I remember saying having a child for me isn't a guarantee that a woman will remain in my house.

People attacked me without understanding why I made such statement.

Some 4 months ago, my cousin had his first child. My aunt, being the mother in law to be made sure she (daughter in law to be) got the best care. She took care of the daughter in law to be, bathed her grandchild every morning, afternoon and night.

After a month plus, my aunt followed her son to his house and continued with the care for another 1 month plus.

However due to an accident she had in 2012, she had to undergo proper surgery to straighten her leg because after the accident, no surgery was done but just traditional treament which didn't do much as the leg, a few CM above the ankle was bent and you can see the protruding bone.

Being hardworking woman, she did a lot of works with the leg.

I travelled to Lagos and when I returned, I was informed that she was in the hospital. I had to move to her sisters house same day so I can check on her.

On gettting there I saw her on the hospital bed. Few weeks later she was discharged from hospital.

This daughter in law to be was rarely around. When she comes, she would barely spend up to an hour before leaving. She has NEVER washed my aunt's clothes. Through out the 2 months that my aunt was discharged from hospital, the girl NEVER bought anything for my aunt as a mother in law to her. She NEVER stayed to take care of her. Absolutely NOTHING can be accounted for as a gain she contributes to the family system.

My aunt's only daughter died early 2000s and this girl could have easily played that role.

Last time she visited I was told she was around I didn't bother to come out to see her cos I was just to displeased.

While we were away, robber buggled into my aunt's house. This girl came, she couldn't arrange her mother in law's clothes nor sweep the room she occupied when she delivered. The best she could do was brought out her iphone, one my cousin bought, and started taking pictures of the damages and calling my cousin on phone to even magnify and exaggerate what happened.

In that two months I have been the one who would lift my aunt, get her crunches, wash her clothes, follow her to the hospital etc.

Today my aunt finally returned to her home after doctor told her that she can start putting the leg on ground while she walks. She had to call her sister's daughter to come and cook for her. Though I had wanted to do the cooking.


While I was with her in her room. She told me that the daughter in law was feeling pompous. I said to her that I have noticed but wondered why she kept quiet all along. She said she was just taking her time. So I told her what I expected of her daughter in law to be and that this problem had better be nipped in the bud before it's too late. I asked her what if she was quite older than her current age such that she can't move around. We talked more at length and she told me her mind. She also told me that she called the girl and informed her that she has arrived home. The girl didn't even bother to ask about cooking or gave any hint if she would come.

The son is currently out of the country. He bought this girl a car, took her South Africa and Dubai on vacation.

My aunt told me that while I was away at one time, they were making plans for introduction. This girl, though not yet strong cos of child delivery, made a decision to start business. My aunt suggested that wait for you to heal and you know you had this child via CS. She flaired up and I learned earlier she said what right does my aunt have to dictate for her. There was a serious quarel between her and my cousin.

My aunt has resolved that once her son comes back, they will discuss and possibly put a stop to her madness.

I have seen this game played over and over again. A girl brings out her real colours after a child or after marriage. That's why I said to myself, a child isn't a guarantee that a woman will remain in my house but her manners.

This girl in question is completely nothing to write home about...

If my wife to be can't and won't respect my mother,then u gat to go marry someone else.

What?


The poster below me will say more.

Huurrr...
This lady need to change her ways fast.
The poster above me seems to think I am a man of many words.

If its dis ur 6ta inlaw dey wanna kick out...m strongly behind you....but from the story i dnt see who dey are kickin out..

That's it ooo, my brother! Most ladies these days have nothing to write home about! They are always mean, rude and insultive, as if God offended them by allowing them to wake up in the morning.


My mother has been cautioning and training my sister. We only have to wait and see if she accepts the training or not!

After all this noise, is the husband-to-be complaining?
If not, abeg carry ya mouth go bury for evil forest!

Lessons learned: NEVER EXPECT FRIENDSHIP OR LOVE TO BE RECIPROCAL!!!!

Long story can't read this

KanwuliaJara:
After all this noise, is the husband-to-be complaining?
If not, abeg carry ya mouth go bury for evil forest!

Lessons learned: NEVER EXPECT FRIENDSHIP OR LOVE TO BE RECIPROCAL!!!!

dey dia. I know you wella. You are a lady and I won't be surprise if you act any different from this said girl.

ismart:
dey dia. I know you wella. You are a lady and I won't be surprise if you act any different from this said girl.

Meaning what?
To take care of young woman and to take care of A GRUMPY, OOOOOLD WOMAN na de same?

If you dey find "slave" to buy, una nor sabi wia "baby farm" dey?

The girl is smart o!
Never start what you can't finish!

vfactor:
That's it ooo, my brother! Most ladies these days have nothing to write home about! They are always mean, rude and insultive, as if God offended them by allowing them to wake up in the morning.


My mother has been cautioning and training my sister. We only have to wait and see if she accepts the training or not!

when my mother was alive, it was same warning she dished out to us.

