wasak:
We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls

godwil114:
go Bleep ur self....

Harbosede02:
It's obvious u love her and U've shown it to her too much that shez nw taking it all for granted.... Y nt try the I don't care attitude some time,make her realise ur life doesn't depend on the relationship(even if it does)let her knw u av so many options.

Jayne07:

I can relate

midolian:
your stubborness still better na.

johnson232:

This is real weakness, did u offend her?
Is she your first love?
How old are u?
U sound too soft.

wasak:
Thanks to everyone who has his /her time to reply to my post. I feel better now, most of the suggestions here are to the effect that I should call off the relationship. I've thought about that severally, I'm wary of taking a decision like this while I still feel hurt, sometimes I feel like I'm seeing all these faults because I'm angry, who gets my drift here? So I think I'll allow myself cool off, when all things are equal and my head is cleared, I'll take a rational decision. More suggestions are actually welcome

Slimzjoe:


Talking to her won't work.....Am very sure of that

wasak:

I've tried, I've held myself for a whole week without any form of communication with her, but that was d highest I could go, we settled and she promised to adjust, as it is now I perceive she's incorrigible, it's either i accept her that way, or I take a walk. But I'm also scared of her falling into the wrong hands....

telad:
@Op, remember when we where all young and wanted that bicycle so much as if our next breath depended on it. We cry n cry, some got theirs n others didn't, guess what... I belong to d latter n I didn't die today.

Such is life, it's a phase n u will outgrow it. Let her go, I promise u fresh breath after your one week break up stamina.

My younger bro chased a gal for 2years, he won't eat until I talked to d gal. d gal will accept n say good stuff in my presence, and kick my bro in d but with her melancholy attitude. I tried putting him tru d basis of dating n seduction, he wud not follow. I started eating his food n gave up on him, I told him point blank that if u r gonna die cos of a gal, I will eat your food n hope your fasting works.

He finally broke up (though wasn't easy for him) but he didn't die cos he started taking his meals Lolsss.

4months later, d gal called n discussed at length with him, called 3 times. He wanted to call back, I told him not to. He said that's not fair n I ask him if life or d gal has been fair. In short d gal begged n begged, got d relationship back but den my bro eye/love don kpemeh. He learned a lot n has really improved greatly in his love life, I apologized for being too hard on his behind then n we laughed over it.
Sorry @Op for d epistle but just for u to got the picture.

PULL N PUSH is d game with ladies, too much of either will bring pain, strive for a balance. Your problem is excessive PULL.

wasak:
We started dating in 2011 after a year of asking her out. I just love her naturally not for anything. Admittedly, her stubbornness might be partly due to my over pampering at the initial stage of our relationship, I was naive but I think 4 years is actually a long time for the love to be balanced. At every point in time she claims she loves me more, but no evidence whatsoever to show for it. I don't want to venture into crazy things I've done for her, that's a story for another day.
It appears she takes delight in frustrating me due to my simple nature, actually I can be stubborn too, but not with regards to relationship because I believe it's all about compromise. She's inconsiderate and selfish, always wants to have her way at all time even though I have to sacrifice my convenience for her umpteen times. I'm scared of settling down with a woman who'll finally kill me, I love her no doubt. But it appears love is not enough. Someone talk to me pls

KittenPaws:
it's simple. She is ONLY in the relationship for financial and material gain. I'll be damned if i ignore someone i claim to love for an entire day just because i'm "angry". I hate to be the bearer of bad news but your gf does not love you. simple.

OP, you are young, early 20's, you literally have your ENTIRE life ahead of you.. Please dump the idiot you call a gf. Stay single a while and be happy and comfortable with yourself as a single man. The right woman will NEVER make you feel the way your current gf is making you feel.

It's time to wake up and move on!

wasak:

For two days now she has not been replying my messages. Irony of life, a phone I bought for her

wasak:

For two days now she has not been replying my messages. Irony of life, a phone I bought for her