My girlfriendleft me for another guy, and it was devastating. You see getting dumped is one thing. You experiencerejection by someone you love and hold dearly and it’s definitely painful. Then, there’s breaking up, which is another thing, oftenassociated with feelings of loss, loneliness and even despair. And then there’s a third thing: when she dumps you for another guy, which, I believe, is the mostexcruciating.
Not only do you have to deal with feelings of rejection of being dumped, and feelings of loneliness and loss associated with the breakup, you ALSO have to deal with feelings of ineptitude, insignificance and betrayal. It’s brutal, and if it’s happened to you, I feel for you.
Mygirlfriendleft me for someone else, and the intense, debilitating pain I wentthrough was the catalyst for this blog. In addition I’ve talked to a lot of guys that have gone through similar experiences and Itruly believe it is one of the most painful experiences available to the male human being.
It destroys your world.
Iremember when it happened to me. It felt as if it had literally torn open my heart. The emotional pain was so badit turned into physical pain combinedwith the worst types of anxiety I have ever experienced.
If that sounds familiar, you’ve cometo the right place.
If you haven’t already, make sure you read myBreakup Guide For Men.
Listen man, I wish I could give you one technique to make all your pain go away. But I can’t. No one can. The reality is you’re goingto feel like shit for a while.
But you know what? That’s okay. Because it’s normal to feel sad and depressed after a breakup. And you know what? You’re goingto get over her. You’re goingto deal with your breakup and move on. These days may be the hardest but it keeps getting easier and easier. And if you put the tools and techniques on this site to work, you’ll become a better man because of it!
I’m going to be super blunt with you, because if after reading my breakup guide, you’re still hungry for more. You need to hear this.
WARNING: This is notfor the faint-hearted.
Contents
She's not the one
It's over
TimeFor YOU
She’s not the one
Iknow she may feel like it. I know you might thinkyou ‘know’ it. I know you guys might have said you were soulmates. Well, guess what? There are a million guys that walked that path beforeyou my friend. There are literally millions of guys out there who thought some girl was ‘the one’ and who got hit by reality. Just like you. Hell, I was one of them.
But you know what? It’s okay to have thought that. I know I did. It’s the natural thing to do, especially if it’s your first love, it feels like the only personin the world that can make you happy. But, that’s just not true. Most guys end up with some other woman, and again they’ll have the same feelings of her being the one. But the second time around they’ll have some more perspective, and they’ll realize that it might feel that way, but that doesn’t make it accurate. The truth is, mostguys needto cut their teeth on a couple of relationships before they settle down.
What’s more, thinking interms of the one is irrational. In fact it’s far more likely you haven’t met a whole lot of people. Certainly notenough to be able to say with any certainty that out of the millions of women in the world, this specific one was the best and only match for you.
“Well that might be true,” you might say, “but then why do I feel this way?”
The answer is it’s your emotional brain talking, and we’re gonna start talking back to it with our rational brain.
Believing she was the one doesn’t make any logical sense, but more than anything, it is a sign you were probably emotionally dependent on your relationship. Were you worried more about how she felt, than how you felt? Were you worried more about if her needs were met, than if your needs were met? If so, those are pretty clear signs there was an unhealthy balance in your relationship, and the reason you werestill in it wasn’t all love, but because you werealso addicted to it. So what you’re feeling now, are essentially withdrawal symptoms.
Believing she was the one doesn’t make any logical sense, but more than anything, it is a sign you were probably emotionally dependent on your relationship.
It’s over
You might notwant to admit it yet – and nota whole lot of guys are able to – but your relationship is most likely beyond saving. If she initiated the breakup and you’re shocked, then she’s way ahead of you in processing this whole thing. She probably saw it coming months ago and has beenunconsciously preparing herself for this moment. You, on the other hand, are a deer caught in the headlights. I urge you: don’t walk in to the light – in fact don’t even stare at it – it’s time to jumpout of the collision course.
It’s very, very, very hard to say goodbye to the future you undoubtedly imagined together. I’m not going to deny that. And I can’t make you do it. I can say, however, that this is the single mostimportant thing you will have to do, to get through this. You need to accept it’s over and commit yourself to moving on. Because as long as you don’t take that step, you’re holding on to hope, you’re holding on to expectations, and you’re going to get painfully disappointed.
You need to accept it’s over and commit yourself to moving on.
Now that you’re broken up, you might find that your ex is behaving weird, irrational and generally notrecognizable. That’s because this is super emotionally taxing on her too, she’s processing this in a totally different way and she’s probably further down the line indoing so. It happens. It’s important to talk about your feelings and surround yourself with loved ones, and women are exceptionally good at that. As a result they often have an easier time coming to terms with their feelings.
Ihad a hard time letting go as well. It felt like myex girlfriend completely changed character after our breakup, and it was really tough and confusing dealing with it. The momentI was able to accept that we had no future together was when I realized that the girl I fell inlove with, no longer existed. There was only this other girl, who was acting irrationally and impulsively, hurting me along the way. Iknew that I couldn’t hold on to something that didn’t exist anymore, so I was able to let go.
The moment I was able to accept that we had no future together was when Irealized that the girl I fell in love with, no longer existed.
If you can’t make that step just yet: fake it until you make it. Go
no contact and observehow your feelings and thoughts transform as you are able to disentangle your emotions fromyour thoughts.
Time For YOU
Sowhat now? Well first of all, the fact that you might feel that you’re falling into an emptiness right now is an indication that your relationship was probably toomuch of a crutch to your identity. It’s because we as guys are very susceptible to really lose ourselves in a relationship. We often tend to give it our everything and connect to our belovedlike we’ve never connected before.
In reality that’s our inner insecurities surfacing, and it freaks women out over the long term. It’s the classic case of where a girl feels suffocated, and all the guy does is try harder, suffocating her even more.
Women don’t want to be put on a pedestal. They don’t want a guy that tries to satisfy their every need. They don’t want a guy that worries whether they’re mad or not. But at the same time they are not consciously aware of this, let alone articulate it. They just get frustrated and lose attraction for you.
Women are very emotional creatures themselves, they want a guy that is a rock inrestless waters. They want a confident guy, that knows who he is and what he stands for.
And that’s a healthy stereotype to strive for. You do it by taking experiences like this, and learning all there is to learn from it. You take the time to think about yourself. What is your identity? What are YOUR needs and how did you sacrifice them inthe relationship? That is how you grow and move on. And that’s where your focus should be if your girlfriend left you for another guy.
MyGirlfriend Left Me For Another Guy by Jesse