I know how many girls I have asked to get out of my life once I noticed any silly behavior.

Ahhhhh Nkan Mbe

ismart:


when my mother was alive, it was same warning she dished out to us.

I know how many girls I have asked to get out of my life once I noticed any silly behavior.

Hmmmm!
The women are nothing to write home about, yet una go dey phock dem, gee dem belle!

We don hia!!!!!

KanwuliaJara:


Meaning what?
To take care of young woman and to take care of A GRUMPY, OOOOOLD WOMAN na de same?

If you dey find "slave" to buy, una nor sabi wia "baby farm" dey?

The girl is smart o!
Never start what you can't finish!

i see. But she wasn't smart when my aunt was taking care of her right? Or my aunt was stupid at that time right?

Who is enslaving who in this case or don't you realise you will grow old too for calling my aunt grump. You see, this is the stupidity. Tick tock tick tock... You will soon reach my aunt,s age. Ozwo!

KanwuliaJara:



Hmmmm!
The women are nothing to write home about, yet una go dey phock dem, gee dem belle!

We don hia!!!!!

before I go give any girl belle, she has to worth it... My sperm no dey enter any yeye girl ovaries.

Ever since this issue started cropping up, I have never failed to aportion enough blame to my cousin. In fact, I often said I don't blame the girl but my cousin.

ismart:
before I go give any girl belle, she has to worth it... My sperm no dey enter any yeye girl ovaries.

Ever since this issue started cropping up, I have never failed to aportion enough blame to my cousin. In fact, I often said I don't blame the girl but my cousin.

You are just an OP!
This thread nor consine you o.
Make we judge the real matter hia abegggggi!

ismart:
i see. But she wasn't smart when my aunt was taking care of her right? Or my aunt was stupid at that time right?

Who is enslaving who in this case or don't you realise you will grow old too for calling my aunt grump. You see, this is the stupidity. Tick tock tick tock... You will soon reach my aunt,s age. Ozwo!

Thank you!
Na who sen your BUSYBODY AUNTY message?
Love is not by force o!

KanwuliaJara:


Thank you!
Na who sen your BUST BODY AUNTY message?
Love is not by force o!

okay. we go see how far the said girl will go... where her power reach she go show us. Everybody has already taken note of her character, including a neighbour that was with us the day the thieves broke into the house. We shall...

make you and the fool wey dey like your post continue. una sef go born and una pikin go marry...

ismart:
okay. we go see how far the said girl will go... where her power reach she go show us. Everybody has already taken note of her character, including a neighbour that was with us the day the thieves broke into the house. We shall...

make you and the fool wey dey like your post continue. una sef go born and una pikin go marry...

This is the age of BABY MAMMAS and PAPPAS, and you dey for NL dey make noise?
Why all the insults?
What is your pain in all this?
If your aunty needs help, gerrrrrof the damn "net" and move in with her!
Next time, tell your "over-sabi-sabi" aunty to stop looking for a "replacement daughter"!
Una nefa marry the babe, una don dey gossip and PLOT!

The BABE don decode una tey tey ke!
Sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo proud of her!
Shiooooooooooor!!!!!

I have seen this game played over and over again. A girl brings out her real colours after a child or after marriage. That's why I said to myself, a child isn't a guarantee that a woman will remain in my house but her manners.

Just listen to yourself.

How will your future wife give her all to the marriage when the house is all yours and she's a tenant.
Such high handedness.

KanwuliaJara:


This is the age of BABY MAMMAS and PAPPAS, and you dey for NL dey make noise?
Why all the insults?
What is your pain in all this?
If your aunty needs help, gerrrrrof the damn "net" and move in with her!
Next time, tell your "over-sabi-sabi" aunty to stop looking for a "replacement daughter"!
Una nefa marry the babe, una don dey gossip and PLOT!

The BABE don decode una tey tey ke!
Sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo proud of her!
Shiooooooooooor!!!!!

u b mumu... dem never marry babe but them buy her car, dem never marry babe but them carry her go South Africa and Dubai for the first time in her whole life.

Abeg go sidon jor. I think say na better person i dey chat with sef.

Meanwhile your cousin should get help for his mom instead of expecting a new mom to be available to wait on her hand and foot.
Like you said, she's not strong enough on account of the CS to start a business. How come she's strong enough to do other things?

This one una dey count wetin the man do for am. SMH. Such nosiness. Nawa.

Granted that she should show more compassion and concern but who your cousin chooses to marry is his business and you have no say trying to put asunder between them.
All in all, you sound very derogatory towards the lady.
Na your kind sabi meddle in people's affairs until things become too bad to salvage.
Shebi your next plan is to convince your cousin to break up with her so that that kid becomes fatherless or motherless depending on gets the kid. Will you be the father or the mother when they part ways because of you?

Una mind una business o. Nosy marriage spoiling relatives.

I wish your aunt quick recovery.

ismart:
u b mumu... dem never marry babe but them buy her car, dem never marry babe but them carry her go South Africa and Dubai for the first time in her whole life.

