Hello Folks,

help me deal with a problem i have had for a long time. it is a personality problem. i find it difficult to make friends, always keeping to my self and also  in a state of fear. i am tired  and want change. your honest suggestion will be appreciated.

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Hello Folks,

help me deal with a problem i have had for a long time. it is a personality problem. i find it difficult to make friends, always keeping to my self and also  in a state of fear. i am tired  and want change. your honest suggestion will be appreciated.

The way to deal with issues like this to first identify what exactly is the problem -What is your fear? what are you afraid off? what stops you from taking that step?. If you can identify this, then it become much easier to deal with the issues. It also helps who ever is offering you an advice - e.g Me - as to what best of action to take.

You mentioned it that is is a long term problem. From the the way I see it, there must have been a trigger for it or an underlying cause. Also, one need to know what your age is etc in other to know where and what to decide.


From the bit off information you have posted, I can only offer the following advice: Ask yourself, why do you keep to your self? Have you ever tried to make friends before, if yes, how did it go? Was it a disaster etc?

If you are in a constant state of fear, what exactly is bringing you these fearful and fright episode? Is only when you are about to make friends etc? The good news is that, the mere fact that you can come out to talk about it here, then you are taking the right steps to sort it out.

Unless I know you better or if you post some more stuff, then it will be hard for me to give you a thorough advise. If you wanna talk on a one on one via msn messenger or yahoo chat, then am available.