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A Must Read: 16 Lessons I Learnt From Losing My Virg Inity by youngsahito(m): 11:46pm On Sep 23, 2015
1. Many teenage girls sleep with guys because they are trying to find love, to find self-worth. But the catch is that the more guys they sleep with, the less self-worth they had.
2. Many girls think that if they really care about guys, s’εx will bring them closer together. Indeed, sεx creates a bond. However, 80 percent of the time, the physical int!macy of first sεxμal relationship won’t last more than six months.
3. Couples who want what is best for their relationship or future marriage will have the patience to wait.
4. Most of the time, when a girl gives away her virg!nity, she assumes the relationship will last forever. But study of more than 10,000 women shows that when a girl loses her virg!nity at that age at 14, she’ll probably have about thirteen more lifetime sεxμal partners.
5. Teen s’εx frequently causes tension within families because of the dishonesty that usually accompanies the hidden int!macies. Relationships with friends are often strained, and when things turn sour, the gossip and social problems often become unbearable.
6. Everyone talks about how hard it is to say no to s’εx, but no one tells you how hard it is when you say yes.
7. It is dangerous for a teenage girl to be sεxμally active. Because a teenage girl’s reproductive system is still immature, she is very susceptible to sεxμally transmitted diseases.
8. In fact, early sεxμal activity is the number one risk factor for cervical cancer, and the second is multiple sεxμal partners. A girl’s body, like her heart, is not designed to handle multiple sεxμal partners.
9.While a girl might plan on slεεping with only one guy, she could be exposing herself to the STDs of hundreds of people through a single act of intεrcoμrsε. Here’s how: Scientists studied the sεxμal activity of a public high school of about one thousand students. About half (573) of the students had been sεxμally active, and most of them had only been with one partner. However, when the scientists
tracked the web of sεxμal activity among the students, it was discovered that more than half of the sεxμally active teens—without knowing it were linked together in a network of 288 partners within the school! So if a girl slept with a guy from this school, theoretically she could be in bεd with one-fourth of the entire student body.
10.The emotional side effects of premarital s’εx are also damaging to a young woman. One of the most common consequences of teenage sεxμal activity is depression. Girls who are sεxμally active are more than three times as likely to be depressed as girls who are abstinent. In fact, the condition has become so predictable that the Journal of Preventive Medicine recommends to doctors: “[Girls who are engaging in] sεxμal intεrcoμrsε should be screened for depression, and provided with anticipatory guidance about the mental health risks of these behaviours. ”Even if a girl experiments with s’εx once, research shows an increased risk of depression. Also, consider the fact that the rate of suicide attempts for sεxμally active girls (aged twelve to sixteen) is six times higher than the rate for virg!ns.
11. Unfortunately, many young women search for meaning only in relationships with guys, instead of with God. It is not uncommon for a girl to have s’εx in order to make a guy like her more or to encourage him to stay with her. She may compromise her standards because she is afraid of never being loved. Once he leaves her, though, an emotional divorce takes place. A person’s heart is not made to be that close to a person and then separated.
12. Since teenage sεxμal relationships rarely last, the girl’s sense of self-worth is often damaged. She may conclude that if she looked better, he would have stayed longer. This mentality can lead to harmful practices, such as eating disorders. Or the disappointment she feels may drive her into a state of self-hatred. Some young women even begin to hurt their own bodies in an attempt to numb the emotional pain. Such practices never solve the problems, though. If she wants to be loved, she needs to begin by loving herself.
13. In her heart, a girl who has been used knows it. However, she may immediately jump into another sεxμal relationship to escape the hurt. If she tries to boost her self-esteem by giving guys what they want, then her self-worth often ends up depending upon those kinds of relationships. Her development as a woman is stunted because without chastity she does not know how to express affection, appreciation, or attraction for a guy without implying something sεxμal. She may even conclude that a guy does not love her unless he makes sεxμal advances toward her. She knows that s’εx exists without int!macy, but she may forget that int!macy can exist without s’εx. A girl on this track usually feels accepted initially, but that acceptance lasts only as long as the physical plεasμrε.
14. Such a lifestyle will also take its toll on her ability to bond. Here’s why: Sharing the gift of s’εx is like putting a piece of tape on another person’s arm. The first bond is strong, and it hurts to remove it. Shift the tape to another person’s arm, and the bond will still work, but it will be easier to remove. Each time this is done, part of each person remains with the tape. Soon it is easy to remove because the residue from the various arms interferes with the tape’s ability to stick.
15. The same is true in relationships, because neurologists have discovered that previous sεxμal experiences can interfere with one’s ability to bond with future partners. This does not mean that if a person is not a virg!n on the wedding night, he or she will be unable to bond with a spouse. It simply means that when we follow God’s plan, we have the most abundant life possible. But when we turn from his designs and break his commandments, often we are the ones who feel broken afterwards.
16 Spiritual. Sin cuts us off from God, and this is the most serious consequence of premarital s’εx. After going too far, many of us know all too well the cloud of guilt that weighs on our hearts. The solution is not to kill our conscience but to follow it to freedom. It is calling us, not condemning us. Provided we repent, God will be there to welcome us home and let us start over.

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Re: A Must Read: 16 Lessons I Learnt From Losing My Virg Inity by Famoustemmy(m): 11:50pm On Sep 23, 2015
Nice Post...
You guys should all learn..

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Re: A Must Read: 16 Lessons I Learnt From Losing My Virg Inity by Nobody: 11:52pm On Sep 23, 2015
Famoustemmy:
Nice Post...
You guys should all learn..

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Cc: Ishilove
Baba calm down, it's stale!
Re: A Must Read: 16 Lessons I Learnt From Losing My Virg Inity by jaymejate: 11:53pm On Sep 23, 2015
Then i think u lost ur Virgin ity at age 16 tongue
Re: A Must Read: 16 Lessons I Learnt From Losing My Virg Inity by Nobody: 11:59pm On Sep 23, 2015
Fact is, this was lifted off a white website, probably American. Also, you should know that statistics show that 60 percent of statistics are wrong grincheesygrincheesy. Wha do u say about that
Re: A Must Read: 16 Lessons I Learnt From Losing My Virg Inity by nerdfrost(m): 2:06am On Sep 24, 2015
Still some dumb gals will lose their virginity 2dae angry
Re: A Must Read: 16 Lessons I Learnt From Losing My Virg Inity by donTbone(m): 8:13am On Sep 24, 2015
Re: A Must Read: 16 Lessons I Learnt From Losing My Virg Inity by youngsahito(m): 5:51pm On Sep 24, 2015
jaymejate:
Then i think u lost ur Virgin ity at age 16 tongue
I'm still a virgin by lucky
Re: A Must Read: 16 Lessons I Learnt From Losing My Virg Inity by jaymejate: 9:21pm On Sep 24, 2015
youngsahito:
I'm still a virgin by lucky
congrats to us
Re: A Must Read: 16 Lessons I Learnt From Losing My Virg Inity by youngsahito(m): 8:12am On Sep 25, 2015
jaymejate:

congrats to us
lolz but m praying 4 dat day to come to pass soon
Re: A Must Read: 16 Lessons I Learnt From Losing My Virg Inity by youngsahito(m): 8:13am On Sep 25, 2015
jaymejate:

congrats to us
lolz... but m praying 4 dat day to come to pass soon

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