Abeg go sidon jor. I think say na better person i dey chat with sef.

Na who sen una message?
Na una FAMILY BANK dey sponsor the babe?

Na you carry am go SA?
Na you buy am motto?
If una dey play SUGAR-DADDY role, don't complain!

Sounds like ONE TROUBLESOME, IDLE FAMILY I swear!
VERRRRRRRRRRRRY BUUUUUUSH too!
Na wetin consine una sef?

cococandy:


Just listen to yourself.

How will your future wife give her all to the marriage when the house is all yours and she's a tenant.
Such high handedness.

madam, a child is not a guarantee. I repeat it is not a guarantee. Tomorrow your likes would accuse men. Life is give and take... tell me why you are alive. Why is your body breathing? how does it breathe? In case you don't know, it breathes in Oxygen and breathe out carbondioxide... and in other to balance the ecosystem, plants breathe in your carbon dioxide and give you oxygen to breathe, Why this laws are defiled, there is a break down in the system.

You don't just get it... this girl does NOTHING.

she ONLY receive... she gives nothing.

There has to be something you give... show you care!

I need to hear the woman's side of the story to make a judgement
Some mother in laws are manipulative, ( they act nice to relatives then treat daughter in laws like crap) I'm not saying she does not deserve care, but they could be more than meet your eye poster.

KanwuliaJara:


Na who sen una message?

Na you carry am go SA?
Na you buy am motto?
If una dey play SUGAR-DADDY role, don't complain!

Na wetin consine una sef?

wetin consine you too. whether you talk from now till tomorrow, I am sure, very sure that girl is going.

No woman wants to see her son get married to bad lady who has no single value!

Poster you seem to know everything that goes on your cousins house,
Do you even have a job,
Do you have your own house, hobbies, maybe? How do you know people's deep affairs like this.

ismart:
wetin consine you too. whether you talk from now till tomorrow, I am sure, very sure that girl is going.

No woman wants to see her son get married to bad lady who has no single value!

If na me be her, I go celebrate OOOOOOOOOOOOOH!!!
Gooooooood RIDDDDANCE to you and your LOCAL family!!!!
Only one YAHOO-YAHOO broda get small "coins" for pocket, the whole village dey rejoice.

I pity any woman wey dey unfortunate to get involved with this your hungry family-background!
Twaaaaah!!! !

Miami11:
Poster you seem to know everything that goes on your cousins house,
Do you even have a job,
Do you have your own house, hobbies, maybe? How do you know people's deep affairs like this.

Miami11:
I need to hear the woman's side of the story to make a judgement
Some mother in laws are manipulative, ( they act nice to relatives then treat daughter in laws like crap) I'm not saying she does not deserve care, but they could be more than meet your eye poster.

I swear, I did not add nor subtract from what I explained. I wish I had known, I would have made a voice not of my convo with my aunt.

The girl does nothing! absolutely nothing. she just sit and receive money from my cousin. My cousin is trying t be a good guy and take good care of her but you sef reason am na... I know you find it hard to believe.; i didn't decide to make vow of not giving a woman complete right even if she had 100 kids for me for nothing... what I mean is that I can not be manipulated.

My aunt is an extremely good woman and a mother.


Part of the reason why I had to stay with her for that 2 months was because despite the injury she had, she followed me to go see where her sister(my monther) was buried. I even told her to rest awhile. she said no that we should continue. I was touched that day I swear.

Miami11:
Poster you seem to know everything that goes on your cousins house,
Do you even have a job,
Do you have your own house, hobbies, maybe? How do you know people's deep affairs like this.

no.. I am beggar off the street.... I don't even have food to eat.

I see where you are going with this... because it is woman that is wrong and you feel she is being blackmailed right?

ismart:
I swear, I did not add nor subtract from what I explained. I wish I had known, I would have made a voice not of my convo with my aunt.

The girl does nothing! absolutely nothing. she just sit and receive money from my cousin. My cousin is trying t be a good guy and take good care of her but you sef reason am na... I know you find it hard to believe.; i didn't decide to make vow of not giving a woman complete right even if she had 100 kids for me for nothing... what I mean is that I can not be manipulated.

My aunt is an extremely good woman and a mother.


Part of the reason why I had to stay with her for that 2 months was because despite the injury she had, she followed me to go see where her sister(my monther) was buried. I even told her to rest awhile. she said no that we should continue. I was touched that day I swear.

Na who ask you all dis wan sef?

Only you wan dey tok for:

1. The BABE.
2. Your Cousin.
3. Your Aunty.
4. YOURSELF.

Haba!!!! Na only you waka kam?
You be REAAAAAL AMEBO ooooooooooh!!!

KanwuliaJara:


Na who ask you all dis wan sef?

na u know. it's very obvious you not willing to contribute anything to a man... you want to boss him around and put him under your armpit. I pity the mumu wey go marry you. A smart guy will never give you the chance...