Hi Relationshipcrib Admin,

My name is Sandra.

I am in a relationship with man that is loves me so much.

I’m 23 years old. He’s three years older than I am and he respects me a lot. He’s really nice and caring, not just to me but everyone around him. He also wants the best for me – focusing on my future plans and career goals. And the sex, great too. What more can a girl ask for right?!

But here’s my problem, I can’t seem to get my ex-boyfriend, Bayo, out of my mind. It’s a problem for me. Bayo’s face creeps up in my mind and even though I don’t love him anymore and I moved on 6 months ago (he cheated on me multiple times), I can’t get his face out of my mind.

What do I do?

sandra from surulere, Lagos.

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Hi Sandra,

What you are experiencing is quite common amongst women. The only person who can stop this is YOU.

You might not know this but you are still clinging unto the past someway, somehow. You must have probably buried some memories of your ex in your subconscious and every now and then, these memories pop up.

You need to ask yourself what is preventing you from starting a new life with your current lover – six months after; have you forgiven him for cheating on you? Did you ever confront him on this to get his response?

After doing that, you also have to make sure you do the following;

1. Stop thinking no other man is good for you

2. Stop trying to force a ‘just friends’ relationship with him

3. Stop trying to find out who he is dating

4. Delete his photos or photos of both of you from your phone.

After doing all of these, always remember that you have to heal yourself with happiness at all times. You have a boyfriend that loves you, try at all times to give him all attention.

I wish you the best dear.

wash ur heart with hypo.
Honestly, it happens to many people so you aint alone in this kinda situation.

Engage your self in something. It will help.

She needs to stop smoking whatever potent shyt she's smoking, that should stop the hallucinations. Can't get his face out of my head my azz. Either she still loves the chap or is going bananas.

U must have loved him so much
Nd I think u still love him



You just have to face d fact dat Itz ova btwn u guyz,

Reminiscing d event dat led to d breakup will help u too

Good luck

23 and the sex is great! Keep having more sex.....what else could a girl ask for!

You started dating again too early.
You didn't give yourself enough time to be ready again before taking up another relationship.

Op I don understand you. Your name is Sandra and at the end of your tales,u turn into another dramatis personae with the name Grace.

Now back to your topic. You got out from a relationship that affected you mentally and emotionally and without taking some time to put your self together,you jumped into a rebound relationship with a man that you don't love(stop claiming u love cos u don't). He's the caring type who brought you up out of your misery and now that you are okay,you wanna have a piece of ur ex. The fact still remains that you still feel sumtin for him. My advice for u is to focus on your present relationship and see where it leads to.


My 2 cent.

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Op I don understand you. Your name is Sandra and at the end of your tales,u turn into another dramatis personae with the name Grace.

Now back to your topic. You got out from a relationship that affected you mentally and emotionally and without taking some time to put your self together,you jumped into a rebound relationship with a man that you don't love(stop claiming u love cos u don't). He's the caring type who brought you up out of your misery and now that you are okay,you wanna have a piece of ur ex. The fact still remains that you still feel sumtin for him. My advice for u is to focus on your present relationship and see where it leads to.


My 2 cent.

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Séy Suru....
If i say it's easy to let go, am deceiving you. But the truth is that it's advisable that when you break up a relationship, it's healthier, better and safer to let go. I know the sweet memories pop-up from your mind/heart always, without clearing it off your mind it will definitely affect the future of your new and future relationship. Be brave, be strong and be confident that your latest and future relationship will be far BETTER than the old things that have PASSED away so that you can move on with your BEAUTIFUL LIFE.
Remember, "You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the one."

Eyaa! see love. Why are women so overly emotional? You confessed with your own mouth that you have a guy who loves you and cares for you, and yet you are still lusting and longing after a guy who has probably moved on with another woman after you gilted him. You say that your present guy is the `perfect boyfriend', then what else do you need your ex for? Except there is something you are not telling us.

Eeyyaah....Pele....sorry

Same problem i had/still having and its been over 2yrs now


I tried dating but realised i kinda rushed myself because i kept wanting to mould the new ladies into the way my ex was and it continuously backfired


So i stopped getting engaged in relationships altogether, i still think about her a lot but it fades gradually i guess


Like someone alluded to earlier, i think you rushed back into dating too soon, should have given yourself more time

If your current partner is the listening and understanding type, talk to him about it, hopefully it turns out well for you

Treat your woman right,they said.
she gon' give you her heart,they told me.

I don't understand this babe's like seriously because dis her matter wear skirt