship.... sigh

Ur pic can scare kids...no offence

KashyBaby:
u may be right but I dnt Accept cheating ….not my cup of tea…its juz scary coz u may never know what cud be the worst thing a person who's been cheated cud do...

.. i dont mean accept cheating.. no NO CHEATING is a philosophical and religious ideal - by all means keep to it.. but accept the FACT that it does happen and there is nothing special or unspecial about it. it is natural

what is naturAL?the act of cheating??

voltron:


.. i dont mean accept cheating.. no NO CHEATING is a philosophical and religious ideal - by all means keep to it.. but accept the FACT that it does happen and there is nothing special or unspecial about it. it is natural

if we put our pic side by side….then let those "kids" ur talking about decide…coz for sure u dnt need a mask,to scare them off…ur face is totally scary tat even rats will run away.

no offence, but tats real talk tho.

sladimeji:

Ur pic can scare kids...no offence

Loll,it not really abt catching him but bracing up for what lies therein......if you dnt trust your man simply leave....dnt try to dig up what he is hiding,he is hiding it becos he respect your feelings... Let things just be the way they are....

KashyBaby:
what is naturAL?the act of cheating??

yup!! it is in our nature.. right from the garden of Eden. it is deeper than spiritual.. it is natural

KashyBaby:
if we put our pic side by side….then let those "kids" ur talking about decide…coz for sure u dnt need a mask,to scare them off…ur face is totally scary tat even rats will run away.

no offence, but tats real talk tho.

Wow kashysweety...u haven't seen mine nao....anyway am sorry my comment was kinda abusive

KashyBaby:
what is naturAL?the act of cheating??

yes it is natural.. whether in exams or in relationships or in life. it is as natural as not-cheating.. it is when we humans accept only one side of the same coin that we begin to experience confusion and deluge of emotions when it happens. Ying/Yang Fidelity/Infidelity Love/Hate all sides of the same coin. It take a level of maturity to accept that we are not gods (even gods cheat).. we are only humans. Not accepting a human failing is immature - you cannot claim to be perfect like Jesus Christ when he too got angry and expressed fear etc. as long as you are human, you will always be influenced by our base nature.

voltron:


yes it is natural.. whether in exams or in relationships or in life. it is as natural as not-cheating.. it is when we humans accept only one side of the same coin that we begin to experience confusion and deluge of emotions when it happens. Ying/Yang Fidelity/Infidelity Love/Hate all sides of the same coin. It take a level of maturity to accept that we are not gods (even gods cheat).. we are only humans. Not accepting a human failing is immature - you cannot claim to be perfect like Jesus Christ when he too got angry and expressed fear etc. as long as you are human, you will always be influenced by our base nature.

well, i do believe tat if a person LOVE genuinely and has a respect to his spouse, he wouldn't even think twice to cheat…

If you'll still stay with the man after you find out, what's the point

It only makes sense if you're gonna walk away and not cry and cry and cry and go make his meal...

voltron:


yup!! it is in our nature.. right from the garden of Eden. it is deeper than spiritual.. it is natural

I see you... jumping around, buh then if you're going to act like a chicken in hot water when your wife cheats then you should take a seat.

Adaeze003:


I see you... jumping around, buh then if you're going to act like a chicken in hot water when your wife cheats then you should take a seat.

.. a stereotypical statement.. i expected that but it is well, i accept your conclusion irregardless of how quick it took you to jump into it. what is good for the goose is good for the gander. only immature, selfish men would act like a chicken in hot water when their better half reciprocates their own self-justified actions.. this brings me to the crux of the matter proper. the female gender is in a pitiable unfortunate plight the very second they are born into this world. from a Biblical and Koranic perspective, they are second-class citizens.. other less myopic societies in the past paid better recognition to women than even today. so women have the following stacked against them

1: ingrained sense of entitlement due to continuous pampering from the male gender right from a tender age adequately supported by religious instruction to remain in their divinely appointed stature in life (mothers, sex objects, home-keepers)
2: poor focus on intellect (smarts) and over-reliance on social traits (beauty, sexuality and social vices) to move forward in life. even most successful women fall into this trap

In the end women set themselves up to believe in fantasies and dream-worlds where everything work in accordance for their benefit e.g Love, Children, Good Marriage, Good Husbands, a nice house with a comfortable bank account. When reality bites, they become angry and hateful. if only you realized from the start that this cheating phenomena has been there since the days of Abraham you would have adjusted your expectations accordingly and live life on purpose.

