'It's not right, there is something wrong in the lack of self control of men and no respect for the institution of marriage. At least let me show you I am interested or something, don't just feel that cos you are attracted then it must be a burden I must share. It's wrong, wrong,wrong...'
That is the lamentation of my very good friend who is happily married but get unsolicited advances from randy men ranging from the very young to the potbellied old fools. This conversation got me thinking and I decided to write this piece to advise those who find it sexually appealing to go after married women.You see the married woman is very complex and comes with a varied sense of her position in the society. This game is very complex and can only be played by the very experienced Don Juan. It is not a game for the neophyte who at best could get his ego sunk in the dirtiest gutters and at worse end up in jail or loose his life through Magun.

If you must, then follow these candid time tested rules.

Never make the first move. Never, ever. Wait if she is interested she will send you the signals and even at that make sure you are more than 100% sure of what you are getting and then start in a subtle manner and very slowly opening up to her. She will drag you in herself and maintain the momentum. Don't ever rush, alloW her take the lead.

Key into her areas of interest. Her children's welfare, her projects, her wahala with her hubby. Be that dependable shoulder she can lean on and never be seen to take advantage of her weaknesses or the information she is giving you. Be a part of her life, remain in the shadows and allow her lead the way.

Never ever be blatant about your feelings for her. Keep her guessing and mute them. Show her you care in a brotherly way while at the same time giving her a better alternative to the boring hubby. Still let her lead the way.

Have long unending conversations about her interests. Ask helpful questions, make reliable suggestions and be the handy man. She will begin to lean on your advice and soon you will be indispensable. But she remains the leader. By this time, she will start touching your arms lightly and even introduce you to her hubby as a friend. This is to cover the late night calls and chats.

Show you can be discreet. This is very key. No married woman wants to be with a loud mouth. Show that you can die instead of opening your mouth. I once had a colleague who was dating our boss, the fact that her driver brought him to work did t make him open up. He is still denying five years after the affair.

Treat your young girlfriend with care and love. This is very attractive to the married woman. Know that she would most likely be missing all these in her marriage. So channel so much love to your girlfriend and ask her for advise when you are having a fight with your girlfriend. She will gladly advise. Then cry small while talking. Never fail to show weakness it pulls out the motherly instinct in her. This is a winner.

Show your bulge in a discreet and not obscene manner. She will be missing the early years when her hubby could go the whole night. Nowadays, the Oga struggling with life struggles would even find it hard to go once sef. So show her that you could possibly be dynamite in bed. Complain to her that your girlfriend is killing you with sex and that after 5 rounds she still wants more. The woman would be amazed although won't show it and be secretly wishing that she could have just two sef.

In all these guys, if you must with a married woman, never never be abrasive, allow her take the initiative, let her lead the way and when you eventually get her, remember that this was a decision that would dramatically alter her life and family so you must continually respect her, treat her like the whole universe revolves around her, be subtle with your girlfriend and don't throw her in your paramours face and remain forever loyal even years after its over.

Note of warning, it could get messy and her anger is one you never want to experience. The risk is worth trying sha.

Finally, these advise is gotten from tremendous research I got from talking with a lot of married women, research from the Internet and through prayers asking for revelation as I write. Let me state categorically that its NOT FROM ANY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. I SWEAR o. Kai. Nigerians, dem no go kill researcher.