Epistle.

OK, How can we help u now?

Encyclopedia

U are alive and breathing and well... Be thankful to God and keep on keeping on....

Haba! Too long. Obviously copied from a website!

U for just type encyclopedia
Anyways u said ut... she's not for u

make i bend if i read that thing....
but from topic:she dumped you for another guy...
so what?
stop being puśsy pls.

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Mah Niggur....
you know how it is....
bad man has gotta protect his territory.

IamLEGEND1:


Mah Niggur....

you know how it is....

bad man has gotta protect his territory.

Word
Badt guy be doing a good job I see

IamLEGEND1:


Mah Niggur....

you know how it is....

bad man has gotta protect his territory.

hahahahaha goddamn you were so blunt wuth the nigga, can't cut him some slacks hmmmmmmmmmm. op yeah it happens to all of us ok now man the fk up and find another sweeter girl to help u forget about her but ensure u dont go after another girl with all these blue feelings and stuff. Don't be a pusssssy and a lesson any real nigga have learned is to
1. NEVER TRUST ANY GIRL
2. EXPECT A GIRL TO DO HER WORST (that will be absolve any shock that might come up like you're are having now)
3. ENSURE YOUR GIRL KNOWS IF SHE FKS UP U HAVE OTHER OPTIONS (this kinda regulates their madness)
4........... maybe later

Sandydayz:
U for just type encyclopedia
Anyways u said ut... she's not for u

i hope that's how you react when it's a girl that got her heart broken ................

Bigbang2013:
My girlfriendleft me for another guy, and it was devastating. You see getting dumped is one thing. You experiencerejectiodbye to the future you undoubtedly imagined together. I’m not going to deny that. And I can’t make you do it. I can say, however, that this is the suur girlfriend left you for another guy.
MyGirlfriend Left Me For Another Guy by Jesse

i guess ur problem is that u loved that bitchh toooooo much now that's the result u get when u love a girl too much and act like your life depends on it. well it happens to the best of us now i hope u have learnt ur lessons, if u need to fk around (fk some other girls as revenge) it's ok but be careful who u mess with. U re in phase one now, phase two is on the way and phase three is the shitt