..too much talk.. and it is Friday..

"When God gives a girl a beauty without brains the Private parts suffer most"

Ucheosefoh:

Listen to your gut

Tips to catch a cheater can help you get closure, but if you find yourself constantly having to question your relationship and/or stalk your partner on social media, you already know the answer: It's time to end the toxic relationship.

Ask open-ended questions, and listen to the answers

When detectives interview witnesses, they are trained to use the cognitive interview technique, which involves asking a question in a non-threatening way. So asking 'How was last night?' works better than 'Was that girl from work at the bar with you guys last night?' The key is to actively listen to the answer and note the details - then ask again later, and check for contradictions.

Watch for phone-y behavior

Hiding his phone, turning it on silent at night, disappearing from the room to take calls or changing his texts so that they don't appear immediately should all be considered red flags. Also take note if a new 'friend' starts calling regularly - and remember that many cheaters put their contacts under guy's names, so Steve could really be Stephanie.


Check the physical evidence

Cheaters often use the excuse that they are working late - but coming home smelling shower-fresh, or jumping in as soon as gets home, should make you suspicious. If he claims to be showering at the gym, it may be time to grab a guest pass and stop by.

Other red flags include him making excuses to avoid intimacy or starts wearing more clothes around the house than usual, it could be time to check for bizarre bite marks or scratches.

Hire a private investigator

When all else fails, a properly licensed private investigator can follow your partner and get you closure. Make sure that they are properly licensed and insured, get good references - and never investigate your own case - you could tip them off that you are suspicious, and drive yourself crazy in the process.

for what na, he dey share dollars?

You won't even catch a cheating mouse with these, talk more of humans, we are way too smart and evolving

Even before clicking I knew the post would be composed with a male cheater in context. This is not right bro. Women cheat arguably even more than men. No offence to the ladies.

Stereotypes everywhere.

voltron:


.. a stereotypical statement.. i expected that but it is well, i accept your conclusion irregardless of how quick it took you to jump into it. what is good for the goose is good for the gander. only immature, selfish men would act like a chicken in hot water when their better half reciprocates their own self-justified actions.. this brings me to the crux of the matter proper. the female gender is in a pitiable unfortunate plight the very second they are born into this world. from a Biblical and Koranic perspective, they are second-class citizens.. other less myopic societies in the past paid better recognition to women than even today. so women have the following stacked against them

1: ingrained sense of entitlement due to continuous pampering from the male gender right from a tender age adequately supported by religious instruction to remain in their divinely appointed stature in life (mothers, sex objects, home-keepers)
2: poor focus on intellect (smarts) and over-reliance on social traits (beauty, sexuality and social vices) to move forward in life. even most successful women fall into this trap

In the end women set themselves up to believe in fantasies and dream-worlds where everything work in accordance for their benefit e.g Love, Children, Good Marriage, Good Husbands, a nice house with a comfortable bank account. When reality bites, they become angry and hateful. if only you realized from the start that this cheating phenomena has been there since the days of Abraham you would have adjusted your expectations accordingly and live life on purpose.

..too much talk.. and it is Friday..

Psshh... too much talk...

These points won't work on a typical Nigerian girl. Most of them have acquired anti-detective codes and antidotes.

KashyBaby:


well, i do believe tat if a person LOVE genuinely and has a respect to his spouse, he wouldn't even think twice to cheat…

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bizzaregr8:



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